My mom is crying because of me.?
Mostly because of me. It's just started when me and my dis were fighting and then she asked me to put something away for her and I said "you can do it yourself" which I definitely shouldn't have but I'm just a stupid poor excuse for a daughter and a sister and I say stupid dumb things like that all the time. She then did it herself not before she said "I hope you know I hate you." Then my mom started crying and then I started crying because my mom was crying and my sister said "stops crying" and I told her that I was crying because we made mama cry and she said "oh poor (my name)" and I just kept crying because my mom was crying :( and then yeah now she isn't crying idt but she's upset with me and my sister cuz we act like we hate each other. But I really love her. Idk if she loves me I mean I wouldn't blame her I'm the worst person in the family according to all of them. So anyways I feel sad. What do I do? She'll prob not let me talk to her
My mom is crying because of me?
My mom and I have a good relationship but nowadays we get in a few fights because of things like I don't respect her and I feel like she doesn't understand me. I love my mom so much, she means everything to me, but yesterday she said something that hurt my feelings. I got mad and sighed before going upstairs, completely showing that I was super pissed. The next day I kind of accused her of not coming and apologizing to me of what she said and she was like I of course felt sorry but after you acted like that and didn't come out of your room i was mad as well etc. and we were in a public place and i kept saying things and today i apologized to her really but it ended up with me crying again. my mom went downstairs and i could hear her sniffling a bit and i love her so much and i sent her a long paragraph saying I'm sorry for everything and afterwards i found her crying so much in her room. i hugged her and cried too but she told me to go to sleep. i really don't know what to do.
What do l do when my mom is crying because of me?
Well this is extremely depending on the situation.My mom used to cry because my illness was taking over and she felt guilty because she couldn't do anything about my suffering. So first you have to identify the reason your mom is crying. Did you do something, that might have hurted her? Or is it a reason you can't control, like your psychological and mental health, sexuality etc. If it is a reason you can't control you should just let her cry her eyes out, you can't help it and it's not your fault, you are the one needing support, not her.If it is something you have controllably caused you need to evaluate more. What have you done exactly, is it a temporary or a long term problem, does this happen often, what realtionsship do you and your mother have, what do you want to achieve, how do you want to continue in the future, are there Any solutions and if so, how can you achieve them and how do you feel now. First answer all this questions honestly to yourself. Now you are prepared to go talk to your mother about the problem, if you have made her upset you need to get this problem out of the way before it causes more stress to both of you. Depending on your age and the thing you have done wrong you can buy some flowers, chocolate, do something nice for her etc. Just as a sweet gesture.
My mom gets mad at me for crying?
im a mom, if anything your mother would want to help you and hug you as often as she can. write her a letter and leave it in her room before she goes to bed tomrow, say mom i really wish you could help me with my problems instead of just making them worse. sometimes its like you try to avoid me and you dont care. i just want a hug from you and someone to tell me ill be okay. why can't you be that one? good luck hunny, if you need anymore adviice just ask. im sure things will get fixed after she reads that note :)
My mom is crying because I am leaving?
You need to go. Your mom is aware of this, but it's always painful when children fly the nest. Give her some extra hugs, and make a Skype date a few days after you leave, and also maybe plan for her to come and visit in a month or two. It will be hard for her, but she'll also be excited that you're becoming independent and starting your own life - just don't forget her. Phone or Skype her at least once a week and let her know everything that's going on in your life - and maybe arrange to fly back for Thanksgiving and Christmas.
Mom crying over me smoking weed?
DAM bro, your mom really doesn't understand you... You sound like a really responsible person and I respect you for being a really good son. You should always love your mom and I know what you mean when it hurts to see your mom cry. Don't ever think that you are a bad kid! You're not! I go to college as well, 3.0 GPA, got a job, and weed does make music sound sooo much better. Weed has actually made me a better person overall! Dude, don't tell her that you only smoke weed to enjoy music a little bit more... -_- It makes it sounds immature, like a kid. But I don't really know what she's thinking so I can't say for sure. Ask her what it is she's really worried about from you smoking weed. But maybe she really does still see you as a kid and that you're not ready to make your own decisions yet, but we don't really know until you ask her personally. Tell her that you're not addicted to it, maybe she thinks that you'll get addicted to it and it'll ruin things somehow. I KNOW that you don't plan on smoking weed forever, everyone has a limit, tell her that as well. Try to get your dad to help you talk to your mom too. I don't know if you're close with her or not, but regardless, this is the MOST IMPORTANT OF ALL, Go up to her, tell her that you hate to see her cry and that it brings pain to you as well, and to think that you are a bad kid in her eyes hurts you as well. Say that you love her a lot, ask her to respect you for the decision that you've made because you're becoming an adult now and that you know your responsibilities. Also, that it's a personal hobby that has helped you relieve the pain and stress that you had during the day. That it helps you relax, focus more, and that you feel more happier. Also don't forget to show her evidence that having too much stress can be bad and can cause serious health problems for you. Good luck dude! Edit: OKAY, disregard those people above me that's telling you to stop smoking weed because they don't know what you're going through. These 13 year olds doesn't know what they're talking about and that they haven't reached their full potential to becoming an individual yet. Being your own person is a process which requires time and knowledge, what do you enjoy doing, what are your hobbies, what makes you who you are? In other words, growing up to become an adult and making decisions on your own.
