My husband found out that my daughter has a period? His reaction... normal?
My daughter is 13 and has had her period for about 9 or 10 months now. She told me but we did not tell her father because she chose not to. "Its a girl thing not a girl and dad thing" is what she told me haha. Her father found out the other day when he saw that she had written "pads" on the grocery list. He freaked out! He said to me "Oh my god Alisha. She is becoming a woman. She is physically able to get pregnant now! What are we going to do?!?! O my god!" he just kept going on about how teens are dumb and make mistakes all the time. We got pregnant at 16 so hes really worried. I tried telling him that no matter what we do its not going to make her not have a period. You had to expect this. Shes a girl. Would you or your husband freak out this much?? (He recommended throwing out her bikinis and all makeup and deodorant to make boys not like her but I said no lol)
My daughter found out that my husband and I are practicing polyamory and is not happy about it. What do I do?
The first question that came to my mind was “how did they find out?”If your teen walked in on a situation that required explaining, it probably isn’t really about being polyamorous, but about feeling lied to.Imagine you have lived fourteen years believing that your parents have a great, very traditional, relationship. Maybe there is pride in them for that, with so many families having troubles. Maybe it was part of their identity, an identity that they are currently struggling with because of puberty and developmental awareness. Imagine being confused about your self and your identity (as is PERFECTLY NORMAL for this age) and you find out that your rocks.. the foundation of how you understand yourself, is suddenly very very different. I would first try to establish the root of the problem, because while learning that your parents in are in a non traditional relationship is jarring (especially if you have been hiding it for years.. no judgement on that, I have kids, I get it). Add to that feeling lied to your entire life. And don’t forget, teens feel things MUCH more deeply than adults. It is one of the reasons I hate the term “puppy love” when teens are in a relationship.. believe me, whether you think it is real or not.. it feels very real. Maybe more real than things outside of themselves.I could be way off base here and had to make a lot of assumptions in this answer that I am aware could be wrong. If so, I would be happy to answer again another time if you provide more information.As far as your relationships, it is none of their business, just like the workings of your relationship with your spouse is none of their business. Avoid giving too much detail when discussing this. Keep it simple, not because they aren’t smart enough to understand, but because you are teaching them something very important about boundaries right now, so be a good example of healthy boundaries.Good luck, I hope that things have calmed down a bit.
My husband and I found out that my 19 year old daughter has been having sex.?
She doesn't think that this is a problem. She has know the boy since she was 14 and had been steadily dating him for more than a year now. Because of this and the fact that she is on birth control plus they used a condom and he pulled out, she doesn't see the problem. We prohibited her from talking to or seeing him for three weeks in attempts to separate them, but she remains persistent on seeing him. We allow them to talk over the phone now, but they are still not allowed to see each other. She has been completely miserable, but my husband and I would just worry too much that they will have sex again if we allow them to see each other again. In the fall, the two of them will be going to the same college and we do not know how to handle this. We have considered making her switch schools, but that seems a little extreme. What should we do?
My husband just found out he has a 15 year old daughter?
Ok...Long story short. This lady has just told my husband that he has a child who is now 15 years old. What are the legal aspects of this? He never had any clue and she is threatening that she wants back child support. Can this be done being that he was never informed from the get go about the child?
My husband just found out he has a child?
leave. you're not ready for kids and it would be a disservice to the boy and your husband for you to stay. forget fulfill your vows, you discussed kids and they weren't to come til later. I'd not stay if I weren't ready for kids. it doesn't make you a bad person but your husband may feel it's his fault you left because he has a child, even though nobody had any control over the situation. do not be pressured into this. there is a chance you may like the change the child brings, you never know. my husband is a child of nearly the same circumstances and he did not fair well. his step mother wasn't ready and he was the one who suffered. not saying you'll be like that but I'm thinking she didn't think she would either. she was 20 when she was pressured into "fulfilling her vows" by her family and she resented it and it grew into hate. she was a newlywed and her husband was 30 and he didn't know he had a child til my husband was a year old and his mother was committed to an asylum. I say leave, I'm sorry your situation is an unfortunate one.
What should I do to my daughter when I just found out that she is on Roblox without permission?
Take her electronics away. I don’t even understand why parents have to ask these questions. Its like adults have forgotten how to parent. Delete her Roblox accounts first then the apps. Clear the history cache to get rid of saved links then actually talk to her about what is allowed and what is not. Make rules about electronics use and consequences for breaking rules. And follow up when she actually disobeys. Be a parent for goodness sake. You should have done this years ago.
My wife found out that our daughter is pregnant and planning to marry her boyfriend at the age of 16. This angered my wife resulting in her kicking our daughter out of the house. What should I do?
Bring your daughter back because what is done is done. Have a family meeting to heal the relationship of your wife and daughter. Mom will be ok after the friends and family members show that they could care less.It happened with me, I was 16 and it was my first boyfriend. I married that guy because of my mom. Dad said before he took me down the aisle that I can stop the wedding, that I did not have to do it. I wished I had listened to daddy.Make sure she does not marry yet but finishes school. Do not ban her from seeing him. The family needs to talk about the future of your daughter, him and the baby. How does he plan to take care of the child? Let it be known to him he has to take care of your daughter and the child. He has to get insurance for them now. Man up.Keep things stress-free with her because from now until about a year after she has the baby, that will be a big lesson in life like she never ever could have imagined. You don’t have to say a word. She will tell you “Dad, Mom, I’m sorry!” Just love her. That baby is gonna melt you and your wife’s heart. May God bless you with a healthy, happy grandchild.As for my ex-husband, …he turned out to be a lying, cheater, lost his job, stop caring for his family to chase loose women. He later remarried and lived a lie with his second wife until police had to remove them from their luxury home kicking and screaming. He had lied to his 2nd family for years and they caught him.He is not walking around with prostate cancer he claims. Not in good shape at all. So… I just hope this young man turns out to be a class act. It can happen as it did with my ex-husbands' sister and her husband. They have a great marriage still. Keep God in the center of it all and it will be great. Praying for the best for all of you.