What is the effect of my boyfriend (30's) threatening to break up with me every time we argue have?
There are things that my wife could do that would cause me to break up with her, and there are things I could do that would cause her to break up with me. We love and respect both each-other and ourselves enough to have established reasonable limits in our marriage. If we used “I’ll break up with you” as a part of normal arguments, we’d be demonstrating to the other that we’re in a power struggle and are resorting to abusive tactics that will ultimately be to the detriment of our marriage.Maybe he'll take it more seriously if read from people other than me.He won’t. He knows exactly what he’s doing and me telling him will accomplish absolutely nothing. But here’s what I’ll do: Just for him, I’ll let you know what I’d say to him in person, assuming the allegations are true. I’ve made some slight modifications in order to be in line with BNBR.I hope you get this sorted out.
HELP!!! My girlfriend is threatening to break up with me over something soooo stupid...?
My girlfriend goes to college a ways away and I only get to see her one weekend a month (maybe 2 if its a holiday month). She asked me about a month ago if I watched porn and I was honest with her and said yes because I get really horny when I don't see her. She flipped **** and made me agree not to watch it anymore. Well I ended up watching it every few days (btw I'm not addicted to it, I just get horny and would rather see naked women than use my imagination) and she asked me about it again last night on skype. Well I am a horrible liar (I smirk when I'm guilty) and she knew I was lying. We got into a huge fight about it the whole night and everything and she thinks porn is horrible, a form of cheating, is definitely not ok in marriage and still not ok in a relationship...blah, blah, blah. Then she sent me a text after I had fallen asleep saying that if I kept looking at it, our relationship wasn't going to work out. WHAT THE HELL?! Over something I do in my own time that in no way, shape, or form affects her being?! What should I do?
What do I do when my boyfriend threatens to breakup everytime we fight?
We have been together for 3 years. We are very much in love and when things are good, their great. But, when we get in an argument he threatens to break up every time. The worst part is that I still believe that he is breaking up with me, so I go into a bad depression and don't know how to come out of it.
Every fight me and my boyfriend get into he threatens breaking up with me what do i do?
It might not be a bad thing.In fact, if you view the psychology involved in a more profound manner you will find that he mention breaking up with you because he treats his relationship with you very seriously. Also, he may abhor the way he treated you or malign you and lost his dignity to patch up with you. Because he found out that he was the one at fault. And similarly, you could be the one at fault too, but because he was greatly hurt that is why he suggested breaking up.Cherish your relationship with your boyfriend a relationship that can last 5years is not easy to come about.
My girlfriend threatens to break up with me all the time?
She seems very...Manipulative. I would suggest breaking up with her before she does any damage. Any woman that suspicious of the man she loves...Isn't much of a girlfriend. Remind her of who you are and sort this out before your relationship becomes the Titanic. And sinks to the bottom of the Ocean. (Sorry for that unnecessary metaphor...) I believe that you should end this relationship next time she threatens to break up with you, if she's going to play with your heart like that she don't deserve you, homie.
My boyfriend threatens to break-up after fights sometimes. Is it possible to ever trust someone who would even (even for a second) consider leaving you?
Frankly saying, I can’t live with a partner like that.This, in my eyes, is just simply unacceptable.Fights are normal, and anyone denying this is either afraid to accept it or haven’t been in a fight. Everyone knows it. Every person has their own perspective and ideology. So when two people are living together, there are bound to be some disagreements. But that just doesn’t give anyone right to threaten them with a break up.Although they have the right, to leave from a relationship, and I don’t see a problem with a person who backs out from a relationship which he thinks isn’t working out. I would just happily agree and move on (obviously not that much easily as I said). But if my partner threatens to leave me after every fight we have, I would be the one backing out of the relationship. I wouldn’t be giving threats or I wouldn’t blackmail her about not saying this again and again, I would just simply back out. Why?Because clearly it wasn’t working out. Almost everyone in a relationship have disagreements and fights, but accept this fact, clear all the disagreements and move on. Making a scene out of it and specially THREATNING your partner because you two had a disagreement is just stupid, and I can’t live with a stupid girl. At least not for long term.If a person thinks that they shouldn’t be in a relationship, then just end that. Don’t make threats. It may work as a temporary short term solution but it isn’t a long term solution.And looks like if a person does this, he have already made up his mind about breaking up and is just trying to find some excuses to do that. He will leave you today or tomorrow.So why don’t take the initiative in your own hands and break up already. At least you won’t feel that it was your partner who broke up with YOU. Instead you broke up with HIM because it wasn’t simply working out.
My boyfriend always threatens me with a break-up which he knows I don't want. What should I do?
What Does It Mean if Your Boyfriend Keeps Threatening to Break Up?There are several reasons your boyfriend could threaten to break up with you. None of them are good and there is rarely a positive outcome. These threats simply do not exist in a relationship worth having. It is manipulation designed to put you at a disadvantage. Someone with your best interest in mind would never employ such a tactic.He Is ImmatureThis is the grownup version of a 10-year-old who threatens to run away from home. Chances are he was a spoiled child who got his way with tantrums. Now he is using them on you. Some people threaten to leave when asked to take responsibility for bad behavior, according to the website for Abuse and relationship He may outgrow this nonsense, but you are under no obligation to wait around for that. Your next move should probably be to take your toys and go home.He Is InsecureHe wants to feel more secure by making you less secure. This is his way of getting your constant reassurance that you want him to stay. Unfortunately, no one has ever told him that security comes from within. The continual maintenance of his emotions will become exhausting for you. This is very difficult behavior to change. Eventually you will have to decide if this behavior is acceptable to you.He Is ManipulativeHe has found a tool that gets you to do what he wants and is using it. Your option? Cut and run. This will not get better. If you stop responding to the threat of leaving, he will simply find something else. He does not respect you and that is a problem. A manipulator does not make a good partner. He finds pleasure in making you submit. Get a firm grip on your self-respect and walk away; no threat necessary.He Is AbusiveThe Counseling and Consultation Service at Ohio State University lists threatening to leave as a sign of emotional or psychological abuse. It is a power play. An abuser is skilled at making you dependent on him. His goal is to make you vulnerable. The threat to leave is meant to instill fear. He uses it to make you feel responsible for anything negative in the relationship. Take this very seriously and get help.