Why do I feel annoyed by my sister whenever she talks to me?
there are several people to whom I have this reaction who do not deserve this reaction. some are related. some are not. with respect to family members, family does extract a toll, doesn’t it?here’s my theory. we gestate inside a womb. when the time comes we leave. if we stay too long we die. time to go. family then builds yet another womb around us in which we grow, this time a symbolic womb, but just like before there comes a time to go. if you don’t go you fail to thrive. so you have to break out of that one, too, to grow up and take care of yourself, so you can thrive.but even if you do that you were deeply conditioned inside of that familial womb. you don’t even realize how deeply conditioned you were. and, I think, sometimes, family tries to re-inter you, not out of hostility, but because they assume they know who you are, because they knew who you were, and they’re talking to their memory of you from their deep, deep conditioning. but you and I both know who’s talking and who they’re talking to are gone. they’re a ghost talking to a ghost. I don’t know about you, but when I sense the past whispering to me like that I resist. life is not back there. life is the other way.
Why does everything my mom says and does annoy me?
LOL. I honestly think it’s a combination of confirmation bias, familiarity, hormones, evolution and nature.You see it a lot with kids going through their teens and parents. It’s like, nature is preparing you (and them) for the separation that’s about to happen, so you can embrace the freedom develop your own life, and have a family of your own, and they can give you that freedom without their hearts completely breaking.So, what happens on your side, is that you get super-annoyed by everything your mom says and does, so you start looking forward to being independent.What happens on your parents’ side, is this incredibly adorable, loving child, who they love more than life itself, is now acting like a porcupine, ready to spew porcupine quills at them, whenever they say or do anything.So, your parents start looking forward enough to a cease-fire, that they don’t try to stop you when you decide it’s time to fly from the nest. Although they’ll always be there to catch you if you fall instead of fly.Basically, if you thought they were super-cool always and they were utterly besotted with you always, there’s no way you would ever let go of each other. And that might hinder your natural evolutionary process as you grow from a teen to an adult.Also, as you grow from a child to a teen and from a teen into an adult, you expect greater freedom and responsibility, and you want to be treated like an adult. For a parent who’s been responsible for you, from the moment of conception on through babyhood, toddler years, childhood, teenage years, etc., they can have a hard time letting go of that feeling of responsibility and that feeling that you’re their child (emphasis on child), so often that period of separation is necessary to change the relationship from parent-dependent child to something more equal.After the teen years are over, once the child is in their 20s, or sometimes later, (sometimes much later, depending on how rocky the parent-child relationship was), you’ll find that the relationship between you and your parents gets strong again, and they no longer annoy you the way they did when you were in your teens. That’s when you’ll start valuing them again. Or, at least, they’ll annoy you in a different way. LOL.
My mom lectures me all the time and talks about me afterwards. How do i stop her?
Okay, I was at the computer today, my mum wanted me to do a favour for her and then she started being really paranoid, saying: But what if a new wallpaper slows down the computer!?!? and then i sighed and told her truthfully, but then she started lecturing me about being snappy and stuff like that then my little brother came in annoying me and i told him to shut up, and then my mum said leave her. and then she talked about me and what i 'did' to my little brother! She always does this when I get into trouble, and it makes me feel embarrassed and even more so, annoyed about it. How do i stop her from bitching about me and tell her it's really starting to annoy me a lot?
My mom talks on the phone too much?
My mom talks on the phone 24/7 It's SUPER ANNOYING.Me and my 2 older sisters get REALLY MAD AND ANNOYED by it everytime.We tell her to get off the phone but she just ignores us and it REALLY gets us ANGRY.For me I'm only 13 (turning 14 on june 10) and EVERYTIME I get in the car (because she picks me up at school) I find her on the phone and she talks loud it's DRIVING ME NUTS!!!!!!!!! She would also ALWAYS talk on the phone when were at home.THIS IS DRIVING ME AND MY SISTERS CRAZIE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! How can I get my mom off the phone? Please answer
Why is my mom so annoying?
I told her to stop yelling today and because it sounded sort of back-talk ish so she’s been ignoring me all day. Whenever she makes food she tells my brother “tell your sister i made food”... even though i’m literally right next to her. Every time i walk past her she pretends i’m not there and when she’s talking with her friends on the phone she’s calling me names and saying i’m worthless. I don’t understand why what I said upset her so much. Im not going to apologize because of the way she’s talking about me to her friends. What should I do so she stops? Because she thinks she’s perfect so she will never apologize to me, she’ll just hold a grudge until I un-hold my grudge.
Why are mothers-in-law so annoying?
I am sharing my experience here.I always observe my mother in law's and my mother's behaviour.I think a lot about it because I am really confused why they behave like this.I do believe “ that everything happens for a reason” and I find out the reason. Hurry… hurryy……Women in general are frustrated.They pass all the sufferings to you and they find happiness in seeing you (daughter-in-law) suffer.Actually its not their fault.They have no guts to show their pain to their loved ones(child and husband) and these loved ones are least bothered about how “SHE” feels.The statement is controversial but it's truth “ Men are silent killers”.And we women are “barking dogs who seldom bite”.Think when women marry,what she gains and what she has to give.You can count it.Iam sure gains are less compared to lose.Men in other hand gain a lot.Women's responsibility after marriage1.Cook food for husband and family2.Respect and obey his family3.Sacrifice her ambition(because of workload, less time compared to men)4. Look after her baby(less time less progress on her career)5. Critizing Mother in law ( which is impossible for a man)Note the point - mothers (both your and his)criticize or compare you more than him.Why???If they say something to him he can atleast reply.What about us women???Sacrifice,Sacrifice,Sacrifice .That's the condition of the female.Women have been conditioned to sacrifice for centuries.A famous quote.So after all the sacrifices they had done to their son and family.When they see you happy without any pressure(or responsibility)as they used to do at your age.They find themselves as fools and try to annoy you because they are frustrated.But they are less harmful compared to father in law's.Men know how to manipulate women.Men give key and women play.Iam sure you too are going to be a annoying mother in law to your future daughter in law.Not only you me too.This mother in law ,daughter-in-law problem is continuing for centuries.