My life keeps getting worse?
I feel like since 2004 my life just got worse and something was subtracted from my life each year. In 2013 I have lost all hope I feel really bad right now my life keeps getting worse I'm 20 I have no friends my family hates me and I'm always alone in my room while my rubs it in my face that my cousins go out and have good lives. My family never invites me out and have always hated me it's just not me everyone hates each other in my family. It's hard to make friends when I'm so different then others where I live. Everyone my age acts immature and like there still in high school. I'm different I listen to rock music read books and like a lot of things different. I don't look like a nerd at all though even though I am one I'm also straight edge which means I don't drink smoke, do drugs, drink, and I don't have sex with random girls. I just feel like I'll never get to go out and have fun where I live sucks I met cool people like me online but they live far and I don't feel like moving right now to a town where I could find a lot of friends. My city sucks I hate it so much I live in the Bay Area and it sucks it should be called the Shitty Area. Anyways I've been in a depression really bad because I have never had fun since 2004 my life keeps getting worse my family is worse to. I feel hopeless like I'll never find the right girl and friends. Girls where I live are whores that take 1000 pictures of themselves and act stupid and like bimbos who try to get guy attention. I'm Mexican by the way and where I live it's mostly Filipinos which I don't fit in with and the Mexicans that do live here are either pot heads or part of a gang. I also can't find a job right now so I don't have money to go out at all so I'm stuck in my house. My life keeps getting harder and I feel like I'm going to loose it I pray everyday that got helps me and gives me the strength to move on day by day and be patient but I just loose hope. It's not fair why did I have to be mature for my age I mean the only I can have a conversation with is old people. My life got worse when my Grandfather passed away back in 2012 because he was the only person to make me me laugh and was someone I enjoyed seeing all the time all I have left is my mom but she's given up on me now to. What do I do?
Why is my life getting worse and worse?
The biggest problem that is screwing with my head is the fact that I am 19, and still have never had a girlfriend (still virgin) yet all my friends have girlfriends, and sex constantly. I am nothing more than a 'platonic' friend.. as far as I get. I've tried different methods with girls, and it always leads to me looking like the idiot of an attempted relationship. I've heard EVERY excuse why they dont want to date me.. "I dont want a boyfriend right now" (Then she got a boyfriend like a few months later) "If we date, we'll hate each other" (Then flirts with every other guy, taking all my work as a confidence boost... STILL USES ME as a confidence boost, but I ignore her as much as possible without being a jerk) -> I know I'm an attractive guy.. I've been told by my girl(friends) that many times. I am a very shy guy (common sense why this is difficult for me) Every time I bother with a girl, they never want any part of my friendship. All my friends are becoming distant, and I'm becoming so far gone, I don't even know how to process anything anymore, I'm feel like Im about to just break out crying at any point.. I really just want to shoot my self, like honestly. I really feel like I'm not going to live past 20 at this stage. I know that I'm a very nice person, and I get nothing but stabbed in the back, and lied to CONSTANTLY. Should I really just bottle this further? I have no WHERE to go! I've tried everything...That is why I am here. There is no point of anything!
Every year of my life gets worse?
I've felt like this before, try not to freak out too badly. It's perfectly normal and everyone has thoughts like this at some point in their life. I had one like that just a few days ago. But it helps to have friends about to help me feel better. My Dæmon also helps, and no I don't mean DEMON, they are two totally different things. A dæmon is like you, it's your soul, only in animal form, it is always with you and never leaves your side. Mine makes me feel comfort and helps me in hard times. Makes it easier to deal with things because he's always there to talk. Sorry I got off track. Anyway, don't go see a counselor, they only make things worse by making up all kinds of crap that isn't true, I should know, I"m training to be a Psychologist. If it really bugs you though, talk to a close friend about it, it really does help. A great thing you should try is to find all the things that make you unique. Your hair, your eyes, your voice, your style, your hobbies, your passions, your thoughts, your views, ANYTHING that will remind you that your are YOU. Remember, YOU are the only YOU, there is nothing that can take your place in this entire world of ours.,
Why does life keep getting worse?
That is a difficult question to which no one has the answer. I assume that the life you are referring to in your question is your own life and based on your question I will also assume that you are feeling trapped in some way (otherwise you probably would have gotten yourself out of your current predicament).The fact that your question asks “why”, points at an attempt to put blame on someone or something. This is only going to help you if you plan to target that external factor. The problem with this is, it may be a series of external factors and far to complex to ever hope you control.Even though your situation may very well be a direct result of someone or something I think it's in your best interest to change the dialog and start asking yourself, “what am I going to do about my situation”. It may seem like something insignificant right now but simply changing your personal perspective in such a way can make all the difference.For one thing you will be changing gears from a passive/defensive mode to active/offensive mode of thinking. This is the first step in realizing that more times than not it is yourself that must change and not your external environment. Even if the problem is the external environment, this was of thinking will prepare you too make the necessary changes to that environment instead of waiting for it to happen all by itself.The bottom line is of you want different results from the ones you are getting then you need to employ different methods. Remember, survival is the struggle to adapt.TLDRThe only way day was yesterday.
