What do I do if my husband doesn't like my best friend?
My husband doesn't like my best friend. She doesn't really like him either. When my husband and I were dating we were having some hard times. She was trying to help me get over him and move on. Well he found out and now hates her. Plus when my husband and I split during this hard time I dated her boyfriends friend. Well then everything worked out with my husband and I so we got back together. So the reasons he don't like her is because she tried to help me get over him and show me I deserve better. Plus, I dated one of the guys she is friends with. He doesn't want me to hang out or talk to her anymore. I did it for awhile but I miss her. I miss the friendship we had and having a female to talk to. My husband is mad and I am scared that if I am friends with her it will bite me in the butt later. Plus it didn't help when she didn't go to my bachlorette/bachlor part because she wanted to be with her boyfriend and lied saying she had to work. Plus she skipped out on our wedding because she said she had to work. She showed up but didn't stay. That hurt but I figure its in the past. We all do stuff that we wish we could take back. So I forgave her and she forgave me for not talking to her. So now everything is back to normal except my hubby being mad at me. I have no other friends at all. And I am not lying there. She has been friends with me since 5th grade. What do I do. I want my best friend back but I don't want to make my hubby mad becasue of the reprecutions that it may bring. So what do I do. What is the esy way to go about this?
My husband hates my best friend?
So ive been really good friends with this guy since before i started dating my husband, about 5 years ago. this guy is a really good friend of mine, we tell each other everything. my husband doesn't like him because after we started dating he would ask me for naked pictures and stuff so i wouldn't hang out with him a lot but we still talked. Ive always stuck up for my friend, telling my husband that hes not that bad and hes just a really good friend that has been in my life for a while. and my husband said you can hang out with him but i wont like it very much. But lately my friend has been asking me to have sex with him, saying my husband will never find out and to send him naked pics and telling me things he wants to do to me which totally grosses me out! im not attracted to him in ANY way and never have been. He always asks if ill have sex with him and asks how good he looks and i just don't answer. I want to stay friends with him but im thinking my husband has been right about him the whole time! he doesn't seem to understand im MARRIED! and hes in love with me and has been since before i got married but hes never done stuff like this before and its really starting to piss me off! so should i stop talking to him? like I said hes been my best friend for 5 years and we know everything about each other..so idk what to do! please help, thanks!
My husband hates my friend?
This is a difficult question though it may seem simple. I have been in a similar situation. my girlfriend of 11 yrs, has a friend. This friend has had many issues in her life. She has picked the wrong friends for a long time. a couple of months ago she asked us to babysit her 2 children, for a few hours, while she went out with her friends. We agreed with no hesitation we understand being a single mom you need time to yourself occasionally. She went out and didn't come back we called her several times with no answer. she returned our call the next morning and said she would be there shortly to pick them up. 3hrs later she arrived. my gf was very upset, as was I. But I try to understand that my gf is probably the only decent influence in this girls life right now. so for me to be angry is acceptable and expected, but for me to tell her that if she remains her friend i will leave her. why would i ruin my relationship with my gf because of someone else. I don't want her to feel like i am trying to control her and i trust her judgment when she decides she isn't gonna be her friend anymore i will support her if she never stops being friends with her i support her with that too. What i would do if I were you is explain to him how you feel, and let him know that he should not be so willing to give up on you so easily.
My husband hates my best friend?
I've been married to my husband for the past 5 years, and I've only seen my best friend one time since then. Let me clear it up for you. My best friend, who I've known since Kindergarten, is a flamboyant gay guy. And my husband hates his openness about it. When I say he's a flaming homosexual, I mean it. My husband especially hates him because he's preformed in unprotected sex and contracted AIDS. I'm sad about it. I cried when Tyler told me he had that. Then I chewed him out for being so stupid and not protecting himself. When I talk to my husband about my friend, he talks very rudely of him. The funniest thing is, they've never met in person. My husband just simply hates him because he's flamboyant. My husband doesn't care that he's gay, it's just that my husband and I share a facebook page, and Tyler always leaves me gay comments. Sexually suggesting his own sexual preference, on our page via picture memes and such. My husband hates it and actually removed him from our friends list and blocked him. :( But yet he can have ex girlfriends of his as our current friends on facebook? It's confusing and unfair to me. I don't know why my husband hates Tyler. It honestly doesn't go any further than that though. They know almost nothing of each other. Why do you think my husband hates my best friend?
My husband hates my friends?
A little background: while I was on the East Coast in February, one of my friends called me up to tell me she'd heard a rumor that my husband had cheated on me. So I promptly called him to ask him about it. He got majorly pissed off and accused my friend of starting the rumor. When she told him who she had heard it from he flipped out. Ok, so now he is speaking to *those* people again, but he still is rude to my friend every time he sees her. The other day we saw my friend & her partner at the state fair and he was super rude to both of them (I was in the bathroom). He is always making snide comments about them being "fakers". Now she is no longer my friend. What should I do? How can I make my husband apologize to her? Because he won't. I don't understand why he blames *her* for the rumor when she wasn't even the one who started it! -- As for the cheating, he said he didn't and I believe him...this time.
