My mom is always so negative, it's affecting me badly. What can I do to stop her?
I don’t know how old you are, but I am going to offer you a very important life lesson. In life, we can either choose to try to change other people or we can try to change how we respond to other people that upset us.You have control only over how you respond to other people. You do not have control over other people’s natures or behavior. Yes, you can correct people, yes you can say don’t do that, yes you can say you are hurting me. But in the end, you get to control whether something hurts you or impacts you and you get to choose how you want to handle such things.So my first piece of advice is, don’t try to change your mom. Try to avoid putting yourself in situations which allow her to upset you or hurt you.I don’t know if your mom is always negative or if she is being negative because of the stress that she and your father are experiencing. If she is always negative, well, that is how she is. Perhaps she is worse due to the stress. If she is not normally negative, perhaps she is depressed and is having trouble seeing your artwork for the joyful effort that it is. Perhaps she is forgetting that you need praise and attention for your work, or maybe she simply hasn’t got the energy to give it to you right now.I can only tell you this. Moms are human. And they, like everyone else, only have so much energy to spare. Sometimes, this energy gets low and they have trouble showing their usual enthusiasm for the things their children do. Sometimes, when they are like this, they don’t even realize they are doing it. Sometimes they just need a hug from their children as much as their children need a hug from them.If your mom has always been negative, well, she isn’t going to change, so there is no point in asking her to do so. Just try to avoid allowing her negativity to upset you. Go elsewhere for praise for your art. If she is not normally negative, try to understand that she is stressed and having her own problems, and maybe she needs a little bit more love and support than usual.Regardless, try to understand that she doesn’t mean to hurt you. She is who she is, and she is stressed and worried right now. If she isn’t normally negative, in time, it will pass.
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