My Mom wont let me socialize?? help:(?
okayy so im 15, its summer, and about a month ago i made a huge mistake and basically got caught drinking and smoking at a party. my mom took my phone and saw all my text messages and pictures. (how humiliating) i know i screwed up. she told me im grounded for the entire summer, and im never allowed to socialize with any of my friends ever again.( yes.shes serious.) she also compared me to my sister and told me how horrible of a child i am, and wished i was never born.(this was a few weeks after the incident). its been 7 weeks, shes still dragging this on like iv commited a murder or something. she hasnt let me hangout with ANYONE, or go ANYWHERE even if its the movies, or the beach. she thinks im going to go out and hangout with my "old friends". i really think this is unhealthy for my social life considering im already very shy, and have moved 7 different times. i feel im really awkward now, if i talk to anyone. i dont want to be trapped in my house all summer, my mom never encourages me or thinks of the good things iv done, she always thinks down on me, and i dont even like talking to her anymore. i WOULD go to my dad, but hes an alcoholic and we just dont have the best realshionship(daddy problems). i really want to see my friends again, and socialize so im not so anxious when i see someone. but it seems like thats far from possible. someone please help:(
My mom doesn't let me socialize?
Been there. If you are courageous like i was, then you would just ignore telling them and face the consequences later. In my time, I was beaten and i would apologize never to repeat but the next day, I would do it all over again. Sometimes I was locked in the house. Pretty crazy family i had. Just do as you wish, but you need to smart and exercise control, otherwise they will just go nuts and do something you won't like.
My parents won't let me socialize?
To be frank my dad...won't let me socialize i went to the movies today while telling my mom i was going with my friends and my dad said "your not going to another movie again, because it means that your an adult and you don't need us anymore". of course i'm not as stupid as to argue with an asshole like him because i always start of winning the argument thenn he uses the "i put a roof over your head and food on your table thing", "plus your only 13 and your already talking like this, what would happen when your older?" of course when he takes these phrases out i can't say anything He won't let me out with my friends what the hell can i do about it?
My mom won't let me socialize? :(?
I'm 14 and about 2 years ago I had a phone with texting and that was about it. Well I went to my friends house and left my phone on her bed (we were sitting on the bed together talking) so I went to use the bathroom and I came back to see her texting some girl on MY phone. I took it and read the text messages and there was alot of things said to one of her friends. Well she said reallly terrible things to that girl.. My phone number got reported to the police. And I got in trouble my mom took away my cell phone my iPod and my laptop and everything I had. I have some of it back now except: my mom disabled texting in not aloud to have ANY social website I get introuble for ANY phone calls I make I'm not aloud out of the house and I can only talk to people at school but she never let's me hang out or talk to anyone outside of school :/ it's been 2 years now help :( I do my chores I have all advanced classes with an A-B average. And i'm a pretty good kid. My mom won't believe what happened at that girls house she thinks it was all me. Well I guess it was my fault.. :/
Why won't my parents let me have a social life?
Truly only your parents can answer that question. However, there are some questions you can ask yourself that might shed some light on that. How old are you? What kind of social life do you want to have, and does that align with the values they are trying to teach you? What are your friends like, what things do they do, and what kind of respect do they have for their own and other people’s parents? Are you trustworthy? What are your grades like? Are you responsible, and do whatever chores they ask you to do, when they ask you to do them, and how they expect them to be done? If you answer those questions honestly, you may answer your own question.
My mom won't let me do ANYTHING !?
Ok so I'm in highschool and my mom dosent let me do anything. ! I barley have friends because when I make friends and they want me to hang out I have to say no, and I get embarrassed because my mom dosent let me do anything. She always say I don't know any of your friends but how can you meet them if you never want to let me go places. I do have a boyfriend but my mom dosent want me having a boyfriend so we just "talk" I guess but he's probably the only friend I have and the only person I talk to all the time. She dosent trust me going anywhere with him because she says I'm too young. Last night he invited me to go to a Martin Luther King parade with him and his mom and sister. I went to my moms room and talked to her and asked her and she was like you already know how I feel so ask your dad. As soon as I started talking about it with my dad he immidiatley said " the answer is no, your too young to go out places like that" and so I just went In the kitchen did my chores and went to my room. I didn't even ask why or argued I just walked away. I'm so tired of this i feel so lonely being at home by myself while my sister has all her friends over and her boyfriend. It really hurts and I really don't know what I can do to fix it.
I'm 16 and my mom won't let me hang out with my friends. What should I do?
Is there a reason?At 16 you need to have some freedom, so that you know how to handle social situations as an adult.Sit down with your mom when neither of you are angry or emotional and discuss the situation.“Mom, I really enjoy my friends and I want to spend time with them. Yet, when I ask for permission, you frequently say no. What do you need to see from me in order to feel comfortable with me spending more time with my friends? I’d like to take notes as well, would that be okay?”Let your mom talk without interrupting her. Use ‘active listening’ as she explains to you what her concerns are. This would be saying, “I see,” “Yes, I understand,” as she states her concerns. Take notes. Then repeat back to her what she said, “So, to be sure that I understand this, your concerns are Foo, Bah and Blah. Is that right?”Hopefully, she’ll agree.Then come up with a plan together. “Mom, I love and respect you, and (not but) I want to be able to honor your concerns and still see my friends. How about we come up with a plan we can both live with.“One concern is that you don’t know my friends. How about we invite them over for pizza and a movie next week. You can meet them and we can be here where you can supervise us.”“Another concern is that you don’t know where I am. How about we load a GPS app on my phone so that you can track me? Also, I’ll check in twice whenever I’m out, once when I arrive and right before I leave, would that work for you?”See how that works? It’s going to feel really weird when you first do it. Alien. But stick with it anyway. Don’t get frustrated or angry if you disagree with your mother. Write it down. Repeat it back. Acknowledge it.Practice with your friends at first. Perhaps during lunch at school.
My mom won’t let me have social media on my iPhone. What should I do?
What do you mean by social media? It’s a broad term. Do you mean messaging apps such as Telegram or Whatsapp or are you talking about apps like Instagram, Snapchat and Facebook?Don’t argue with her or throw a tantrum, it will only make things worse. Bring the issue up to your mom, discuss with her the main reasons why she won’t let you use social media, understanding her point of view will allow you to know what to do. She could be worried that you’ll become addicted or be disconnected too much from the real world, she may also be afraid that it’s unsafe for you online.After learning how she feels, you can try to negotiate with her. If she’s afraid that you’ll be addicted to it, you can convince her that you’ll only use your phone for social media only [math]x[/math] hours a day and you’ll spending most your time doing other meaningful things such as sports and reading. You can also try to get good results for exams and convince her to allow you to download social media. If she’s afraid that you’ll be disconnected from reality, you can try to make more friends at school, if she feels that social media impedes your social skills, ask her to let your friends come over to your house and have fun. Show her that social media will have no negative effects on your social life.You can also show her the merits of social media, sites such as Quora (does your mom know Quora is a social media site?) are great channels for obtaining knowledge. Communication apps such as Whatsapp are also good for keeping in contact with your teachers so that you can ask them questions when you need to, it can also be used to communicate with your parents and relatives too.Usually when parents restrict you from something they’re afraid that it will harm you. However in this day and age, it is very hard not to use social media, I know it’s very hard for you as it is becoming more important to be connected online.Don’t be afraid to talk to your parents about this, reaching a point of mutual understanding is important. Anyways I hope you’ll be able to download social media soon :).