My husband hates my best friend, what should I do?
hello Well, it sounds like you truly have a good realtionship with your husband however, it's also very obvious aside of your friend's mannerisms she's a pretty loyal friend. Perhaps your husband is jealous of your sharing EVERYTHING with her. If you need to talk to your friend, don't share it with your husband, she's your friend and your conversation is private. On the other hand, your husband, should be close enough to understand everything you need and desire. So, try opening up to him and share with him how much you miss her, perhaps he will lighten up a little, explain how important it is to YOU that your son meet with her. At any rate, God Bless and bests wishes........................
My husband hates that i have male friends?
When my husband and i met i told him from the start that most of my friends are male. I've always been like that, well he always acts like he's better than them whenhe meets them. I started a new job over a year ago and got to know a guy at work, I didn't keep it from my husband,i told him right away and even introduced them. Well my husband calls him a asshole and other things, and there is no reason for it, he doesn't even know him. I told him that if he got to know him he would like him and he still refuses. He was like this with all my friends until he got to know them. The thing that pisses me off the worst it that i had to like his friends from the start, they were his friends and i has to deal with it. How do i explain to him that it bothers me that i have to bust my butt for him to get to know his friends. I feel like everything i say doesn't matter, he gets so defensive. and it hurts me because i've tryed everything............PLEASE HELP ME
I hate my husbands friends?
This is a tough one. Because I see sevearal things happening here.... 1) Your husband does ask you if it's okay. 2) If he knows you have a problem, he's disrespecting YOUR feelings anyway. 3) He's hoping you'll just 'accept' the situation. 4) The real problem......him being hung over the next day.... I am concerned - are these two friends CAUSING him to drink more? Or was he a drinker before? And does he perform well at work the next day or does he stay home 'sick' after he's partied and has this become a problem. 5) I sense your fear about these two men wanting to whoop it up with your hubby like a 'single guys' night gathering that's become some sort of 'habit.' Regardless of any of this.......you need to talk. Communication is key - even if you think you are not good at explaining your feelings. Perhaps counseling is in order.....so there is a neutral party to hear both sides and help you communicate what you want to say and help him communicate, too. There are issues here...... if you both cannot discuss this openly without fighting. Perhaps both of you are feeling like you need some of your spirit back. This happens in a marriage. Both people think they have made sacrifices to the point they've lost 'a part of themselves.' You probably feel this way... that you don't do this type of behavior with YOUR friends, so why should he do this?! He probably feels he needs to do this (because he doesn't know what else to do) to recapture some part of his past with these two friends...... a piece of him that no longer exists in this life. You probably feel that you're doing everything you can to hold this marriage together, allowing him to 'find himself' - but are probably wondering when is HE going to ask about YOUR feelings and respect them. I think that seeing both a counselor and trying to go to an Alcoholics Anonymous Meeting together is a good start. And only good communication from there will be revealing as to what unfolds from there. Do know one thing.... you both have feelings and you both have the right to feel what you feel --- but the compromises MUST be equal. You both need to be happy. And that's the bottom line. Blessings to you!!!! Good luck.
How do I stop caring that my husband's best friend's wife hates me?
Sounds to me that you don't like her, actually . But she's in your social group, so just be pleasant to her , and detach a bit. You're not going to like everyone , and vice versa.If she talks shit about others whom you like, just tell her that you don't want to hear about it because these are your friends . Set a boundary.
My best friend is a married woman and her husband hates me for hugging her and going to the gym, raves, and gaming with her. As a single guy, how can I deal with him?
Boundaries, where are all the boundaries?!You can’t “deal with him,” except to show him the politeness and civility that is due your friend’s spouse. If you begin to hate him in return, you might have to start limiting time with your friend in order to avoid him.Your friend’s marriage is her own to negotiate. You are not involved in it at all.Your friend is a grown woman. She can decide with her husband whether hugging, going to the gym, or having hobbies with other opposite-sex friends is something they want to do in their married life. You’re blaming her husband for him not liking her to spend time with you, but this is not actually about you or him, it’s about her: her priorities, and the agreements she makes. You can let her know how you feel and what you wish for, but you don’t get any say in her choices.If your friend - your best friend - makes agreements with her husband that begin to exclude you from her life, it’s okay to feel hurt and to rethink the friendship. You’re a grown man, too, and you have a duty to protect your emotional well-being. If she ends up not being available for a very close friendship anymore, then I think it makes sense for you to grieve that loss.So my advice amounts to: 1. Be honest with your friend that you would like to remain close with her; 2. Prepare yourself to not get what you want; and 3. Stay out of her negotiations with her husband. This may be cold comfort, but one of the things I like best about polyamory is that there is no expectation that opposite-sex friends will disappear into the woodwork after a person becomes partnered. Every time I hear a polyamorous person called “flaky,” I think of ^this situation. Who is more flaky: the person who can maintain and invest in their relationships, or the person who consistently says, “Bye, I have a girlfriend/boyfriend now so we can’t hang out any more”? So you have my sympathy, Asker, but really, this isn’t about you or up to you. Let your friend work on her marriage and in the meantime, scout out other gym/rave/gaming partners. Diversify your friend group. Good luck! I hope the two of you get to stay close.