Does life just keep getting worse the older you get?
I got sober 8/4/01, just before my 47th birthday. I was also dealing with depression and PTSD. To be honest, things didn't start getting better for me until until early 2004, but then things got so much better so quickly it was scary. I got off of medication and found supplements that actually helped. I came into a little bit of money that I used for a car and a computer rather than partying. I reconnected with an old flame that I had lost due to alcoholism and depression and got married the following year. I went back to school. I picked up a volunteer job in mental health that led to my very rewarding present job working with people who have moderate to severe mental illness, primarily with those who have coexisting substance abuse issues. I found something that I'm passionate about. I also started running a few Yahoo groups that deal with recovery and/or mental health. I'm the happiest now that I've ever been in my life. I've been through the cycle of relapse and recovery many times, so I recognized when I was having selective recall. Sure, I had some good times drinking and I've got some pretty wild stories of those days, but I also had to remember all bad times too; the lost jobs, lost relationships, the legal problems. I look back on those days with a little fondness, but have no desire to try to revisit them; they went the way of my 29" waist and thick, full hair. Each time I tried drank in order to feel better, the trade-off was my life got just a little worse and sometimes, a whole lot worse. It's the difference of being a short term hedonist and a long term hedonist. There's a whole lot less drama and much more contentment in my life. Get involved with something, anything. There must be something you'd like to do. Get involved, take some classes, join a hobby club, just do something more than work and pay bills. For the first couple of years all I did was keep putting on foot in front of the other. Eventually, I got to where I wanted to be.
Why does life only get worse?
I've read a lot of philosophy in an attempt to answer this question. But few philosophers seem to have the courage to examine it.Schopenhauer said: “Unless suffering is the direct and immediate object of life, our existence must entirely fail of its aim.” In other words suffering and misfortune are the general rule in life, not the exception.If you look at all life on the planet, as it goes about its daily struggle, you will note that there is a lot of death, disease, carnage -- pain. Certainly there is pleasure, too. But it is hardly balanced. "The pain in the world always outweighs the pleasure, says Schopenhauer. "If you don't believe it, compare the respective feelings of two animals, one of which is eating the other."So the real question to ask, perhaps, is "Why is life even sometimes at all bearable?" The only way I have managed to answer for myself is to consider that, as individuals, life and our suffering is inconsequential. There is no guarantee of meaning in it, nor fairness, nor justice, nor even happiness. A person might be born into agony, live only a few years or months -- in agony -- and then die in agony. Why? Why?Because each individual is merely a unique iteration in a very long stream of other unique individuals, and if you are lucky enough to have been born with a good set of genes that are appropriate for your environment, you will likely pass them on (or help others with good genes pass theirs on), thereby contributing to the continual adaptation of your particular variety of lifeform to a constantly changing world. And if you aren't born with those genes, the horror of life -- the mechanism by which living species adapt and evolve -- is more likely to stop you from passing those inappropriate bits of genetic data.It sounds horribly cold to put it that way. But you could view it more as: every single living thing contributes to the successful survival of every other single living thing by the mere fact of being born. But in order to take part in this grand scheme, you must suffer, as everyone and every thing also suffers. The why is the easy part. The how -- the how to cope with the suffering -- is the challenge. If you solve it, even for a day, you have given more of yourself than you would have if you had not.
Why does my life keep getting worse no matter how many times I keep praying to God not to let things get worse for me?
Ah, an atheist-bait question. Sure, I’ve got nothing better to do on a Saturday night.Let’s go.So…you’ve been praying to God to make your life better and it’s not working, huh?That seems to be pretty common. I mean, with all the Jews in Auschwitz, you have to figure some of them prayed and still got killed in some pretty messy ways.There’s also the Super Bowl. I understand tens of thousands of people pray for the game to go the way they want it to, and roughly half are disappointed every year.I’ve known several people with serious or terminal illnesses whose families and/or communities prayed fervently to God for their healing. No results have been shown that fall outside naturally-occurring parameters.This means one of two things is true:God isn’t answering the prayers of his faithful. But the Bible says clearly in many places that he will hear and answer prayers.I John 5:14 - This is the confidence we have in approaching God; that if we ask anything according to his will, he hears us.Jeremiah 29:12 - Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you.Mark 11:24 - Therefore I tell you, whatever you have asked for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours.So…he’s hearing but not answering? Your life going to shit is his will? He’s breaking his word? Your call.God isn’t there.So what else can you do to improve your life?Make a change. Even a small one. Take some of the time you’ve spent praying and use it to do something productive.Read a book. Take a class. Do something that makes you laugh, or cry, or scared.Make it happen for yourself. God isn’t going to do it for you - your life is your own to create.Everyone has adverse circumstances - what separates the winners from the losers is what they do during the race.