My husband won't help me with our newborn baby...what should I do?
My newborn is 2 months old now and I had the same problem with my husband (including the video games!) It was certainly annoying as we already have children (this is my fourth and his second) and I remember him being more helpful before. Finally one day I told him we needed to sit down and talk because it was stressing me out. And yes, I deserved help since I never get to leave work! There is no reason he can't help out a bit. This is what he said to me. Mostly he didn't help out because he didn't really know what to do and didn't want to do something wrong. (Keep in mind he is a man and for whatever reason they don't have the natural instinct we do to pick up a baby when they are crying and FIX IT) It wasn't that he wanted to play games instead of help or really that he was tired after work (although I got that excuse a lot) It all came down to ---I don't know how. So we sat down and I did a little baby 101 with him and now he helps out more often. If you can't have this kind of conversatoin with your husband, then you might want to reconsider your marriage.. this is only the first hurdle and won't be your last. And by the way.. The huffing and puffing NEVER goes away. Mine still does it but I don't care. And sometimes the huffing and puffing is in our minds and not intentional. I've just learned to ignore it. Give him a little daddy confidence and he should shape right up
I don't get along with my mother in law, how do I keep my husband out of the middle of it all?
Really, I'm not going to go into detail about all the stupid things that make me not like my mother in law. The list is long. My question is more about my husband. I don't want him to get caught in the middle, and I try everything to keep him out of it, but, of course, he does get stuck there sometimes. The latest problem was that my MIL took my daughter without my permission or knowlege for 10 hours. I was frantic with worry when I woke up and found my daughter was gone. After my husband called his mother, and reamed her out, did she decide to drop her back off at home, after she agrued about it. Long story short, I was so mad at this woman, and freaked out about my missing kid, that I was yelling, screaming and in tears. My husband feels that I take out how mad I am at her on him. Which, I don't feel that I do. I'll admit, I am a shouter. When I get mad, I yell. Thats me. I don't yell at him, I don't blame him, I don't point fingers at him, I'm just mad at the situation. I can't talk to her and straighten this out. It has gone so far beyond that point. She refuses to talk to me, as she thinks she never does anything wrong. And of corse, my husband, in her eyes, is a saint. He really is a good guy, I don't have any complaints. I do love him dearly. However, the problems I have with her (and vise versa) are starting to stress him out a bit. He is very understanding, and always takes my side, and defends me to her. Its getting to be a strain, as she does stupid things almost daily. I don't complain about her constantly, and I'm not a ******. I'm not a winer, or overly sensitive. It's just when she does her constant interferring, and overstepping of the boundries, I get mad. What can I do to keep him from feeling torn between me and his mom? How can I be more sensitive about it all when it comes to him? I have no intention of playing nice with her, but what can I do to make it better for him? Any ideas?
My step-mother in law is upset over my daughters name?
I am a step-mother, but also have a son who has a step-mother through my 1st husband so i can kinda see either side here. my husband's ex wife passed away when my step-son was 5 and i've raised him as my own since that time. however i would NEVER dream of telling my step-son or his girlfriend/wife/partner what they could or couldn't name their children! I wouldn't do that to my biological children either, but then i'm very close w/my step-son, in fact i'd rather not refer to him as a "step-son" i call him my son, because he is....so i find her behavior towards you and your partner very aggressive and controlling and just icky! No wonder your boyfriend wants nothing to do with her! gag! i can tell you that it's very sad that your partner's step-mother thinks she can come plodding in and make waves about your baby. *YOUR BABY* don't forget that. if she wants to name something, tell her to go buy a puppy! This is your baby and your boyfriend's baby and those are the *ONLY* two opinions that matter and count. YOU made this little life, YOU will bring this little life into the world, and YOU will be raising this little bundle, so she (the step-mother) can go sit and spin! if she shows up for the shower and is uninvited, have someone else ask her to leave, do not permit her entry. if you're having the shower at a friend's house or parent's house, ask someone in your circle or friends or family to be the one to deny her access to the place where the shower is being held. if it's at a private location like a club or event center or something, let the staff know she is not welcome and should be turned away. if it's at a restaurant same thing- tell the wait staff and manager that she is not welcome. they will handle that. I think your names are nice and there shouldn't be any complaints from her about it! After all....it's reasonable for your boyfriend to want to honor his biological mother in that way and not his step-mother, esp considering their fractured relationship! even i wouldn't be offended if my step son wanted to use his mother's name over mine....i might have raised him, and love him dearly but he HAD a biological mother that is no longer living and i GET IT! it's honoring a loved one. it's nothing to get ones knickers in a twist over.
My husband wants to name our next child "Jedi" - HELP?
