My mom always overreacts about everything. What can I do about that?
If talking to her calmly doesn’t work, the only other thing I can say is that the only thing you can do is learn to deal with it. You can’t change someone else, but you can change how you react to it. Does she ‘go off’ & get really upset? Let her get it out of her system & move on with your life. Sometimes people just need to voice themselves to validate their feelings. Let her. Chances are, you can’t change her at this stage of her life. But you can reassure her, constantly if necessary, that it’s not as bad as she thinks it is.My example is not a mother who overreacts, but one who is very negative. Doesn’t matter what the subject is, she can find the bad in it. I used to argue with her, but it never did any good. The older I get, the less I am willing to argue with my mother. She won’t be around forever. I just let her voice her opinions, concerns, whatever, and I try to interject something positive into the conversation. It might not get us anywhere, but there is no arguing over who’s right. Sometimes I say something to make her think about the topic from another person’s point of view. Sometimes I just let her rant. She is almost 80; she is not going to change.I learned a long time ago not to sweat the small stuff, and someone else’s negative attitude is small, to me.
My mom is ALWAYS angry at me ... and we never get along ... help ?
I am 13 & I've been having problems with my mom lately. She's always in a bad mood, and she's always yelling at me for something. I tried talking to her, but she is NOT the type of person who sits down and talks things out. Unlike other moms who just calmly tell their kids the problem, my mom will blow up on me, then refuse to talk to me for a few days. Her behavior has been really bad over the past year. I know she's getting put under a lot of pressure since my dad's drinking problem has worsened over the past few years, plus she works the midnight shift at work. My mom is always screaming and cursing at me if I don't do something right, and sometimes she will hit me if she's really pissed. I feel bad because my mom blames me and she says I'm the one who causes all of the family problems. Several of my aunts and cousins have even said that she needs anger management. I understand that she's probably under alot of stress because of my dad, but I just can't take it anymore.
My dad is always angry and takes everything out at me?
My parents got divorced when I was three. They never got along and always fought. Even now, 12 years later, they still hate each other and can never agree with anything. So with that said, they use me as a midway communicator, if that makes sense (Dad tells me what to say to Mom, vice versa). It sucks because they always take their anger out on me, and it's freaking childish. So anyway, my dad is always angry at me. If there's some mis-communication, it's automatically my fault. Like, he'll always say, "Hey, do you wanna come over ----?" and I'll say **maybe**, but nothing else would be said about it. Then, the DAY before I'm allegedly supposed to come down, he calls me and gets mad because I didn't plan on going down there. I'm always terrified to talk to him because he's just one of those people who you do NOT want to piss off! He'll yell at me and say it's "my fault" that it didn't work out. I'm one of those people who hates arguments, so I won't say anything and just let him beat me down. He's also ridiculous because he tries to make me spend my whole summer down there, which just can't happen because I don't know ANYONE where he lives (I'm in Missouri, he's in Arkansas) and it's so boring. Plus, I just plan don't want to be around him. So my question is, how do I deal with my dad always being angry at me? My mom is sort of the same way because she refuses to talk to him for me (or rather, how it SHOULD be-- the parents talking to each other rather than using the kid as a shield) I'm scared of confronting him because he always yells and, to be honest, it really scares me :P
MY MOM GETS MAD AT EVERYTHING I DO!!!!?
Just don't talk to her a lot? Duude parents will be parents. Nothing you can really do, but ignore it and get use to it. Calm down.
Why does my mom take everything out on me?
Whenever my mom gets mad at something, shell take her anger out on me. My sister is really annoying and i think has anger issues, and gets my mom angry a lot.. Shes really a spoiled brat. And once she got my mom mad and i walked downstairs to ask my mom a question, i think i asked her to blow dry my hair (dont ask) She just started slamming whatever was in her hands, like she started slamming cabinets closed and stuff. And started yelling at me like "cant you do this yourself? Time to grow up!" when shes usually nice about it. (yes im under 15 and ive looked it up a million times and i think i have OCD and some anxiety disorders so thats why im not more.. Grown up for my age) but my mom doesnt know.. Ive tried telling her but she says "oh everyone gets those fears" and things like that.. ANYWAYS.. Back to what i was saying. When something gets her mad why does she take it out on the first person or thing she sees?! I feel like im a really nice person and i never do anything wrong, im the shy one that always does what shes asked. My grades arent to good but i promise im doing the best i can. Oh and wheneveer my sister does something bad and my dads there, he will jjust say "YOU GUYS are so dumb" (well he wont call us dumb but he says YOU GUYS. Like im part of this problem too. When half the time i dont even know whts happening.) why do they do this to me? Am i doing something wrong..?