Am I a bad person for making my mom cry?
Sweetheart, you and your family have been through a profound ordeal that began with the loss of your father, and continued for you when you found yourself in a school environment where the only way you could cope was by feigning illness.I don’t think you are being a bad person because your mom has reacted to what you say and do by crying. You have been expressing your distress; her tears are her way of expressing hers. You are not responsible for that.What would your dad think of this situation? What would he want you to do?You are both going to need the help of a counselor to deal with your loss. You, especially, have a complicated knot of emotions to work through. The rage and sadness you feel, which you expressed by screaming, isn’t going to go away on its own.Talk to your mom about counseling. If she doesn’t want to go, insist that you have to.All the best to you and your family.
What should I do if my mom starts crying on the phone or during video chat with me?
Whenever you have someone who is displaying strong emotions (especially negative like crying or anger) there are a few things that you can do. As a life coach, I find that the best way to approach these kinds of situations is from a "gift giving" mindset. So the first gift that you can give your mom is a safe and welcoming space to express her emotions. Ask her what is on her mind and let her know that you want to hear about it. If she only gives you a few words, ask her to elaborate more. Avoid saying things like "I know you miss me but there's nothing we can do about it" because that shuts down her flow of emotion. A better response would be to ask an open ended question like "how is missing me affecting you?"So the first gift is space to feel / express. The second gift is acknowledgement. This serves the dual purpose of letting the person feel heard, as well as give them the opportunity to make sure that they are understood. The best way to acknowledge is to summarize what the person says and repeat it back to them. So if she goes on a long vent about all the ways that she misses you, then try your best to repeat back what she said in a bite sized format: "So what I'm hearing is that you feel like everything is falling apart because I'm so far away and you are worried about me being able to take care of myself." Then let her respond to your analysis. Often when hearing what they just said repeated back to them in different words, a person will be able to see the situation in a new light. The third gift is validation. Validation is how you let the person know that it is understandable and okay for them to feel the way that they feel. This is done by empathizing with them. Use the situation as they've described to understand where they are coming from. For example: "Listening to everything you just said, I can totally understand why this is so upsetting to you. It is completely normal to feel this way when you look at it like that."So by combining these three gifts in a conversation, it gives the person the space and support to confront and share their emotions. It is this emotional processing that makes way for healing. Also, now they they have their feelings out, they will be much more receptive to hearing how you feel about things.
Why does my mom want me to cry when she's crying?
There’s an interesting stage in a child’s development in the very early years. I’m talking around 1 and 2 years old.A good way to understand it is with babies that pull your hair. Before they can model your emotional impact, they pull your hair then laugh as you show pain (to them, a funny face). Once they develop the ability to model your feelings then they reach the next stage. A 2 year old might pull your hair. If you cry out in pain they are likely to cry too. That’s because they are still so emotionally attached to you that when you feel pain it hurts them emotionally when they see it.When I as about 2 or 3 apparently I asked my mother why a man was walking with a white stick. When she explained that he couldn’t see I burst out in tears because I felt so sorry for the man.As we grow we move beyond this emotional connection phase and learn to internalise our feelings rather than let them overcome us. Some people are more connected with their feelings that others.I don’t know why your mom wants you to cry when she does. Nobody can know that. But we can come up with good possibilities.Maybe your mom misses the days when you shared grief with her because that was a moment of intimacy you had together. A bond. A connection. Are you moving away from home or have recently moved away from home? Maybe your mom just misses that intimate connection. She misses you.Other people might hypothesise a selfish need in your mom but moms are typically unselfish when it comes to their kids needs. That doesn’t rule out the possibility that she just wants you to console herself by sharing her grief. This is a possibility but I ask that you consider the one above before jumping to this one. Your mother deserves the benefit of the doubt.It could be one of those “girlie” things that as a man I’d struggle to understand. Women are more open about their emotions and less afraid to feel them. Maybe there’s a bond there that comes more naturally to women.Ultimately, love your mom for who she is and she will love you for who you are. Maybe she has a good reason why she does this and the best way to understand is simply to accept it as it is.
My dad made my mom cry? What to do?
So this one day my dad just started screaming at my mom cause him and my sister were fighting. He grabbed my sister and threw her on the bed and she is only 14... Honestly I was thinking of punching him in the face then I thought... He's my father. He is about 5'9 180 pounds not really built, and I'm 5'9 140 pounds. As you can see he's just fat. So my mom started crying and i don't know what happened. All I heard was a lot of screaming and then I went into their room and my mom was crying. What should I do? Should I try and fight my dad? Or... should I get my dad help? He has an attitude problem i believe and I don't know what to do about it. Please give me some advice.. I really want my family to get along without my dad being a total d*ck. Before something bad happens between me and him or my dad leaves us what I don't want. Thanks everyone and I hope you can help me out. Thanks guys :)