Our new neighbors keep knocking on our door asking to borrow things from our pantry. We can afford it, but we are tired of the intrusions. How do we make them stop asking to borrow food without making an enemy out of the people living next door?
Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. This is the first and great commandment. And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself. On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets.As you said you can AFFORD it and maybe the “intrusions” should remind you of how blessed you are? Of course If they wear Jimmy Choo’s and you don’t you can try:“Oh, you are a Godsend! I was just going to head over to your place for 4 avocados, my husband wants Guacamole and I am too lazy to run over to the supermarket.” And of course they don’t, so offer to take them with you to the store as you have to get Avocados or Guacamole.
My neighbor keeps giving my dog food without ever asking me or being me aware of it, is this normal?
Yes, there is something wrong with it. Assuming she's not feeding your dog because he's too thin or unhealthy (ie you are not feeding him properly), she is not at all justified in feeding your dog without your permission. Talk to her and tell her it's very nice of her, but you'd appreciate it if she clears any treats with you, plain and simple. Try to be nice and ask why she's doing it, and try to address whatever reasons she has in a neighborly but firm way.
My neighbor's dog keeps coming over my house and eating my dogs food what should I do to it?
Call the pound so someone else can better take care of this dog and not your numb nut neighbor.
How do I stop my neighbor(s) from ringing and knocking my door?
Ugh, sorry to hear you've got this problem. My first question is, is your dad or anyone else still giving these folks cigarettes or anything else? Because the first step in handling any situation like this is turning off the tap. Make it clear that there will be no more free food or smokes, and ignore any further pleas for help. These people are obviously freeloaders, and will continue to come around if they know they can badger your family into something. Stand strong, no matter what. Now, if you've already done that and/or that doesn't solve the problem, it may be time to involve the authorities. The police are one option, but there may be a few others to consider first. You might suggest to your dad to talk to the manager of the apartment complex and see if there's anything to be done there. There has got to be some sort of code of conduct for residents. If it comes down to the police getting involved, make sure your dad or you calmly but clearly point out relevant details, such as this woman has tried to keep your from closing your door and that the boy has essentially stolen from your dad's restaurant. The police are more likely to be able to do something if it appears this woman and her son have been acting in a hostile manner (and I consider putting my foot in someone's door jamb a hostile act) and/or perpetrated a crime. The police will know how to handle the situation, and if necessary, contact Child Protective Services (it sounds at least possible the boy is in a bad situation himself). The police can also advise your family on how to proceed in their dealings with this woman from there, as well. Best of luck to you, and sorry again you're having to deal with this issue.
How can I keep my neighbor from coming over uninvited everyday?
I agree with several of the other answers in things you might do to avoid her. But do be aware that people who are like this are invested in this way of "geting their things done" and may not know any other ways. They are often quite pushy (even in non-obvious, velvet ways) in getting you to do what they want, and in recognizing traits in others that will allow them to do that ("niceness," inability to create boundaries and to be assertive, etc). She may also have cognitive or personality/behavioral problems that don't allow her to pick up on subtle cues about relating and communicating to others. People with those problems often need stronger cues or outright statements that might otherwise sound impolite, just to get the message you're trying to convey at all (and that can be uncomfortable for people who don't normally relate like that, but can be done when they realize that's the language the other person can actually comprehend). http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dependent_p... https://www.google.com/search?q=co-depen... https://www.google.com/search?q=lack+of+... https://www.google.com/search?q=pushy+personality Until she moves (or you do) or gets a job or just gets interested in something else, you'll probably be dealing with this problem unfortunately. That will mean that you'll either become her doormat if she's aware of what she's doing, or her accomplice or co-dependent if she just has limited communication skills. We all have people like that in our lives to deal with sooner or later, and all have to figure out how to deal with them (what works, and what we'll tolerate), what's really going on, and how much we let them do it, etc. P.S. You really need to organize your writing a bit so people can understand you (and are willing to read your huge blocks of solid text). Using paragraphs is really important unless the text is short, even if you just use them to separate some of long blocks of text rather than to actually categorize the parts of what you want to say--the normal function of paragraphs.
Annoying neighbors, that won't stop mooching?