My mom gets mad at me for everything I do.?
Ok so I just got my first B- ever on Friday from Intro to Lit, I have always been a straight A+ student. And when I came home, she yelled at me for a good 2 hours, so I had to stay up until 12 to do them. Then at night, she was crying and telling my dad that I "always stay up late to play video games then do my homework." I mean what the heck? That was a 1 time thing and it was her fault. And 2 weeks ago, I got my skateboard, and she yelled at me for getting a skateboard. And she yells at me the most for my attitude (this I admit, I always yell back at her and stand up for myself whenever she yells at me, I don't deny it. I'm hot tempered, i'm easily angry, I can't help it.) And when I tried to explain all this to my mom, she always says that I have no respect for her (if I had no respect for her I would have hit her or killed her already) and that I'm ungrateful for what she has done for me (which is nothing,I have always been on my own: studying on my own, basically I do everything with myself or with my friends. She never helped me with anything.) And oh I'm 14 and i'm a guy. How do I get my mom to understand that I have respect for her and that I'm trying my best at everything? And also, there's this thing called Parents Portal that parents can check their kids' grades, and my mom goes on there everyday, and she checks to see if I have any "missing assignment." And she always sees something missing there which isn't true, because she always looks at the wrong section that the teacher never updates, so she yells at me a lot for that too. And when I try to explain to her, with my calmest voice, she always says that I'm wrong.
Why am I always angry around my mother?
I would imagine that both you and your mother are trying to get something out of your relationship, but your expectations aren’t being met.We humans are such silly creatures. We think we’re super good at knowing what other people are thinking and feeling, but we’re actually really bad at it.I can’t tell you why things happen within you, but if we were in the same room I’d ask you the same question I ask myself when I get angry: what is it that I’m expecting to happen here? Or: what need do I have that isn’t getting met?Getting curious about our needs can help us understand why we feel things like anger, or joy. Knowing what makes you happy and joyous is just as important as knowing what makes you angry.I can’t tell you what to do here, all I can do is tell you what’s worked for me in my relationships. When I stop blaming people for how I feel and really look at why I’m feeling the feels I feel, then things become much more clear.This works for my upset over silly things like traffic or other people’s bad programming code. Who knows, it might work for you and your mother. ;)
How can I get my mom to not get mad at me for every little thing?
When I was 12, I began to runaway from home because I could not handle my mother’s very highly critical nature. As an adult, I still notice myself being one who is highly critical of pretty much everything, which creates a barrier before gratefulness - inhibiting happiness.This has led me to believe that our parents’ actions carry down, and especially when these actions are on you directly. This seems obvious… so why do we remain hooked on our parents’ opinions of ourselves? I believe that one reaches an age when they can use their judgement to know whether it is healthy lessons being taught.My mother - much like yours I assume - simply became critical to avoid any mistakes. But this isn't healthy, because mistakes are okay. What this said to me was that it was time to become independent, and appreciate that she worries and cares for you from afar. Now, you might not be able to be independent at an early age financially and so on, so my advice to you is to find independence somehow otherwise, if not by leaving.What I mean is appreciate that your mother loves you and wants you to be perfect, but that it is not healthy whatsoever to be criticized all the time. She is insecure, believe it or not - as any adult can be.Maybe talk to her about this, but most parents don't accept their children’s criticisms when they are the ones used to giving them. Nevertheless, she needs to know somehow.Also, I should add that we did not speak for a number of years, but then she understood. It got considerably better then (our relationship), but of course, I miss not having ever spent enough time with my parents before their deaths. Those are all serious things to consider.Good luck
My mom always makes me angry for no reason?
Although I only have one side of the story, there really seems something seriously wrong with your mother. Have you ever done anything that would cause her to not trust you? Or maybe there's something that she's not telling you about her own personal life or problems and it is really bothering her, so she acts like that. It seems like there's no reasoning with her, so what advice can anyone really give? You're smart, you know the situation best, what else can we do? Have you explained the situation to your father, and can he talk to your mother? Do you have any friends whose parents you can go to to explain the situation, so that an adult can talk to your mom about the problem? Meanwhile, recognize that in a year and a half you will be away from them, it will make things easier. And spend a lot of time at school, sign up for after school extracurricular activities, listen to music on earphones, anything. And eating your meals at the "right" time might not hurt either.