My husband is apparently addicted to porn.?
He actually lost his job of 20 years due to his problem, a year ago. I stuck with him though, because he expressed remorse. Yet since that time, I've confronted him on 4 seperate occastions now with evidence of porn sites that he's visited on the computer. Each time he expresses denial, then after being confronted with the evidence eventually he will agree that he did indeed visit the sites, and thinks that's the end of it. However this morning I found a total of 128 different porno movies he had watched on line in a matter of 3 weeks. He swore of his fathers grave and to god, that he hadn't been to any sites...and sure enough, he was bold face lying to me. Yet, he tells me how much he loves me, and I'm the best thing he's ever had in his life. I can't take this anymore, and due to legal ramafactions, I can't legally divorce without possibly having to move my children to another state to be closer to their father (which I do not want). I feel numb, no longer in love. Any suggestions?
So apparently my husband is too stressed to make love but not to look at girls in bikinis (3 half naked vids)?
We've been sexless for about 6-7 months. I first caught him spending 300 dollars on porn videos while we were apart (due to arguments) I decided to give us both a break to realize what's important. When I went back, everything was fine, I love yous, I miss you, cuddling but no intimacy. He was no longer approaching me. I brought this up in conversations and he would evade the subject. I let it go because he then told me the stress of his job was affecting him. He would get erections but wouldnt try to look for me. Then I discovered the video history of a girl in bikini, 2 girls in thongs with their bum on the camera, a wet tshirt video, and the same 1 girl on all three videos. I feel angry, disgusted, hurt and lied to. I am tempting to give a cute guy the chance to be with me. I'm so tired of this, I'm tired of wanting to be touch, feel like a woman. I dont believe in cheating but im just so sick of his lies. Any advice for me? im 24, no kids, and hormones are running.
My husband puts his daughter on a pedestal and I am apparently not worthy of that, any help?
She is an intelligent child and my husband and her are very condescending toward me and my child. He puts her on a pedastal and whatever she wants she eventually gets but yet he feels she is not spoiled. Example: We had a late night on a school night so we decided to eat something on the go that was non-expensive because the next night we were going out to eat as a family. My daughter wanted an $8.00 poboy I told her no that we were going to go eat out tomorrow night his daughter wanted Chinese food he told her no at first she kept on and he gave in he then turns to me and says whats the matter with you and I hadn't said anything. He gives in all the time to her and not my child!!!!!!!!!! He is very hard on my child all the while brushing off what his daughter does. On the weekends that he has her its never us as a family its always them doing what they want & screw us if we don't want that. They go to the same cheesy restaurant every Friday for her to sing Kareoke and we stay home.
How do I deal with a husband who disrespects my family?
Me and my mother had faced similar experiences. So I would like to share my opinion. I will not advice you to 'talk' to him, because its common sense that you have tried all the methods (and apparently failed) before you decided to post a personal issue on this platform. Besides i believe that your husband isn't dumb to not know and understand that his behaviour towards your family hurts you. Yet he continues to do that. Obviously he doesn't seem to care. Me and my mother faced similar issues. We chose to cut all contacts with our family. My mother didn't exchange even a single letter or phone calls with her family for more than six years because she was fed up of the constant comments my grandmother made about her family. I too do the same thing. My husband doesn't misbehave with my family but has anger issues and sometimes tends to lose his temper. I cut all contacts between him and my family and told him he would have to learn to behave if he wanted to maintain the relationship. If ever I wanted to visit my family I went alone. When I was living in a different city and I needed someone to a accompany me I skipped important family functions. I preffered to sacrifice some of my happiness rather than make my family suffer. We have to endure the issues we have with our husbands because sometimes we are left with no choice but its our duty to spare our families from insults and misbehaviour. Do they have to pay a price for loving their daughter? I don't believe that my family is obliged to suffer because they belong to the girls side.
My ex girlfriend is apparently pregnant with my baby, how do I move forward?
The same way my husband moved forward.He wasn't sure if the baby was his, since the girl he fathered a child with had a massively bad record of making her rounds. Having one of his friends live with her for a couple of months made it that much worse in his eyes.He had thought it would tear us apart because we were just getting together and she was still pregnant. We had a discussion that we both agreed we didn't want a relationship with someone with kids already. Just because of this didn't mean I was to up and leave. He was honest with me.Anyways….The baby was born. They arranged for a paternity test to take place. They did some shady online thing. Where she had admitted to testing other men too. There was no names on it so it wasn't good enough for him. Though it was shady he didn't want to neglect the child simply because her mother did shady things. We arranged to have her every other weekend. (We got 2 weekends then found out I was pregnant. Had an argument and he blurted that crap out to her. After several attempts of her trying to bust us up to try get something going with him) after the announcement of my pregnancy she flipped. Started the process of hitting him on child support. Demanding back pay.Back to my original point.If there's any doubt to get a paternity test then to start working out an arrangement if you would like to be in the childs life. Also you could discuss with her how you could help her. After all it takes two to make a baby. If she decides to have an abortion then you could offer to be there to support her. The best you could do is support her and you can move forward with your working. Having a kid with an ex is not the end of the world.
Should I castrate my ex husband?
I got married awhile back and my husband is apparently the most potent man on the face of the earth. We only had sex maybe 6 times and I got pregnant twice. We have two girls. Then after the 2nd one was born he didn't want to talk about protection and I decided to get on the pill since he was too lazy to get fixed but it solved other issues except our sex life as he decided to go out to a bar and knock up a waitress the one time they had sex and supposedly she was on the pill like I am. I divorced him and he had a son by that woman. They broke up then he immediately got remarried to his realtor when he bought his house and right after the sale he did it in the empty house and got her pregnant. That was a daughter. Then they were going through a tough time and my ex sister in law calls me and it turns out my husband slept with his sister and got pregnant. She decided to have the baby and is a little retarded boy. Now he won't pay any child support or talk to me. I can't afford a lawyer but I want to castrate my husband. We can't afford to get someone else knocked up.
My husband heard me talking about him and now he's mad.?
I was kinda complaining to my friend about my husband sleeping in and the hole he put in the kitchen wall by accident. Apparently my husband had woken up and heard all of what I said. He got very upset. I understand why he is upset, and I apologized profusely. He then had to leave for work, but he told me he was fine and even was joking with me. When he came home for lunch, he was visibly upset. I asked what was wrong, and he said he decided that he was still angry with me and had debated even coming home because he would have to see me. I gave him space since he clearly didn't want to talk to me and made him lunch, which he refused to eat. He then stormed off in a rage after our 15 month old was messing with a chair in the kitchen, declaring he had to get out of here. I don't really know how to fix this situation. I know I was wrong and will not be doing that again, but now he won't even talk to me. What should I do?