My little sister is being bullied, what do I do?
People who are feeling confident and secure and have self respect don't feel a need to call people names, criticise, bully, shout, etc. If we react to verbal bullying, we are giving the bully the attention and emotional reaction he/she wants. If you ignore them, they will know that they are getting to you. Make sure the bully knows that you have heard the remark or whatever with a disinterested glance or verbal acknowledgement (such as, "oh"), then ignore them. Why should you care what people without self respect think? They can hardly expect you (or anyone) to respect them if they do not respect themselves. They feel a need to have someone fear them (pathetic!), but if you don’t, they will soon turn to someone else. They would love to be respected and liked, of course, but don’t know how. Try very hard not to argue or even defend your viewpoint with the bully. All you do is to give his remarks credence, and ammunition for further verbal abuse. Physical bullying is different. If she has told you the truth she has been assaulted and needs to tell the authorities. Her teachers (etc.) have a duty to keep her safe and she (or better still your parents) must tell them that if they cannot do that they will have to find someone who can, such as children's services or the education authority. However, the best thing she could do is to learn to defend herself. There are plenty of videos on Youtube which you could watch and practise together - and better still there are self defence and martial arts classes in most areas.
What would you do if your little brother/sister was being bullied?
This question brings to mind the time when my brother was being bullied. I too was just a child but, I stood my ground for my brother. He was the closest relative to me furthermore, not only were we compatible but we were also reared to look out for each other. My suggestion to you is use a diplomatic approach by speaking to teachers and parents likewise the initial bullies otherwise; if all else fails teach your sibling strategy and how to throw down.
My little sister gets bullied. How do I help her?
When I was in middle school, I was bullied on the school bus very horribly. People would take off my shoes and throw them out the window. I got to walk home in bare feet, in an area where goatheads were prevalent. A boy once spat in my hair on the bus.When my older sister and her friend found out, they got in their cars and approached each one of the bullies when they were walking home by themselves and threatened them to within an inch of their lives if they ever said boo to me. No one ever bothered me after that.But, that was 40 years ago, and that probably wouldn’t work today.I’m still in favor of taking somebody out and beating the crap out of them.
I smell? Please help, I'm getting bullied pretty bad?
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My daughter will be 3 in May. Her 4 year old male cousin has tried lifting her shirt.?
These are pretty crappy answers. Your daughter needs to be taught to be firm about saying no -- leaving the area asap -- coming to you -- etc. Teach her to shout/flee/find you/etc the second anything makes her feel the least bit uncomfortable, tell her to always believe in her inner voice saying 'this isn't quite right,' and promise you will never minimise it... She will be a bit on the young side for this so go easy, don't scare, but introduce the basic concepts and follow up as she grows. Have a read through http://safelyeverafter.com/tips.html http://safelyeverafter.com/flags.html http://safelyeverafter.com/tenrules.html I just asked my own 4yo what she would do if a boy she was playing with tried to lift up her shirt. "Run away!" Sorry to the other posters with little experience (?) with kids but odds are high the cousin knows this is wrong on more than one level. "I'm thinking creepy behavior is unacceptable at any age." Correct. "Do you think this should be treated like any other bad behavior?" No. Cousin needs some serious talking-to about personal boundaries, 'bathing suit areas,' manners, unwanted touching, etc. Not punishment, just explanations -- and he also needs talks like this for his own safety, which he is probably not getting. Creepers (for lack of a better term) are not interested in confident, aware children with clear boundaries and strong negative responses to creepy behaviour. Do the parents have any idea what schools are doing to kids who do even a little bit of that sort of stuff in school, even in elementary grades? I would tip them off that their beloved tot is looking at being suspended in a year or two if he doesn't stop...creeping.
What should I do If my younger brother's bullies have caused my brother to get a concussion? I'm really angry.
Do you want to give a fish to the hungry, or you want to teach the hungry how to fish?Let’s state something first: Violence is not the solution.Ok, lets continue…Before it happened to my brother, I taught him how to fight. Not just self defense, but how to land painful punches (and where to land them), how to break bones, hot to use walls and floor as hitting weapons. But I also taught him about the responsability about that knowledge and the risks involved on street fights.When it finally happened, well, he was so naive that he didn’t knew that he was being bullyied until the bully hit him on the face. Then I went to the social worker and ask her about that, and she told me that “it was her out hour and she start to look for it the next monday (that day was thursday)” then I told my brother that at the next morning he should wipe the floor with the bully and threat him to beat him each time he appears in fron of him. He asked me if that was right and I told him “apparently no one is doing the right thing to do, so we either”It worked as expected. Bully feel fear from my brother and stop going to school. My brother was a good boy (still is, is not rotten like me), so I don’t care about the other boy.Of course i was scolded (my brother was too), but he could enjoy the rest of their school life and no one tried to bully him after. He even begin to defend some students that were being bullyied by that time (I don’t know the details).But what about if my broher could not defend himsefl from the bully that time?Probably I would have killed the bully
Can you get bullied by someone younger than you?
so here's the thing about 3 weeks ago a first year came on the bus and I'm in third year when we get the bus home all my friends do after school study. I sit at the front alone and the 1st year who is really small either hits me or calls me the hitting doesn't hurt but it's just annoying I know I am much stronger than him but I just can't stand up to him and my sister is on the bus and she had to stand up for me. Is this bullying or am I over reacting
My niece is getting bullied in elementary school, what can I do to help?
My niece is getting bullied in elementary school, what can I do to help?If you’re her guardian, sign her up for something that will bolster her self-esteem. My daughters are both in martial arts, but just as important is their dance classes.Here’s the hard part. This might be her fault. She is not responsible for the actions of others, but if she’s instigating the problem and then crying bully when she’s confronted, the best way to deal with this is to address her behavior. Bullying in my day is a lot different than bullying today. In my day, we’d never call someone a bully because that would mean we were a victim. Today, victimhood status seems to be a badge of honor for some kids.If she’s completely innocent, and that is certainly possible, then the kid that is bullying her has bullied others and the school is aware. Have her parents talk to the school, if they have and nothing comes of it, then there is a much more complicated story here. Most schools would rather overreact than not have reacted enough.No matter what the story is, being there for your niece will be the most helpful.