How to deal with alcoholics?
my dad drinks all the time since before i was born its gotton to points when he wa so drunk that he's missed my sister b-day party to the point where he can't talk and has passed out on the floor things kids should never have to see and it's really messed me up alot i have real bad anger problems from all the screaming and vickoring and staying in the car for 3 hours waiting for my parents to stop fighting cuz we were gonna go to a hotel. Now that i've grown up im 18 now i can't seem to get along with my dad i can't be in the same room with him cuz i'll or he'll pick a fight i try my best to stay away from him and i really feel like i hate him and i really feel guilty cuz he works real hard to keep up with work from 5 a.m to 5 p.m i can maybe get an hour of the day where he's atleast sober and acts like my dad and then by night he's someone else that He takes beer as his #1 prioridy instead of his family and im always told i'll get stronger but i feel weeker, what should i do?
Is my mom an alcoholic??? and what can i do?
i think my mom is an alcoholic. maybe not, but she definitely has a drinking problem. its impossible for her to have just one beer or just one glass of wine. she had gotten better about it, but recently its scaring me. before, she was open about her drinking and i could confrot her. id tell her how i felt, but she would always answer with “ok, i wont drink AROUND YOU.” it makes me so mad bc saying that isnt actually doing something about her problem. now, she never drinks around me or my sister. however, i started noticing that shed seem to be drunk throughout the night. well, i figured out that she was hiding a bunch of alcohol in her purse and taking it to the bathroom to drink. she was going to the bathroom every 5 minutes and she still does!!! all she does is drink. now its even worse because she denies it. she always says that she had nothing to drink which is not true. i love my mom so much but im so scared for her!! i know that she has to get help herself but what can i do to feel better!! (alcholism runs in the family btw :(( )
Children of alcoholics/parents?
I am the child of an alcoholic father. I am 25 now and as long as I can remember he was drunk. My father is dead now,he died of lung and bladder cancer,but about four years before he past he stopped drinking and popping his pills. I also have many other relitives that are dependant one thing or another. my advice to you is to take a step back. You will never understand why there substance abuse is #1. Until they choose different it will unfourtuneatly always be that way. With my father we would always try reasoning with him, threats, and we even told him that for everyday he went with out a drink that we(the family) would give him money...of course none of that worked. When someone you love has a addictive problem it is really hard, and I am sorry that you are going through it. Just know that it is not your fault in anyway and that you can not change it she has to. Hopefully you will get lucky like me and she will get sober like my dad did. I hope it is sooner then what my dad did though. My dad died when my first son was only 5 days old..My dad only held him once..But he was sober. Just do what you think is right for your new little one they are what you should be thinking about.
My dad is a crazy alcoholic, what should I do?
Bunny has the right idea about the dog. Definitely speak up for that defenceless animal so that it can find a loving home. I would give her a thumbs up, but my account got suspended for giving someone advice about how not to get caught downloading torrents and now I am on a new one and I am back to level one. You need to get out of there. Your Dad sounds like a complete bully. How does he expect you to stick around when he lives in filth and doesn't even feed you both? My Mother was very similar to your Dad and I decided that I put up with her crap for long enough and I no longer speak to her. Problem is you are only 17 and at your age I was stuck with my Mother too and had no way out until I was older. Your Dad sounds nasty and might contact the courts and Social Services, which is something that you do not want. Social Services are not general the heroes they make themselves out to be and you could end up in care away from your whole family. I know because I have had bad experiences with them myself and so did one of my friends. He got taken into care because someone accused his Mother of something that she didn't do. They are not very fair. If worse comes to worse and there is no escaping it you need to bring your own supply of food or some money to buy food whilst you are there. My concern would be that your Dad would eat it if you left it laying around so you might need to take regular trips to the shops. Whilst you are there both go out as much as you can and only come home to sleep. Try and keep the place that you have to sleep in as tidy as you can and try to keep the dog out of there. Another option would be to flee to your Mother's house every time you get sent there and just flatly refuse to go back. Saying what I said earlier, alcoholics don't always have the motivation to do things like going to the courts because it involves money, which means no booze, so you might be safe.
How to deal with an alcoholic violent brother living under the same house?
My brother is 25 years old and he drinks everyday beer, when he gets drunk he becomes verbally abusive, he has got into violent arguments with me, he also tells my little brothers bad things, he also plays his music very loud and smokes pot, my mom won't kick him out of the house,me and my mom and my little brothers are scared of him, we cannot help him with his alcoholism only he can, I'm living at my mom and step dad's house I'm a single mother of a 2 year old and pregnant, that is why I cannot get my own place, I won't get hired nowhere at this period of time, how can we deal with this family member?
My mother choose her alcoholic boyfriend over me?
its v good that u care a lot about your mother but u also have to face the truth that as ur mother's boyfriend is not gonna change,ur mother is also not gonna change at the same way.so i think as now its effecting ur own life too,u should be a bit more realistic and now u should think about yourself.cause if u really want to help yourself and ur mother u need to be mature,strong and self-dependent.once u r grown up u can protect ur mother from any danger.Moreover as ur brother is now already grown up and mature u should talk to him about this matter and tell him to find a way as he can handle those things much better.be strong and focused on ur career and life..best of luck!!!:-)