Why is my mom so immature?
Tracy, are you Nigerian? I don't have much information, so I'll answer based on my conclusions...This sounds a bit familiar. I don't think this is unusual, especially if she's a single parent. Parents can just be very weird, but many times it may not be any deliberate intention to be mean or frustrating. She's probably just going through a few things and she's taking it out the easiest way she can. Teenagers can sometimes appear to be the most annoying, resource-guzzling liability pets walking around, even if they're angels.I'm sure there are some tiny moments of fun/ordinary interactions. Enjoy those. Be the bigger person and also avoid conflict. Concede more than you argue and just be the peace-maker. Help out as much as you can and dont try to 'reason' everything out. In a little while, you'll be out of the house, and your mom will be all over you trying to be your best friend and remembering how great a daughter you are. You'll be the mom very very soon.
Im almost 25 (girl) and yet childish in front of my parents, who love me the way I am. Now I want act more adult but afraid that they'll think I've changed and feel hurt. What should I do?
You should always be you. The problem sounds like you don't know who that is yet. That's ok, don't worry. You are asking the right questions, so you're on your way. The human brain is in the growing process until about 24/25. Esssentially you are still in an adolescent state until your brain is wired into adulthood. That is probably why right now it's starting to feel unnatural behaving childishly around your parents. Not for nothin, but a lot people never stop acting like kids around their parents. There's a pattern of behavior established since childhood that is very hard to shake. You can't just snap your fingers and change who you are. You will appear unnatural because it would be unnatural. If you feel that certain things you do around your parents aren't authentic, than that's what you need to stop doing. You're going to change. You're supposed to change. That's growth and it's healthy. It's what life's all about. If you're worried about how they feel just tell them, I love you and I'll always be your little girl at heart but I'm starting to take my own life a little more seriously, so please don't take offense. This should be enough for them. You're being honest and trying to live your OWN life. That's ultimately what you need to be doing right now. There is never a situation where you shouldn't be true to yourself and you should never be trying to fit into somebody else's mold. Not even Mom and Dad.
What should I do if my parents are immature? They are in their early 40s and behave like teenagers.
You begin by understanding you cannot control them, you cannot make them fit into a character mold you designed for them. Age doesn’t define a person any more than the color of their skin does.It is normal to go through long periods of time where you separate yourself from your parents and avoid communicating with them.Familiarity breeds contempt. The more familiar with them you are the more likely you are to lose a level of respect and are willing to “test the waters” with them. Knowing you cannot change them, you can only change yourself and practice acceptance.
What is your review of Diana, Princess of Wales?
Review?Well born and spoiled.Some early emotional trauma re parental divorce.Very aware of her social status.Raised by her family to marry well as the family fortune will only go to the male child.So definitely happy to engage the Prince of Wales.Somewhat of a hypocrite as she married Charles for his position , she is the first to cheat, but whined about Charles being the big bad one and she the innocent little lamb to the slaughter.Talked about what she has to put up with for England, but throws the royal family under the bus.Royalty became reality TV.All this blah blah blah about raising her children to know the common people but always pulling rank on the common people like Tiggy Bourke, her children’s sitter. Would park anywhere and expect her security detail to get her out of a ticket if the police showed up. Charles or Anne would never do that. Ha d a conniption because her HRH was taken away.If you liked common people so much why don’t you want to be one of them.Academically dim but wiley.Very touchy , feely and reckless. Started hugging AIDS victims before it was clear that it was safe to do so. If it was unsafe it would have been tragic.A great believer in Conspiracy theories , especially about her husband’s family.Has no discretion. Talked about intimate details like her sex life to any Tom, Dick or Harry, even on videotape.But very discreet about her own failings.Has no empathy for other women and no respect for the marriage vow. Tried to steal husbands away from other women.Spiteful and vindictive. Making threatening phone calls to Camilla and the 97 year old Queen mother just for kicks.Trashed Prince Philip although letters show Prince Philip had been trying to help her.Enchantingly pretty and attractive. Not much of a figure. Her daughter in law Catherine has a much more feminine figure.Diana’s figure is more angular. No hips at all. Similar to Meghan. Diana strides like a man, which makes her strangely regal. Catherine’s walk is too feminine.She reminds me of Daphne Du Maurier’s “Rebecca”.I think she would have been jealous of Catherine and would have egged Meghan on and split the two sisters in law.
How should I deal with a mother's occasional childish behaviour?
With old age, the brain begins to revert; instead of becoming increasingly mature, immaturity typical to teen agers may set in. We can remind ourselves that women physiologically sacrifice a lot to have children. Also that they are losing more than just bone density with old age and death. Memories start to fade and with it taking more effort to go from A to B to C in thoughts, the elderly just go from A to Q in a jump whether or not they would have ended at Q if they took it step by step.Actually, that last part is not uncommon, regardless of age.Anyway, I find the best way is distraction. Just change the subject. Also, be dramatic now and then. Be entertaining.