Why is my mom so controlling?
My mom makes a big deal out of everything, she's always telling me to do the dishes, to vacuum the carpets, to feed the animals, and to take out the trash. If I'm not doing something correctly or the way she wants things done, she easily gets upset and yells. She bickers at me and I hold in the anger and then I let out the anger by having a temper tantrum and then she tells me not to yell at her and she's always yelling at me, and then when I get upset, she say..."oh, so, you're gonna have a little temper tantrum now?" that just makes me angrier when she says stuff like that. And sometimes she'll even take my computer away if I don't do something right and she says she won't take me on vacation with her and we're going to Disney next week. I never ask for much and I don't drink, smoke, do drugs or have sex, I've never done those things either before. She's always criticizing me and putting me down. She judges me for how I want to live my life, I want to get married when I'm 22 and have 3 kids and she acts like it's such a horrible thing that I want to get married when I'm 22. She didn't used to be like this, I don't know why she's more stressed out now, I guess it's because I'm 16 years old now and I'm turning 17 later this year and she probably thinks I need more responsibilities. And plus I'm an only child in the house, so all the chores are placed on me and I have to do all of them, I know every child is supposed to have chores though, but most children have other siblings to help out with the chores.
Mom controlling way too much of my life?
I am 14, and I think my mom controls too many things in my life. She makes me keep a very short haircut, it makes me look like a baby, worse, a boy. Then she chooses the the people I can only be friends with, like, literally, she will point to one of my friends, make me not be friends with her anymore, and then point to another girl and make me be friends with her. She doesn't give me allowance, and whenever I get any amount of money, I have to give the money to her, and she just spends it on herself. Then, she makes me wear clothes that are a size bigger than my actual size, and I don't like that because it makes me look bad because I am already skinny and not that attractive. She literally said that nail polish is addicting and really bad for you and she never ever lets me even wear clear nail polish. She says I am very spoiled even though I don't even have a, ipod of any short, not even a shuffle or even a phone at this age. She even once, called me a dirty spoiled pig just because I am sometimes a little messy and clumsy, but that is the way I am and it can't really be changed because thats from genetics, you know. I am already bullied at school because of my hair and my shortness, and the fact that I am a freshman and sometimes I go the wrong way in school, to and from my classes, and others laugh at me, and my mom already quarantines me from my friends by not ever letting me go anywhere with them, even just to the movies. She thinks I make the worst friends even when my friends don't wear any makeup, tight clothes, or say bad words. I seriously think she should let me do more of what I want to do, let me make my own decisions, and let me be myself.
My mom is so controlling and I'm almost 20!!!!!!?
I'm almost 20 years old. I live with on my parents property but I live in my own separate house, which I pay for. My mother always tells me what to do. If I want to go out, she'll tell me no. She's making me go out of town with them and my younger siblings for 4 days. All my friends are in town and my boyfriend who I haven't seen in 4 months, and we've been catching up since he's been home. She told me I could stay and I made all these plans with him and my friends and now last minute she tells me I have to go?! I told her I'm an adult and I can do what I want. My mother has been like this since the day I was born. I want to do all of these things but she finds a reason to say no, Like if I want to go on a road trip with friends, she'll tell me no because I could get kidnapped,mugged,or raped. But then she contradicts herself when she says I have no street smart or common sense when it comes to real world things. NO DUH BECAUSE you don't let me get to experience it. My mom left home at 18 and traveled the world for a living. It's bull.
My mom is controlling my wedding?
eep! Sorry to hear that. Mother's go a little nuts when you announce you want to get married. Mine did. But this is very extreme. May I ask? Is she trying to plan what her dream wedding would've been and possibly didn't get?? Does your mum have a sibling or best friend that she'd listen to more than you? Maybe get them onside and explain to them your concerns and with this sibling/best friend sit down with your mum, no fiance present. And talk to her. Be forceful if necessary. "Mum, I love you but this is ridiculous. I am the one getting married. Not you. I appreciate your suggestions and we have taken them all under consideration but this doesn't mean that what you say goes and that we will just do them. I am sorry. But we ARE having the ceremony in greenhouse, because (explain reasons: maybe not religious, fiance likes the idea - whatever it is explain), we are having future mother in law make the cake as that is her gift to us and we want her to. We'd still like you to be a part of our wedding mum. (Find SOMETHING for mum to do. maybe if she has floral talent ask her to make bouquet, or help put invites together -something to make her feel useful without getting in the way)." As to what she has chosen to wear. Maybe say that you'd like her to wear certain color so that she doesn't clash with bridesmaids and bride??? I'm sorry i'm not sure what to do on that one. In my case I got my mum;s best friend to come and take mum shopping and gave her colors to avoid. Best friend was life saver!!!! What will people think? - who cares? This is about us getting married. making a committment to one another. If they can't accept that then that's their problem and not mine. Gust List issues: Work out your guest list properly. Rules are: if parents are paying for wedding they are entitled to invite guests of their own. regardless if you know them or not. If not paying for wedding: maybe allow mum to invite 5 friends/guests. Or give her a limit - maybe a table or something. But leave it at that. Anyone else that gets added put them on the wait list. Inform all caterers, reception place and the place where invites are from that under no circumstances are they to change anything if your mum asks them too. They have to report back to you so you can approve these changes first. This way if she gets sneaky behind your back, and she might, you're covered.
Help! My mom is very moody and controlling?
Depending on how old your mother is, she could be going through early changes in her life some women can notice a change in their 30's. Mood swings are comon, this can last upto 20 years. Menupause is something that will cause mood swings, hot and cold flashes and many more things. While being at your moms house try to spend time with friends or try to talk to your mom about it.