Egyptian mother in law?
I am Western married to an Egyptian man and we have children...we live in Egypt. My mother in law drives me INSANE. She is constantly nit picking every small thing we do (notice I saw WE and not ME), when she was sick we didn't have her bundled up enough, don't forget to feed her, don't forget to give her her medicine, do you think she's wearing enough clothes even though it's 35 degrees outside? Why are you giving her chips? Why does she speak more English than Arabic? Here, eat something yourself, you don't want to eat? WHY? You don't like my food? Why don't you come over to visit us more than twice a week? blah blah blah the woman never lets up!! I sometimes imagine myself strangling her but I smile through gritted teeth and wonder how much more I can take. Advice? Strangle her? ????
Mother-in-law & Sex Life?
I think that would creep me out a little bit. Have you talked to your husband about this? He might not want his sex details laid out for his mom. My boyfriends mom cracks me up. When ever sex talk comes about I am the one who is embarrassed about it. Of coarse they try to embarrass me all the time. They talk about it like it is an every day topic. lol. I just feel it should be kept between the two having the sex. not the parents and us. lol. Makes me feel weird. like they are trying to find ways to spice their sex life up.. Just thinking of some parents doing the things we do.. OMG......... I feel for ya.. Talk to your husband about it and see what he says. Next time your mom in law wants to know about your sex life. ******Sarcastically tell her that you do it like they do it on the Discovery Channel. ****** Watch how red she gets in the face. Said that to my mom one day. OMG thought she was going to put me in the middle of next week. OK seriously though. lol Let her know you feel uncomfortable talking with her about it and that it is not something you want to discus with her. :) Good luck.
What is your mother-in-law's most annoying behaviour?
I'm one of those unfortunate person whose life and marriage got ruined because she didn't like me and most importantly he said yes to me (We are cousins. Don't judge please). when his mother was out of town.We totally are made for each other. We both know that. But he is the Apple of her eye even though she has her other children. Day in day out she'd lie to my husband about me, making up stories, lying etc. I did whatever was asked from me and expected from me as a DIL. I used obey her to maintain peace and harmony. But being the good natured guy that he is, he totally used to believe her until I showed him the facts. Every day there used to be a big fight where she would keep insulting and belittling me, accusing me. But it ultimately took a toll on our relationship and our marriage. I walked out on him twice. But the last straw was when she accused me of killing her and he didn't believe me. I gave him two options; either we divorce or his mother should move out. Things kind of turned out good.But the thing is what MILs don't understand is what goes around comes around. While they may gloat about they are controlling their DILs, there will come a day when they will be old and bed ridden with no strength. They should realize that their DILs may also behave in the same way as they did. Their DILs may not give a damn about them and they may die alone. What will they do then? Sadly, these MILs seem to live in the present and gloat about themselves.As for me, I have changed. I don't give a damn about her. It doesn't bother me anymore about how she still lies and makes up stories about me. My husband knows that I'm a good hearted person, I have helped his family when ever they needed me. My conscience is clear. And I don't give a damn about my MIL. This is my life and only I get to choose how I live my life. As for our marriage and relationship, we still are married, we still like each other and prefer each other's company but the trust is gone, irreparable. And love…? It is still undergoing the test of time.I know you didn't ask for it and don't want it but here is my advice: Be Good, Do Good, Make yourself worthy. You are not answerable to anyone but you. If your conscience pricks you, then clearly you have done something wrong. Clear it up. Ultimately, This is your life and you have only one life to live. And it is too short. So, live it up to full.
How do I make my husband see my mother-in-law's true personality?
This sounds real crazy. I wouldnt offer any advice but I d tell you what i would do to protect my dignity.Start working. However small or big the salary is join something. This will give you a direction to be independant & to divert your mind away. Remember, this might create more problems for you from your MIL but this would help stand on your legs when there is no hopeIgnore your MIL. I repeat. Dont let her get you. Your feelings thoughts and emotions are internal to you. Dont let external factors affect you. Start meditatingIf your husband is a nice guy. Start loving him without any expectations. He will slowly love you back and without asking he would start shielding you. ( unfortuantely this would take time and high level of patience from you)Tell your friends about the situation and be ready for emergency help. With a single message or call.Dont be alone. Learn some hobby and entertain yourself. This is one way you can make her jealous. Negative people wont like if someone is content and happy before themLive for yourself. Find the ultimate happiness in spreading joy in whatever way you likeDont worry about others. If they are listening to a third person and forming opinions about you they are not worth knowing you. Just keep going the way you naturally are and slowly they’ll come around.I have a feeling that your husband is already aware of his Mother’s attitude. Thats the only reason he is giving deaf ear. Otherwise he would equally get curious to know whats going wrong.A friend of mine has come out of an unhealthy relationship and she constantly inspires me with her fervour(by making a choice at age of 24 to file a divorce) courage and compassion(does volunteering at orphanages and animal welfare). She tells me Hardships are given to people who have the courage to withstand them and emerge as winners. She is grateful for this life and its virtuesShe was and is a winner to me. Never let anyone tell you what you are and what you arent capable of. Believe u are a self sustaining power. Trust your instincts. If your husband doesnt cater for your safety happiness and trust i dont see a future there.Lots of prayers and courage to you. Please let me know if you want someone to talk to & unload burden.
I have a sexual urge for my mother in law - and I think she knows so. How do I approach her?
I'm no saint, but I feel like telling you: With your pants down, when she's holding a knife, so you get what you deserve. It's one thing to have an urge and another to pursue something that is going to cause nothing but problems and grief for everyone involved. I think if you wanted to be smart about it, you should stay away from her and be happy you married someone with an attractive mother. I expect you'll end up with neither in the end.
Should a mother-in-law be kissing her son-in-law on the lips? ?
Last night, my wife and I were out to dinner with her sister and her husband. We went over to my wife's parents afterwards. My mother in law, who is a very attractive mid-fifties type, always kisses me on the cheek. Last night, she threw her arms around my sister-in-law's husband's neck and they kissed on the lips. I've never seen her do this before - she's never tried that with me, and I think it would make me very uncomfortable. The other guy didn't look surprised, so I assume this is their regular deal. I mentioned this to my wife on the ride home, and she was pretty upset. She'd noticed it too, and she also thought it was very weird. Are we over-reacting here?
Mother In Law stares at my crotch all the time?
maybe she thinks your eyes are your crotch. start staring at her crotch and talk to it see if she talks back.
Is it wrong for a mother to call her adult son 'babe'?
nothing wrong with it. It's a term of endearment. If it bothers you plz ask her to stop
Why does my mother like her daughter-in-law more than me her own daughter?
I have a huge problem, for about 17 years my mother and my sister-in-law (my brothers wife) are close, closer than my mom is to me. It was ok when I was a child and growing up, but now that im 26 years old and expecting my first child with my husband its just too much for me. When my sister-in-law told my mom she was expecting my mom fliped and was so happy. When I told my mom recently I was expecting she wanted me to give her 3 at home test and a blood test. After all that she wanted to try one of the home test herself so that im not lying to her. I have never been a wild child nor have I been a problem child that my own mother thinks that I would lie to her about this!!! I have many more examples but for time I just gave the recent one that has happen to me. What should I do, if anything?