My mother wants me to get a job at 17?
I think you should wait, I never understand why some parents force their children to work when they're still young...yes, some people might say that 16-17 is not young, but it is for me. I'm only 22 but I still look like a teenager and I didn't get a job until I was in college. My parents were happy to support me and they didn't care if I wasn't working as long as I stayed in school and kept my grades up. I know that some parents want to teach their kids to be responsible, but if they're not ready, why forced them? They'll have plenty of time to get a job and act like a grown up, but for now, just concentrate on school and enjoy life.
My mother thinks that she is always right, I am really sick of her. What should I do?
Generally speaking, if you are dependent on her, there is little you can do. She has all the power. Your disrespect only enforces her opinion that you’re not ready for the wider world.You may find your best strategy is to not respond. Sit still, listen carefully, no reply.This is helpful in a number of ways. You practice actually listening to what your mother is saying, instead of automatically discounting her views. It isn’t disrespectful. It trains you for many of life’s difficult situations where you have no power, and must endure.Despite what you may think now, it’s altogether likely your mother is correct. She has a lifetime of experience, and loves you. She is trying to protect you. It is her job to raise you well, so you are productive, and happy. Helping you avoid pitfalls is her aim.And if your mother is entirely wrong? Then that is her prerogative. You’ve argued with her, she sees things differently.
Should my mom be FORCING me to get a job?
This will be a little hard to explain, I will try to keep this question in short, simple terms. Thank you for clicking this. Since I was 9, my mom and I had received survivors benefits, because when I was 9 my dad died. Now that I am 18, I had to get a new insurance, and since I just graduated high school, the benefits (money from the government) will stop. My mom is trying to FORCE me to get a job. It has to be enough hours, and she says I HAVE to help her pay the pills, and give some of my money over to her. I don't even HAVE a job yet and she is making me pay her money, the money I get from the government! It's so crazy hearing, "You better have applied for TWO jobs by the time I come back from work!" Some people agree with her, "Help your mom out a little." others say, "I would never force my kid to get a job and pay me money." and, "It's not YOUR responsibility to pay her." My guidance counselor says, "She is just scared." My mom is always saying, "If you don't have a job by July...we will lose the house! We will slowly lose everything! The internet...the TV...the electricity..." I feel she pushes me WAY too much about it! So do you think I should be forced THIS much to get a job? Or what should she do? Or WE do? It's too much... Thanks for reading.
My mom still thinks I’m working. Should I tell my mom the truth that I quit my new job on the same day?
If you’re on your own (of majority age, living on your own, paying your own way), she probably has no need to know. If you felt comfortable sharing the information, you would not be posting this question. Adult children are not accountable to their parents for how they live their lives, though some parents tend to disagree. I think those parents may have forgotten the day they broke free from their own parents.
My parents are making me get a job and im only 16?
Ehh... Getting a job sucks, but once you start making your own money and being able to buy whatever you want, it's all worth it. I was in the same position as you. Once I realized that I had over two thousand dollars in the bank, it gave me a sense of accomplishment. I know this sounds lame... but really It's not all that bad.
How do I tell my Mum I have BDD and Agoraphobia?
"I am around lots of people and too paranoid about my appearance", may sum up your issues which sound like self-esteem related. Break the cycle and choose change. On a practical communication basis, write a letter to her if you refuse to discuss it verbally. Make sure you re-read the letter many times so that you only say what you need to say and not generate other issues Good luck More Peace
My Mom won't let me get a job. What to do?
So here's the deal, I'm 15 (will be 16 in only a few months) and I really want and need to get a job. We have VERY little money and buying the latest fashions, as I love to do, is hard because of upcomming bills and taxes needing to be paid. My mother is quite genrous in letting me go shopping, allowing me to buy a few items every week or so, and I'm very greatful for that. But I really want to get a job now that I'm old enough so that I can have extra money to spend on things for myself, as well as save for bigger purchases in the future. A while ago I brought up the subject of getting a job at a movie theater, and she had some doubts and gave me some lectures about peer presure, smoking, etc, but otherwise didn't make a big deal about getting a job, and in fact, didn't mind it, which is unusual for her. Then today I bring it up again and suddenly she changes her mind and goes back to her old ideas about getting a job and tells me NO. She didn't just say "no," she went on and on (like always, might I add) about how we need to just pray and wait for God to fix everything and that getting a job isn't the answer because that's what the rest of the 'world' does. SHE has a job, but I can't have one. She thinks if I get a job I'll have to work with creepy people and end up being influenced and become like 'the world' blah blah blah. I don't even like alchol, secondhand smoke makes me sick let alone would I want to firsthand smoke, and I don't want to have sex anytime soon. I don't do just anything to fit in. If anything, I like to stand out and be different rather than get lost in the crowd, blending in like a camilion. Sorry for all the rambling, I really should get down to the question. The point is, I need a job to buy things and save. I need to become more independent. I need to get out there to have a chance to make friends and have a social life. I need to prepare for learning how to live in this world as an adult one day. HOW do I convince her that I really want to take on this responsability without her getting offended all over again because of her beliefs?
I'm 16 and my mom won't let me get a job what should I do?
A job is an excellent experience in the life of a teenager. While the job itself is usually underpaid and minimal-skill, the fact of having had one for a couple of years makes a big difference to how easily you will get and keep a job as a graduate. Professor Google can give you the exact statistics. It also gives you a taste of your own money, that you genuinely earned, that you can save or spend, and learn to budget to get the best value for - and you have to learn time management, too, to get your homework done in the time you're not at work.You need to know why your mother is opposed to this to be able to persuade her. Maybe she had a lousy experience of work as a teen herself - bullying and harassment are still not uncommon, and as a teenage girl she may have experienced sexual harassment too. Boys can cop that too, but it's more common for teenage girls. If she did, she may well have suppressed the memory, and just have a lingering gut horror of letting a teenager unprotected into the workplace with adults.Or maybe she's worried about your grades, and the time aspect - you need to be honest with yourself about this, if your grades aren't what they should be she may have a point. In which case you need to first pick up your grades, and then look around for a holiday job.It's possibly she wants you to relax and enjoy being a child as long as you can, but those statistics should help with this argument at least - being a child too long can make it harder to be accepted as an adult when the time comes. Does she really want to put impediments in your way now that will affect your ability to get and keep a job once you graduate? A degree these days isn't the ticket to lifelong prosperity it once was. You need all the advantages you can get to be able to land a good, secure job, with all the benefits and privileges your grandparents took for granted at your age.If all else fails, talk to your school counsellor, welfare officer, or careers adviser, and ask them to talk to her for you. As an adult in a position of authority about you, their opinion may weigh much more heavily with her than yours does.Good luck. You're doing the right thing.