How do i stop my cat peeing in the kitchen?
1. It is imperative to evaluate and rule out a medical cause for the problem. Have your cat checked thoroughly by your veterinarian first. 2. Remove covers from litter boxes. 3. Give the cat a choice of litter types. Cats generally prefer unscented clumping litter with a medium to fine texture. 4. Scoop at least once a day. Once a week, clean the entire box with warm water (no soap) and completely replace litter. 5. Clean “accidents” thoroughly with an enzymatic cleanser designed to neutralize the odor. 6. If the cat is soiling around just a few spots in the home, place litter boxes there. If it is not possible put a box in one of these spots, place the cat’s food bowl, water bowl, bed, and/or toys in the area to discourage elimination. 7. Offer different types of litter in boxes placed side-by-side to allow the cat to demonstrate his preferences for litter type.
My sister's house hasn't been cleaned in 3 years. I don't know how to help her, any suggestions?
This is my business. You need a good place to start. If your sister wants to improve her situation before your visit (this is key) you can get her started with baby steps that will give her a big bang for the buck. Think of the project in 3 parts. A beginning, to get inspierd, a middle, this is starting to feel good, an end, the finishing touches & maintenance. Ask her to focus for the next 2 or 3 days on getting rid of all the trash. First, all the garbage. Do a room by room search. Then all the recycling. All dirty dishes as close to the sink as possible. (More paper recycling later). If she makes progress with this, move onto laundry. If she doesn't have enough laundry baskets to handle it, sheer leaf bags are wonderful to sort into. Sort & put into containers until all laundry is collected. The quickest, cheapest solution is to take the works to a coin laundry with attendant. Load all the laundry into the washers. The attendant will dry & fold your wash for a small fee plus dryer cost. You can do something else instead of babysit the machines. If she can't get it all put away it can safely wait, folded in plastic bags. Have her make a daily attempt at the dishes. These 3 things are huge. After addressing the major "litter" a 3 or 4 hour visit from a cleaning service (2 people, 2 hours, maybe less) will make a huge impact at this stage. They can clean the windows, deep clean (or get a damn good start on it) the kitchen & bath, dust, vacuum & mop all floors. Splurge on an extra half hour to strip bed, vacuum & turn mattress, make up with fresh linens. From here go onto more sorting, purging, cleaning & maintenance if she's up to it. If she makes progress, a monthly or bi weekly cleaning date is motivating, a wonderful treat, & how sweet it is to not die a thousand deaths if someone shows up at your door. Great results can be had without outside help with some concentrated effort. Change your surroundings & watch the ripple effect! What a wonderful gift, your support for your sister. I wish you luck in your search for the right approach.
My dog whines so high pitched. How do I get hi to stop?
He's a german shepard mix and he's almost a year old. My friends have dogs around the same age that don't even come close to this sound. It sounds like he's trying to break the glasses in the kitchen. He does it all the time even when there's nothing wrong with him. Just put him in the cage and wait 4-10 minutes and you'll hear it. There's never anything wrong with him when he whines most of the time. I don't want him to stop whingin. ITS JUST THE SOUND. It makes me want to bang my head against a wall until I'm out-cold (I would never do that)
Parents: Is it fair to expect your children to contribute to housework without actually asking them?
I remember having this argument with my mother when I was twelve years old!The thing you have to remember, though, is that to a person who's running a household, keeping track of what needs to be done and who's supposed to be doing it is one of the chores. So if you say, "I'll do the dishes whenever you want, all you have to do is ask me," then her dinnertime to-do list looks like:Make lasagnaMake saladMake dessertSet tableClear tableMake sure Alix does the dishesMake sure Riley takes out the garbageSee? Assigning you that chore hasn't really made her list any shorter -- she still has to think about the chore and put effort into seeing that it's done. Multiply that by every hour of the day, every day of the week, and it's incredibly valuable if you can just remember your chores and do them without being asked.Even more valuable? Notice that something needs doing and do it without being asked.Develop these skills, and you'll make your mother happy now -- make your future roommates and/or romantic partners happy later -- and be a real find for any boss who's looking for employees who don't sit around waiting to be told what to do.
What are some of the problems faced by daughters-in-law from their mothers-in-law in India?
My mother in law was really sweet to me before marriage and even after it she always seemed a lovely lady to me until an entire year passed by n I realised how she is as a person. She is amazing at politics, twisting words for her own benefit, making everyone feel how much she does for them and just after a minute you can hear her secretly gossiping about you to her husband.She tells me things like I m dark, I have thin hair, broad shoulders, fat on lower part of my body etc and I wonder if all of this is true were your eyes closed when you chose me for your son. I was married when I was 23 ( that's another story) so I was a kid mentally, I didn't know cooking or managing house but within a year I learned everything so that I can take responsibility of the house and she doesn't have to work as she's old but she never loved me for it. She always find issues in my work and tells me how good her daughter is at everything and I am nothing in front of her. She keeps complaining to my husband that I think your wife doesn't want us to live with you guys when in reality I never even thought about it. She unnecessarily keeps crying till her son comes to know and tells him I behave badly with her and when I ask her to tell specific instance where I behaved badly she has no answer to it. My husband is blind in his parents love and doesn't want to see they manipulate him for their benefit even when he knows the truth.So, I had not gone to see my parents in 2 years of marriage because my in laws had an issue with it. This time I lost my cool, called her up and told her- I always wanted you and papa to live with us bcs I don't think parents should be abandoned when they need you the most and you people want me to leave my parents by not seeing them at all! I am not going to leave them and I am booking my tickets right now and stop me if you can. Yes I am dark, I don't have thick hair or whatever I love myself. You have a problem with it, deal with it. I love your son and I respect both of you but I won't do it at the cost of my self esteem. If you people can live with me in peace it's fine otherwise I am giving divorce to your son.After that, things have improved and nobody really tries to insult me. I think it's really important to speak for yourself about the inconvenience you are facing otherwise people take advantage of your goodness. Don't let anyone take you for granted. Ever.