My dear husband who is normally quite rational and very smart has decided he wants to name our next child "Jedi." Yes, as in Star Wars. I am all for an original name, but can you please give honest feedback on this? He thinks I'm not being original enough and asked me to post this for responses. I've (generously) offered to settle with it as a middle name. Realistically, this will NOT be our child's name, but I would just like him to hear from the general public on this. Preferably from someone who's parents named them something weird and how it's affected them.... To make matters more interesting, our last name is "Light." So we already have to be careful with certain names. (ie; Miller, for a boy and we liked Kendall for a girl, till you realize - Kendall Light sounds a lot like Candle Light) Give me some honest feedback to pass on to my hubby, so I'm not the bad guy! LOL Or if you like it, say that too...Thanks!!!
What is the relation between two wives of two brothers?
sisters in law once removed
Elijah. Your opinion on the name?
I had my second child last week and my husband and I wanted a biblical name for our child. Our first son is Joshua Daniel as we wanted my husbands initials which are DJ so my son is JD and my second son we named Elijah Israel. Elijah we loved the meaning and the name, meaning is Strength of the Lord and Israel means prince with God. My great grandmother probably hasn't got long to live and her name is Jacoba and Jacob means deceiver and in the Bible God changed Jacobs name to Israel so thats why we chose that. People haven't had nice comments on the name. Someone said to my mom who chose the name do they realise he has to go to school and I got kinda irritated by that comment so I just wondered what are your opinions on his name?
Interview questions for teen moms? please help!?
teen moms, or people that have had children young, please help us answer these questions. we need some feedback for a school project we're doing. it'd be greatly appreciated, 10 points to best answer! please leave your name and where you're from so we can use your name in our presentation! 1. how did you tell your parents and what did they say? 2. how did your tell your baby daddy, and what did he say? 3. did you ever consider any other options (abortion, adoption) and what made you choose to keep the baby? 4. what's the most difficult part about being a young mother? 5. does it effect school or work? 6. did your baby daddy stick around? 7. do you have any regrets about having sex at such a young age? 8. what do you think are the best ways to prevent teen pregnancy? if you have any additional info, please leave it here. thank you so much!
Is it a crime to put a man's name on a birth certificate when he is not the child's father, and he did not consent for his name to be put on the birth certificate?
Yes, but highly unlikely to be prosecuted unless she's silly enough to tell people she committed fraud.Back in the 80s the country I was living in was putting pressure on unwed mothers to name a father so that they could claim child support from them instead of relying on the state. The mother would sometimes name the richest guy in the village as the father so she'd get a better amount of child support.It would then be up to the guy to spend $1000 on a paternity test to prove that he wasn't the father. In the meantime, he'd still be paying child support, and child support isn't refundable under any circumstances (until that point, he is legally the father, with all that entails.)This is one of the legal loopholes where you can be made out of pocket by a significant amount for no fault of your own and no recourse to get it back.
How did you decide your child’s name?
I have 4 children and all of them were named in some part after something quirky.Ethan Raphael Ethan got his first name partially because I had never met or seen an unattractive Ethan in my life and thought that would be a good sign for him later in life. His middle name however was more meaningful as it was a combined with a couple of things. Originally my son was going to have a different name but he simply didn't fit it when I saw him. While I was at the hospital I was reading a book: "Unlocking the Seven Genuises of Leonardo DaVinci." In it it talked about DaVinci's interactions with this other punk artist of the Renassaince era: Raphael.But that's not entirely how it happened. When he was getting his first bath he scrunched up his face like a turtle. Immediately I thought of the Ninja Turtle and he became my own little turtle namesake since then. (Surprisingly he has not gotten sick of the Ninja Turtle toys and things he gets from time to time... yet)Maddox Connor- Maddox got his name for geeky reasons... I grew up reading the blog made by a guy with the acronym Maddox. It was terribly irreverent and hilarious and not something that I had heard any kid named yet.The Best Page In The Universe.Connor came because I was pregnant during the Lacy Peterson trial and that was the baby's name. Yes I admit that one is a weird one even for me but hey I just admitted to naming a kid after a Ninja Turtle and a web troll so...Sakura Faye-Sakura after the flowers which bloom at the time she was born and because I remembered seeing the name on my Gelly Roll pens (the most coveted pens ever when I was growing up) and always loved it.Faye is a reference to the Cowboy Bebop character Faye Valentine.and lastly my latest son...Jonas Caspian-His middle name (previously debated to be his first name) was originally supposed to be Hunter after Hunter S Thompson but, as much as I love his written work, I didn't want to name my kid after a drunk. Instead his middle name ended up becoming about as a reference to The Chronicles of Narnia's Prince Caspian character.So his first name? It's a Weezer reference of course. I joked about having it be in his birthing announcement but it never ended up happening. Nonetheless I thought him having a song he could use in intros would be kind of cool... that and Rivers Cumomo is also extremely attractive. (Note: his middle name almost was Rivers as well but I didn't want to overdo it with the Weezer references)