My 8 month old baby is starting with the attitude?
She will scream at the top of her lungs during feedings, sometimes when im holding her even when thats what she wants, in her bouncer. It just seems like shes screaming to get attention and she has that look of frustration while doing it. If shes not constantly being entertained with what she wants to do, she screams. What can I do about this? Should I begin timeouts? and what are the guidelines as far as that goes? Need some suggestions or mothers who have gone through this already to give me some advice. I dont need to be told shes spoiled, shes just growing into a toddler so the fussy moments are beginning.
How can i tell my mom to shut up without saying shut up?
It sounds frustrating because she doesn't understand english. She is probably very frustrated because of language barriers and missing communication. Give her a hug every day! Do something special and one little nice surprise for her every 3 weeks like buy her a flower or a candy bar or offer to do something you know she would like. Smile and say a happy Hi Mom! when you come home. Write her a short letter or paragraph in her language at least once per month to tell her about the things you do, this will help communication between you. It will also help your skills in learning her native language; and sign each letter 'your loving daughter, Julianne Marie". Most mothers can get on your nerves because they are so worried as they see their daughters grow up. Usually it get better as you get older. If you can get a job, that would help you to be out of the house more often and not have to deal with the annoying stuff as much. Good luck!
My mom always blames me for things when its not my fault and always wants last word?
Geeze i know how you feel exactly how you feel. I' m 18 and i got through this. I feel the same ok yeah they take care of me but it doesn't make it right when they act like that. Especially when they don't listen and talk over you because they know your right. I' m nice to my mom but yeah when there is an argument i either get cussed out called a hoe or a ***** and lets just leave it at that my parents are the same. I don't care if they are stressed out they should have thought twice about having a kid then and think to themselves am i really ready to take on a kid. And then they think oh it's just there growing up stage. But parents get away with stuff and they can break you down and act like it's nothing and walk around like they did nothing wrong. I understand where your coming from i' m not Filipino but i am mixed but the thing is i don't understand either. They never want to listen and always want to start something get in your face. And they wonder why there kids are screwed up and sometimes feel like dying and running away. But the thing is they don't see it they can get away with a lot and it sucks and they are supposed to be their for you. Only the lucky kids who get the awesome parents are usually those spoiled brat kids that's how i feel because i see it. I know to stop complaining but yeah it's true it's stressful yeah parents take care of us but they need to see how they act as well because it isn't right and there not supportive to how you feel.
Whenever my mom is wrong in an argument, instead of hearing my side, she just screams "SHUT UP!" and ends the conversation. She'll never apologize, and yell at me further if I try to bring up her behavior. How can she be 64 and still behave like a child? How can I not take it personally?
Because not all of us are wrapped too tight. Most of these idiots in the answer section are not realizing that your mom may have a mental disorder. She may not be able to control everything in her life so she looks at you as something she can control. Her carrying you 9 months dont mean a damn thing if shes always irrational, argumentative and never listens to reason. Being a parent is no excuse to be a jerk, no one begged their parents to bring them in this world. Especially to be bullied by a older adult with a substance or mental problem. Just because you have the ability to make a child, doesnt automatically make you a parent. You have to earn that title. People get stripped of that title every day for thinking having kids is just something to past time or do when you're bored. Your mom is a dick, and in order for her to change, you need others to witness what you go through so she can get proper help, otherwise you'll keep getting comments where folks (parents projecting rage from their own offspring) call you crazy or ungrateful. Not fully understanding the constant mini boss fights you go through just to be around your mom. Trust me, I know. My mom likes to drink, but doesnt think she gets drunk. She will fall over, tell curse, and still scream that she isnt drunk and that you are wrong for telling her that. Shes very manipulative and judging by these folks in the answer section… they'd be putty in her hands, too stupid to realize that shes an abusive drunk.
Why is my mom being so freaking mean to me?
