My Life Is Tottaly Messed Up

Why is my life so messed up?

Once upon a time a daughter complained to her father that her life was miserable and that she didn’t know how she was going to make it. She was tired of fighting and struggling all the time. It seemed just as one problem was solved, another one soon followed. Her father, a chef, took her to the kitchen. He filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire.Once the three pots began to boil, he placed potatoes in one pot, eggs in the second pot and ground coffee beans in the third pot. He then let them sit and boil, without saying a word to his daughter. The daughter, moaned and impatiently waited, wondering what he was doing. After twenty minutes he turned off the burners. He took the potatoes out of the pot and placed them in a bowl. He pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. He then ladled the coffee out and placed it in a cup.Turning to her, he asked. “Daughter, what do you see?” “Potatoes, eggs and coffee,” she hastily replied.“Look closer”, he said, “and touch the potatoes.” She did and noted that they were soft.He then asked her to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg.Finally, he asked her to sip the coffee. Its rich aroma brought a smile to her face.“Father, what does this mean?” she asked.He then explained that the potatoes, the eggs and coffee beans had each faced the same adversity-the boiling water. However, each one reacted differently. The potato went in strong, hard and unrelenting, but in boiling water, it became soft and weak. The egg was fragile, with the thin outer shell protecting its liquid interior until it was put in the boiling water. Then the inside of the egg became hard. However, the ground coffee beans were unique. After they were exposed to the boiling water, they changed the water and created something new.“Which one are you?” he asked his daughter. “When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a potato, an egg, or a coffee bean?”Moral: In life, things happen around us, things happen to us, but the only thing that truly matters is how you choose to react to it and what you make out of it. Life is all about leaning, adopting and converting all the struggles that we experience into something positive.Think Different, Be DifferentTry this once in life

My life is so messed up. What should I do?

I can understand this pressure.Here in India parents often “Decide” what their child is going to pick up as a career based on notions from a few decades back.Feeling lazy all the time: If this is physiological, do get checked up from a Doctor. Possibility of any vitamin deficiency.Beyond that, I think you’re passing through a normal teenage.I can understand the amount of effort it takes to get through to a medical college and that too a government run medical college.Try your best, and just attempt the exam. If you do pass, well and good! If you don’t, you can tell your parents that you did try your best and that you could pick another field in life. Medicine isn’t the only field worth studying.Also, enroll for other exams that you want to in parallel. So you can have a sort of backup plan.

Why is my life so messed up? Why is my life still in a coma with nothing to gain?

Seeing your question reminds me of a typical bachelor's pad, nothing in the right place, you don't find anything at the right time, still you don't care to clean up the mess. Everytime you need something you just shuffle the whole pack, find what you need and what you are left with afterwords is mess in a different order.That's how our life becomes when we don't prioritise things and have no goals whatsoever. That's where life kind of stops but still seems to be moving. But actually what's happening is the mess is just taking a new form each passing day. We do what is required to sustain and don't put an effort to grow.Not having goals is what I believe is the answer to the latter.So just pull up your socks, set some goals(preferably short term so that you can track your progress more effectively), prioritise things in your life and start moving one step at a time and in no time you will see yourself leaps ahead of your past.And most importantly (even more important than setting up the goals), throw everything outta your mind that's holding you back. Stop your past from haunting you. Don't let it take over you. What if you fail, what if you fall, it just doesn't matter as long as you're learning from your debacles. So just keep failing, keep learning and keep moving!!

I completely messed up my life and my mind. How do I change it if I don’t know what I want?

I am glad you ask for help, this is the very first step.Identify where you are good at and try to identify what you like to do. Try to combine an activity that combines both of them.If you really cannot at the moment, do your best to feel good in your head. If it is drugs related or mental … Seek treatment. Do not feel bad. You needed it before, now you have asked the question above, it means you are starting to get ready.I had it extremely difficult to find a job, and managed to get one after getting help, because you know… I have a form of autism.So, yes!Even if you do not know what you want: find a job that can give you other and new opportunities in life, with your job, not a dead end one, like life rescuer if you are an active person… Or some type of admin clerk if you are into this.You seem to write English quite well… So give one of the choices I gave you above a try or try others until you found ‘the one job��.