My Mom And My Suicidal Thoughts

What can I do of my mom is suicidal?

A2A. Thank you.Suicidal tendency is a very tricky business to handle especially when your parent is involved. You have to act casual about it but not aloof; you must be sincere but avoid being pushy.Apart seeking professional help, here’s something that you can try:Take your mother seriously: Talk to her. Ask her about her suicidal thoughts. Usually people with suicidal tendencies come up with a well thought out plan. Try and make them spill that plan out.Be there for her: Be there for her in the best possible scenarios available. Help them out in the daily chores like cleaning the house, cooking etc. Make sure they NEVER feel lonely. Loneliness is very tempting as well as fatal for suicidal people.Talk to her:You should have moments of reminiscence where she was happy. Make her realize that the dark cloud above her head is temporary and she is stronger than that.Encourage her to seek therapy.Talk to her about various medications and provide her with instances and examples where people actually defeated depression.Intervene: If time calls for an intervention, be firm and strict.Although you haven’t mentioned her age but geriatric depression is a common thing these days. People have a tendency to lose the focus and purpose of life after a certain age and it is totally curable.Seek medical assistance if the situation aggravates.Children tend to blame themselves for a parent's mental health. They often feel if they were just more obedient, or sensitive, or mature, (or otherwise more perfect) that they could somehow make the parent all better.If you find yourself overwhelmed, take a less active role. Do not feel ashamed at needing to take care of yourself as well.And remember, you are not responsible; your mom is responsible for her own mental health.

I have suicidal thoughts but I don't want to hurt my mom. I'm scared she'd kill herself even though she has my baby brother. How does teen suicide affect the parents?

If you're having suicidal thoughts it's likely the result of depression or anxiety. It's a very common experience and is something that can be overcome with good treatment. Please don't continue to suffer in silence, there is help available and things can get better.To answer your question, the aftermath of losing a child to suicide seems to rival anything else. The grief, the self-blame and the guilt have not been matched. Consistently across the board every first responder I have ever heard from on the subject has said nothing is worse than having to tell a parent their child has died as the result of suicide. The amount of grief and agony it causes is unmatched.In my short career we have had a few teen suicides and it is consistently awful. Awful foe the parents, sad for the first responders and the others working the case as well. The first thought is what could have been done differently. Why couldn't there have been help on time, how were the signs missed, how different things could have been. It is tragic.Please get help. Ask for it if you haven't. Not just for your mom but for yourself as well. There are so many options available today for people dealing with these types of struggles.

How can I talk to my mom about my suicidal thoughts? She doesn't seem to take my depression seriously. I just want to give up right now.

Oh no! I’m so sorry that you’re feeling this way and I hope that we can help you find a way to talk with your mom, so that you get some help. Why do you feel she doesn’t take it seriously? Does she see it more as normal teen angst? What makes you feel like it’s more than that?I would try sitting her down and talk about the following:Your symptoms- How they make you feel and how they’re impacting your life in a negative manner.Social or School Life- Tell her how it’s affecting you in these areas.Counselors- Have a list of counselors that specialize in teens prepared and explain how you think it might help you.I know Focus on the Family has counselors you can talk to free of charge (855-382-5433). It might be worth giving them a call.Share this article with her, Is Your Teen Depressed? and see if that helps her see your point of view.I hope that you get the help you need!

How do I tell my parents that I'm having suicidal thoughts?

This isn’t an easy thing to do, so kudos to you for taking this step! It means you know you need help and are willing to do hard things to make sure you get better. The most important thing I can say about talking to parents about suicide/depression is to be totally honest. Let them know you have something important you need to talk with them about and let them know what’s been going on, how long you’ve been dealing with it, etc. Make sure to also explain to them some of your thoughts and how they effect you. Let them know you need help from them in deciding what the next step is. The important thing is to remain open with them if they ask questions and don’t be offended if they don’t know what to say at first. It can be a difficult thing to process. Let them know you understand they may need time, you just knew you had to tell them what was going on. It’s super important when dealing with suicide/depression to not go through it alone. It can feel terrifying and perhaps even shameful having to tell someone your thoughts about yourself and life. I get it, I’ve totally been where you are. But the thing is, you are brave for telling someone! You are not alone and there is nothing shameful about needing help and having a difficult season. We all go through bad times at some point or other. If you are still needing some extra help about how to talk to your parents, this website may offer some good help (Talking to Parents About Depression ). It gives ideas about how to start the conversation, what to do if you’ve been fighting with your parents and a few other things. I hope this has been helpful for you. Remember that you can do it, no matter how scary it seems. You are strong and brave. You got this!

My sister has suicidal thoughts and she doesn't want me to tell our mom. What do I do?

In short tell your Mom but don’t let Mom drop the ball. Your sister needs to be at the doctors ASAP so if if your mother can’t follow through then you do it.I have repeated this so often just lately but suicide is a symptom of even very mild mental health problems. Losing your sister to an untimely death is a real possibility. Pressure your mother into action or take her yourself but medical intervention is so important.See a doctor ,they handle this on a daily basis.Under here I have reprinted one of my first and saddest answers ever on Quora.I wrote it to a girl who was alone and suicidial.Share , share and then share some more! The part of Depression will lead to your early death is trying to handle it yourself. Several years ago I sadly attended the funeral an extraordinary young man. He had double University degrees, very hansom .He was so loved that his only sister made him her bridesmaid . It was a job he did with pride grace and a little humour. His last text message was to an old girlfriend he wrote just the words" I'm so alone" He died just four days after his sister had twins. At his Funeral Seven Hundred people (700 yes not a typo 700 individuals.) signed the condolence book. So as to bring this around to the full circle is the sad fact that Clinical Depression is a medical problem.Its most insidious trick is to let you think you can handle it on your own. Even as I'm writing this 13 people have felt they should reach out to you with an answer. Even strangers care about this.So you or your mother need to take serious action be brave for her .