What your mother is doing is verbal and emotional abuse. Verbal and emotional abuse is defined as belittling or shaming a child by; Name-calling Making negative comparisons to others Telling the child he or she is “no good," "worthless," "a Mistake." Blaming the child that everything is his or her fault. The effects of verbal & emotional abuse; Low self-esteem Depression and anxiety Aggressive behavior/anger issues Relationship difficulties Alienation and withdrawal Personality disorders Clinginess, neediness Flashbacks and nightmares Crying Even if you were being naughty and had an attitude, NO parent has the right to tell their child, they are a "piece shi*t", "a bit*h" "your a horrible kid", that "they never wanted you" or they "hated having you" etc, that is emotional abuse. Nor should they make comparisons of other siblings, or yell and scream at you. Please contact the youth support service, or kids/teen help line for support and help. I am not sure where you are, but I assume your in USA, the link below has a phone number you can ring it you can.
Is it okay that my parents keep telling me to shut up?
No it's not right that they do it, unfortunately it's not uncommon. I see parents like that all the time, in fact, giving a child respect and earning theirs isn't really a priority for some parents.. Talking to them about it is all you really can do, the fact that you did shows that you're a good kid (I'm assuming that you did it respectfully). All you really can do is accept that for the way they are, as long as they have taken care of you to the best of their abilities they're still decent parents. Growing up you will learn that there's no such thing as a perfect parent, we still have emotions, and issues with our tempers, and we don't always say the right things at the right times. The important thing for you to do now is step back and really look at the good things they have done for you and sacrifices they have made. I'm not saying that I agree with the way they are towards you, you deserve respect too! But unless you close them out completely (please don't do that) you have to accept the way they are and try to understand that they love you and they make mistakes just like everyone else.
My mom tells me to shut up?
Whenever my mom and I are having a fight, even over the STUPIDEST things, she ALWAYS tells me to shut up. Now I'm not talking once or twice, she always yells at me and when i try to yell back to defend my self she yells at me to shut up. And then she threatens me with something I really want to do, like "If you don't shut up, you arent going to the movies with _____" And then, she completely disrespects my personal property. She picks her nose and then uses my computer key board, she sleeps in my bed once in a while, she barges in when I'm in the showere or getting changed, and she goes through my schoolbooks constantly. I tell her that a) she souldn't tell me to shut up, its unfair, b) I don't know why she doesn't trust me, and c) sometimes I feel like she doesn't love me cuz we get into total screaming matches every single day. Sometimes mulitple times. And then she just gets even more enraged at me because she says "I buy you all these nice clothes and material items and you think i dont love you what else do you want." She also bags on my friends and calls them horrible names and always makes me feel horrible cuz she's like "Why can't you be popular like ____, you hang out with those losers you call friends." And, I just got a solo in my school choir, but when I told her she wasnt excited and made caustic comments like "oh great, i hope nobody goes to that show," and "so does this mean your gonna need to learn how to sing now?" and i keep telling her i wouldnt get the solo if i didnt have a good voice. But I keep thinking that something is wrong with her and no matter how many expensive clothes she buys me she can't make up for the way she's treating me. Am I overreacting? Or is this something a little more serious?
How do you deal with a mom with a bad attitude problem?
How do you deal with living with a mom that has such an attitude problem? Its been going on for a while and I can't confront her about because she will chew my head off. Everyday I get vibes that if I said one little thing, she will blow up and I hear it in her tone whenever she is talking to me. Today I realized my wallet was missing while I was at school. I knew she took it this morning (thats not a bad thing, I told her to) and assumed she put it back in my purse. Well i realize it was missing and tried not to panic knowing that she took it this morning and probably forgot to put it back in my purse so I called her. I told her to next time please put it back in my purse. She blew up and said she left it on my dresser. Well... you could have told me that without screaming at me over the phone! And honestly, you should have put it back in my purse to begin with. This has been going on for a while and I'm tired of tip toeing around her constantly. If she has anger issues then she needs to quit taking it out on me and go get some help!