My mom overreacts please help?
I was watching tv for about 30 min and my nephew comes back from the store and starts to cry how he wants to watch tv so my mom already jumps to conclusion and starts blaming me that I'm being mean and bugging him. So I ignore him and continue to watch tv she gets mad and stRts telling me how I'm so mean to him and that I have no heart. I toss my dish in the sink and she overreacts and says that I threw it in there and that I'm diisrespectful. So all I say is OMg and go upstairs she then stomps upstairs and starts yelling about how I think I can do whatever I want and that I'm so rude I wait till she finished yelling and I go in my room later she knocks on my door and continues with her yelling And finishes with her saying that I'm an effing dumbss what is wrong with her. And I started crying not becuase I'm sad but becuase I'm soo angry. What should I do and what do you think about this situation was it my fault
How do I deal with my mom, who overreacts and yells at me for something I didn't do on purpose?
Yeah, it sounds like your mom is wrapped-up so tight that little things have her going over-the-top with her reactions.Do you have brothers or sisters? Where’s your dad? Does your mom work full-time somewhere? I ask, not for MY sake, but to show you that your mom’s stress levels will go up if she has a lot of responsibility and little adult help.Suggestion: work on your sense of humor. I’m serious: when you’re able to see the ridiculousness of your own or someone else’s behavior, then you can make fun of yourself, or exaggerate the other person’s actions until they start laughing at themselves.It seems your mom has too many responsibilities so she’s delegating some of those to you. Do what you can, as best you can, and otherwise stay out of sight until she can get a grip on herself.If your dad is in the picture, I suggest asking him for help. And if there are other kids around, they should have chores, too.Another suggestion: if your mom does the yelling thing again, just stop what you’re doing and look at her. Don’t say anything, just look at her. If she asks that dreaded parental question: “WELL? Do you have anything to say for yourself?” , then keeping looking at her, in the eyes, and calmly say, “I’m sorry I didn’t do (whatever) to your satisfaction.” That’s it.I hope she just walks away, goes to HER room, and has a good cry. It sounds like she needs to do that.
My mom stresses me out?!?
Hello, I am a 19 year old female. I live with my dad normally but since he's out of town for work I have to stay with my mother. I would literally go as far as saying that I hate her because she stresses me out so much that I'd rather be at work or school then hear her screeching voice. When my younger brother and I fight (He's 15), I'm always the one who gets the blame even when she knows it's not my fault. She blames me for ridiculous stuff that I could never do and she never quits yelling. She's an embarrassment to my family, she screams out the door at my little brother like we're a bunch of hillbillies (No offense to any hillbillies.) Now, before you go bashing me for saying that I hate her please understand that I can't stand to be around her and if you have anything to say then keep it to yourself. Today, we got Taco Bell and our order got messed up (Of course...) she wanted four soft tacos and I wanted two soft tacos but they only gave us five. She wouldn't stop arguing with me over it, which I don't know what she didn't understand. She tried taking my phone but I told her she wasn't going to take it because she lost an arguement. How do I destress until my dad gets back?!
My mother overreacts and doesn't trust me?
I'm not a mother, I'm an aunt. While I get that you are a good girl, and not likely to be irresponsible or do anything daft, I would like to explain a couple of things to help you have some insight into your mother's mindset. As an adult, you hear horror stories of what very young teens get up to when there are no parents around, love. I've heard stories of how young girls compete to see who gives the best blow jobs to the boys in their class, for example. Or how the boys pressure the girls into doing things those girls aren't ready to do yet, and these things can start out seeming to be a joke. Or worse. The thing is, these are the kind of stories that keep parents awake at night worrying about their kids. I think that deleting and hiding messages from your mother is actually a bad idea. My reason for saying this is that you will get caught deleting something, and then she'll wonder what else you're hiding from her. Much, much better to simply let her see you have NOTHING to hide, and then there will be trust on her part. Also, someone else has suggested that you ask another adult in the family to talk to her and calm her down. Is your father around? He would be the first and most obvious person to do so. Or aunts, uncles, grandparents. It might help. You do realise that a lot of your mother's actions have to do with the fact that you are growing up and very soon won't be her little girl? That is tough for any parent to take on, especially if you're the only child and your mother doesn't have anything else to do. I would suggest - I'm not sure if you're going to like this, but in the interest of fostering trust and having some sort of relationship with her, you might want to think about it - is that you and your mother talk about hobbies or things that you both like doing, and then maybe seeing if you could do them together, and possibly even with a group of other Mums and daughters in the area? Like a quilting group, or something like that? Because it sounds like your mother could do with something else to focus on, and maybe a new group of friends. I hope this helps.
My mom always overreacts about everything. What can I do about that?
