Help... My mom blames everything on me.?
Anything bad that happens it seems like she blames me for. If the house is a mess... it's automatically my fault. If my brother is crying then she assumes I have done something to him. If something is missing she thinks I took it and will go looking through my room. I'm sick of It. Now my older sister is starting to go along with it too and blames everything on me. When I stick up for myself, she threatens to ground me. Is there something I can do to make her trust me even though I've never given her a reason not to?
My mom blames me for everything?
My little sister is a spoiled brat who throws temper tantrums more than a regular child should and cries at the stupidest things. Like today, there was a fly and she started screaming bloody murder and she woke up my baby brother and my mom told me it was my fault and grounded me for not closing the door. A few hours later, she told me it's my fault that my sister is a spoiled brat. She didn't even say why. Then an hour after that she told it was my fault my computer was broken even though my sister destroyed it in one of her tantrums. She told me I should know better than to leave it lying around, even though it was in my room. One time she told me my grandmother died unhappily because I didn't go see her when she died, even though my grandma lives in a different state. She yells at me when I try to tell her about my day and says she doesn't care. What do I do?
Why does my mom blame me for everything?
ok so my birthday is on saturday (its tuesday) and me and my mom got into an argument and she said that she doesn't want to do anything for me anymore and that im not getting or doing anything for my birthday all because i was trying to correct her. i got over that and then later she told me to go buy some sleeping pills for her so i went with her and then the card declined (it had money but it was working) and she somehow found a reason to get mad at me and started saying if i was a selfish btch like you none of this would happen and it really hurt me especially because its almost my birthday what should I do? Why is she blaming me?
Why does my mom blame me for everything ?
Simple. Your mother is stressed because of the ongoing events. It's hard to get over a heartbreak and because you're the only responsible one, she vents her frustration to you. You should try to talk to you mother gently and if it doesn't help, too bad... You got to move; quick. Children can forget things quickly at a young age. To make things easier, you can promise them like weekend trips to the zoo, playground and such. It's difficult not to show favouritism, but try to be fair, okay? Don't weigh your children down with your problems and try to appear enthusiastic because at night, you can always cry and scream into your pillow all you want. As for your sister, I can say that she's spoiled ever since you went away and she doesn't want your interruption in her life. Even though life is unfair to you, just bear it with a smile.
Why do my parents always blame me for everything that happens?
That used to happen with my mom. She used to blame me for every single bad thing that happened to my younger sisters, even though I was clearly innocent. When she did this though, there was something bothering her. At the time, she was having hard times with her husband and with no friends or family around her, I was the perfect target to vent all her anger upon. Me being only a kid, would rarely say anything, and just go cry on my own. I couldn't do anything anyways.. it's not like she would listen to me anyways, so I just kept quiet, however I did show SEVERAL times I was bothered by what she did. You could do what they say (washing the dishes). In response to the respect you gave them, they would possibly answer your question of why they're constantly picking on you. But if you don't think that will get them to take you could --> I understand your rebellion with not doing the dishes because you want to make it obvious that you are upset, to gain their attention, make them realize what they've been doing. They probably have no idea that they're doing this. Once you gain their attention, explain the reason why you refused to listen! Directly tell them that they blame everything on you. If they deny, prove it to them with evidence- the many occasions they blamed you!! PSH, you have a right to speak up for yourself! This isn't called talking back, it's called reasoning. You're just informing your parents on what they've been doing wrong, and wish to speak up for yourself :P Afterwards, listen to what they have to say. I'm with you! XD
Why does my mother-in law blame me for everything my husband does?
I have been married for 14 years and going through the very same thing. When I buy here a mothers day gift and my husband will tell her that it was my idea and I did it, she will still only thank him. She has two boys and neither one can remeber those "special days". She blames me when things go wrong no matter what. She has had her back up against me from day one. I was even blamed for my husbands divorce from his first wife and that was six years before I eve met him. And she still refers to me as my husbands current wife. We no longer go to holiday get to gethers and family dinners. We have told her that until she can show some respect for me as the mother of her only two grandkids and as the wife of her son, she can forget about it. She never wanted to spend time with the kids, even when they were babies and she has told the kids that she dosen't care for me so they don't want to be around her either. I currently refer to her as my "outlaw" not mother-in-law. Leave her out of it until she can respect you. It may never happen, but your a good person who has spent far too much time trying to make her happy. You cant change her, but you can show her that you don;t have to take this. It's emotional abuse weather or not she likes it. Stand your ground. If she can't accept that her son could be at fault then she is blind and dumb. I don't care if you paved her way with gold, you would never make her happy or be good enough for her. You are FAR TOO GOOD for her. Let her do her own thing and you do yours. Enjoy your birthdays and holidays without the added stress from her. You and your husband and your kids are the family now. Focus on yourselfs. Don't call her. She owes you an apology and then some so let her make the first move. Until then, pretend that she has been shipped to the moon and you can not have any communication with her no matter what! I really and truly feel for you. If you ever need to chat or vent, just email me, I would be glad to listen anytime! Good Luck Hon and remember, your a GOOD PERSON!! You deserve kudos for that!!!!!!!!!
Why does my mom always try to blame me for everything?
Whenever someone treats me like dirt or disrespect me and due to that i quit cause i no longer want to deal with them. Or something bad happens in my life and i tell her she always throw the blame on me, then hit me with one of those back in the day stories , then try to say i am embarrassing her? when sometimes it is not my fault. I have gotten to my boiling point. I decided not to go to college this semester because i am tired of being picked on and people that suppose to be professional mistreating me. I know you have to go through something in life but i couldn't take all the verbal abuse. I have had enough of it.
Why is it always me? My parents blame me for everything. Every inconvenience is my fault. It always comes back to me. Things completely unrelated to me are somehow shaped into my wrong doing. They make me feel like such a burden sometimes.
Yep, that’s what they do.To my uneducated view, your parents look like “fragile narcissists”. The details are here: Fragile Narcissism - The Narcissistic Life. Please read it. Everything would fall into place.If I am right, your parents are low self-esteem people who blame you for everything as a way of coping with the pressures of life:They blame you so they don’t have to care about you - because they cannot tolerate a thought of doing it wrong. So they blame you for everything, and they no longer have to care about you because you are such a bad child.They blame you so they con’t have to accept responsibility for their own failures.They blame you so they don’t have to act with guts and courage. Why take that challenge if you screw it up for them anyway? Even if you have no way of doing so.They blame you so they don’t have to confront people who are truly to blame.With all that cowardice and dishonesty, they get to feel good about themselves.So what do you need to do:Survive. I survived, and I went through something similar if not worse without Quora, without Internet, without a single bit of advice, without anyone on my side. You can do it.Understand that it is not you, it is them. Interpret anything they say as what they do, not what you did.Use your brain. Any time you are blamed for something, figure out who is really to blame. Of, it you truly are, figure out whether they are helping, or only making it worse.Plan your escape. Don’t tell yourself you cannot do it, find what you can. The day you are legally adult, you need to wake up with a job (or scholarship if you are that good) lined up, with shared accommodation arranged, with necessary papers acquired. It doesn’t have to be perfect, it is not an escape from Alcatraz, you would stuff up something,In the mean time, become really good in something. And make sure you have someone else to motivate you. You may have to keep your pursuits secret from your parents, so they don’t ruin them just to blame you. Become a successful freelancer while telling them you are doing your homework. Start a band while telling your parents you are practicing. You need a safe place, and for you it is not home, so it should be in whatever you do.“5” should not involve crime or doing drugs.