I got grounded for rolling my eyes at my parents...is this unfair!?
When you can clearly see that your parents are already stressed and rushing around, you should realize that it is not a good time to have an attitude. Rolling your eyes (which may mean nothing to you...) boils parent's blood like you would not BELIEVE! If you get grounded and feel like it's an over reaction...it's probably not. It is an accumulation of every thing adding up and finally they've had ENOUGH and you're grounded. Don't have an attitude...just answer the question. You may think you're grown, but you're the child and you need to be respectful. It's not hard to nicely state that you've already thought about it, and you're going to eat and get dressed and not to worry because you have plenty of time. Or you could make things easier on your parents and get up and dressed when you're supposed to. Be helpful. You see they're already rushing and rushing is stressful and your mother feels MORE stressed when she sees that there's a possibility that you'll be late. Watch your tone and just be sweet. That's all a parent needs...sweet, respectful, responsible kids. Show that you are trying.
Parents Grounded Me (Fair Or Not)?
13 year old ..lost virginity..told mom....you know the story. Anyways my dad will find out and give me the beating of the century and I deserve it. But I grounded for 2 months cant see friends or anything. So if anyone here wants to be temporary friends just mail me. Anyways I was thinking and maybe it's my parents fault. They never told me about sex and so I was curious. Should I tell them that it's not fair or not? I'm kinda popular in Vivian Field (middle school) and my mom said I can't hang out with my friends in the summer. I think its not fair. But anyways I just dealing with this and having a hard time. I need some huggies.
I'm grounded for being gay. Isn't this unfair?
First of all, if your dad hit you so hard you are bruising you should consider calling the Police. It is illegal and a lame way for a parent to attempt to discipline their child. Maybe let him know that next time you will call the police and have him arrested. Look, your dad is overreacting but that is just part of the shock. Now he knows you like to kiss boys it will be hard for him to deny that you are gay. Lots of parents have a hard time accepting their son or daughter is gay at first. Give him some time. He is probably still grieving for your mom (he always will) and just doesn't understand it. You have had since you were five to come to terms with it. Give your dad some time to come to terms with it too. Its important that you help your dad understand it better when he is ready to listen. Make him understand that it is not a choice, you were born this way and that you will be the same person tomorrow as you were yesterday. You are not becoming gay, you already were gay. Make sure he also understands that this is not easy for you and that you really need his love and support. With time things are likely to get easier between the two of you and you may even be able to grow closer to him once he understands and accepts you for who you are.
Are my parents right? Should i be grounded my 18th birthday?
no your parents are not right! its your 18th birthday, and your grounded! i get grounded for stupid stuff too, one day i made a sandwich w/o asking an then i got grounded =( but you shouldnt be grounded for your birthday i would try talking to him
My mom yells at me and grounds me for small things :(?
I know that i probably shouldnt put out things on a web site but i want to see what other people can say about it :( My sister and I are very good kids and i know. All the kids(teens i should say) outside dont do chores they come outside all the time. And alot of other stuff and we get in trouble twice as more than they do and we dont do HALF the stuff they do let me give Examples of what my sister and I do: 1. We sometimes come in 2-6 minutes late because i dont have a phone( im 14 btw) 2.For me crying from everyone yelling ( Im a cancer zodiac ) 3.for not watching my baby sister more ( i already watch her the first part of my day for about 2 1/2 hours i think) 4. Because i want to go outside and hang out with m friends while i can ( when school starts im going to be inside all the time) -There is alot more i cant name right now :( My mom says now that im 14 i have to go to the store and get my own food, alternate washing dishes with my sister everyday, take out the trash every night, watch my baby sister the first part of the morning :( none of m friends have to go through this. i cant have any boyfriends ( i never held a boys hand, hugged them, and NEVER kissed them) I cry alot m mom yells she expect me to do lots of things and its not fair.... do you guys have any advice on what i can do to stay strong and not break down? thanks :( no harsh comments please :,(
A curfew at eighteen? Grounded for breaking curfew? Your perspective?
Well, unless you can move out, there probably isn't much you can do. Consider yourself lucky that you won't have to deal with this forever--you're going to college soon. Maybe you should think about moving in with your mother? I think it is absurd and sad when parents treat their adult children like babies. I'm a professor and I notice that students who are more independent do better in university. The ones who are babied often don't know how to take care of themselves. Your father is fortunate that you are relaxed about his attitude. You're 18, that means you're an adult. You should be mature enough to be responsible for yourself. If your dad feels you're not mature enough to take care of yourself at this point, then he has not done his job as a parent. It sounds like he likes to control people. But again, there is nothing you can do here unless you move out. If I were you, I'd increase my work hours at night. That way you can get out of the house and your dad will get used to you being gone later. When you're in the house, maybe you could read some books related to what you'll study? Or lift some weights/exercise? Good luck.
What is the most unfair and undeserved punishment you ever got as a kid/teen?
When I was maybe 4 or 5 years old, my mother and I went to a neighbors house to have a meal with some of their friends. I was the only kid there, and I don’t recall knowing any of the other adults except our neighbor.I guess because of me we were leaving earlier than everyone else, so when it was time for us to go we went to the door by ourselves while everyone else stayed in the dining room on the other side of the house. I don’t remember this, but I can only assume my mother had already said our goodbyes before we left the table. But for whatever reason she decided she wanted me to go back in there and say goodbye to everyone by myself.Well, I was an extremely quiet, shy kid, and this terrified me. So I shook my head no. She then suggested I just wave, but I still shook my head no. That’s when she got angry at me, marched me back home, yelled at me and gave me a good spanking as punishment. I stayed in my room crying alone for ages.It doesn’t sound like much, but this memory has stuck with me along with many other little things like it. She yelled at me and spanked me for being shy. In hindsight, she probably felt she was punishing me for not doing something she was telling me to do, but it’s not like I was being deliberately disobedient.Unfortunately, all the years of my childhood, that’s all my mother ever saw. She never tried to understand who I was or why I actually behaved the way I did. She never gave me room to explain my side of things. And even if I tried, she wouldn’t listen or accept that she overreacted because she was always right.As a result, I had a suppressed personality for the longest time, never actually felt loved by my mother, and also developed severe social anxiety. But things got better for me when I moved far, far away.