If talking to her calmly doesn’t work, the only other thing I can say is that the only thing you can do is learn to deal with it. You can’t change someone else, but you can change how you react to it. Does she ‘go off’ & get really upset? Let her get it out of her system & move on with your life. Sometimes people just need to voice themselves to validate their feelings. Let her. Chances are, you can’t change her at this stage of her life. But you can reassure her, constantly if necessary, that it’s not as bad as she thinks it is.My example is not a mother who overreacts, but one who is very negative. Doesn’t matter what the subject is, she can find the bad in it. I used to argue with her, but it never did any good. The older I get, the less I am willing to argue with my mother. She won’t be around forever. I just let her voice her opinions, concerns, whatever, and I try to interject something positive into the conversation. It might not get us anywhere, but there is no arguing over who’s right. Sometimes I say something to make her think about the topic from another person’s point of view. Sometimes I just let her rant. She is almost 80; she is not going to change.I learned a long time ago not to sweat the small stuff, and someone else’s negative attitude is small, to me.
How can I kindly ask my mom to stop yelling? She overreacts to everything, and the first thing she does is yell and snap even more so when I try to tell her to stop. What can I say?
If you are a dependent minor and still living with your mother, then unfortunately there really isn’t much you can do.I suggest that sometime when your mother is calm, approach the topic of perhaps attending family therapy together, so you can learn better ways of communicating with each other that are mutually respectful.I grew up with a mother who would trigger into extreme rage episodes at me (and at my younger sister, and at our dad) with little if any warning, even when I was just a very small child, and the chronic, unrelenting stress left me with PTSD symptoms far into my adult years.Once I became a fully self-supporting, independent adult, I had the power and ability to just cut the visit short or cut the phone call short) when mother would try to pick a fight with me or fly into a screaming rage at me. “Oh, look at the time, I really do need to go now. Talk to you later mother.” It was a kind of minor miracle when I finally realized that could just… remove myself from mother’s presence politely and calmly. I didn’t have to be her human-shaped verbal or physical punching bag.Hang in there. Don’t react. Remain calm. Don’t get dragged into an emotionally-charged verbal fight. Listen to her points and just calmly say “I understand”. Apologize if you need to. Leave when you safely can and do calming exercises for your own benefit and emotional health. Once you are a self-supporting adult, you can decide how much or how little interaction you can tolerate.
My parents overreact and lecture me for hours on end for small, intrapersonal problems of mine. How can I stop this problem?
Thanks for the A2A. Unfortunately, there isn't a lot you can do beyond trying to have a polite discussion with your parents, as in Jonathan Updyke's answer. If that doesn't work, you're out of options. You could try pretending to be happier, but that gets exhausting and further distances you from your parents. You're just a normal teenager experiencing normal, teenage hormone changes and angst. If your parents can't understand that, there isn't a lot to do. This is one you're just going to have to wait out. I would definitely recommend moving a few states away for college!
My mom places so much academic stress on me. I've consulted her but she does it even more. What do I do?
To be pushy and intrusive towards another person is rude and controlling — no matter the relationship and no matter the intention of the intruder.But as the cliché goes, you cannot be a victim unless you *allow* yourself to be a victim of the intruder. You have to make a choice — to appease or to take command completely.Ignoring her is not an option if you want to take command, because pesky human flies do not fly away easily. Appeasement never works with intruders. You will have to decide to be strong and resolute about what you want now and in your future, and that may require being obnoxious with her to get her to stop, and frankly she deserves it.The reason she keeps coming after you is she senses your weakness with her. Intruders have good senses about that. You will have to make it quite clear to her that you’re no longer weak, and then she will fly away with her crap.
My mom has anger issues?
Ive been there. My mother and I never ever got along...and my sisters didnt get alot with her either because of her anger issues...I was good in school, and i was just a quiet kid who kept to myself and still for some reason i was the reason for everything bad. Its almost as if she would look for reasons to let her anger out on me. Eventually in my life, i stood up to her and told her i didnt deserve to constantly be put down by her because of what ever issue she had of her own, i told her i wouldnt take it anymore. She of course got mad about that, but after i stood up to her i chose to ignore her, if she wanted to yell she would watch me walk away because i didnt need to stress, she started to realize that i wasnt going to care what she said and that i would just shut her out when she yelled at me and she didnt do it as much. There were still times when she would get angry and yell, so i would tell her i wasnt doing this and go in my room and do my own thing...
Why my Arab Muslim Mom stress about my beauty?
Why your Mom mention your beauty as an Arab Muslimah,it may means that she would be proud of you as being her lovely daughter and at the same time she thanks Allah Subhanawataalah as giving her a beautiful daughter as you are.So you must say to your Mom in complimenting to her goodness that because you have a beautiful Mom both appearance as well as of having a high moral. So win win for your question then ,by learning how to respond goodnes for better goodness.