I just moved in with a room-mate (my husband, daughter and myself). And we got these neighbors that at first were ok. Now they are coming over everyday to use our internet, our telephone, our cable (cause they are too cheap to get theirs turned back on). Oh heck the neighbor even had the audacity to ask for a ride to work (he pays $5 gas sometimes but that's not the point). He mooches cigarettes and coke (very rare and seldom does he buy any though) and even when he knows it is around our supper time he and his family will come up to eat. I have told him point and point again that we cannot afford to feed our family and his too. For the past 2 months we have lived on half what he and his family does. And still have a moving and legal vehicle, garbage removal, food, telephone, internet and cable. A few times they even asked to come up and do laundry (of which we even have a washer and dryer). Thing is I keep our door unlocked (and they walk right in). So basically since we moved in with our room-mate we'd been supporting him, ourselves and the neighbors. If they were truely hard up I could possibly understand. But they make twice as much as we do (for the same amount of people). And his kids are always HUNGRY when they come here (eatting my two year olds lunches). As well as his live in girl friend or whatever you want to call her. Goes on a crack binge once a month (Yes I know for a fact that she does it...even taking bill money out of his underpants for her habit, but hey that ain't my problem if she can do that they can pay bills and feed their kids). But as a problem also I know for a fact that they abuse the welfare system (which makes it even worse one for doing that two for the fact that they still depend on us). Imagine the fact that 4 people living off of $698 a month and still manage to get by. And 4 moochers if you will living off of $1400 plus still mooching off of us. Normally this would still be a pretty big problem, but I am 7 months pregnant and it is just irritating the heck out of me.
If a neighbor comes over to visit and then keeps saying she is hungry, is that rude?
Are you a good cook? Lol. But really just give them something and ask them “why” they are always so hungry. If it turns out that they are just lazy and don't wanna cook, give them ONLY something that would not make them want more of (like an apple, plain carrot sticks, something you know they would NOT want). For that kind of person make sure that you HIDE that delicious apple pie or any other goodies that you may ave sitting out because it will be an automatic “I am hungry” if you know what I mean you may be a very good cook or they may know you keep yummy food.keep on doing this every time they come over sooner or later they will not bother to ask.Anyway, it's good to talk to that person about how their actions make you feel. It's hard sometimes, but important. PS. Don't let them near the kitchen
Will my neighbor's yard cats, who are always with me, forget me when I stop feeding them and my neighbor starts feeding them again?
No, but they will go where the food is. If you pet them and otherwise give them attention they’ll still come over for skritches. They’ll just go for the food back home is all. Cats are fairly uncomplicated about that. Their needs are Food, Safety, Comfort, Entertainment. Pretty much like people really. So, they’ll go for the food elsewhere and the rest? Well that's kinda up to you and what you are willing to give them.
How do I politely ask my neighbors to stop asking me for money , visiting all the time, and asking for rides?
My downstairs neighbors are nice enough people, but they come up all the time wanting to borrow money, (they do pay back SOMEtimes), always want me to drive them somewhere, (they have no car) and just knock on the door and sit down to visit any time of the day or night. They watch to see when I come and go and run to the car if I happen to try to leave when they want something. Ive tried telling them a couple of times, even thought of writing a letter, Ive told them a few times my car isn't good (it's on its last legs, truthfully), that I don't feel well ( not a lie), and they still persist. Im about at the end of my rope. There's no way to break my lease, and they aren't moving either. I am trying to be nice, but Im a private person and just do not want to "neighbor" like they do. Ive explained this to them, to no avail. I dont want to hurt their feelings or make them mad. Like I say, they're nice, but I feel are taking advantage, and/or being too dependent. They're in their 30s and should be capable of going about their life without me catering to them every day. They seem to be becoming more and more "familiar" and it's adding to my already limited stress threshhold. Does anyone have any suggestions? Thanks.
If my neighbour is enticing my cat into her house with food, how should I deal with the situation?
Be polite, tell your neighbor that she is feeding your cat. Let her know you don't want to give your cat away. Keep your cat indoors as well. Document your ownership if the cat with pictures, vet records and a micro chip. Tell her to go to the local shelters to find a furry friend of her own. There are many homeless cats in need of a home. If she won't listen to reason you may have to take legal action.If you are taking great care of your cat with proper food, attention and medical bills then the law will be on your side. Give your cat treats or his favorite food to entice him back to your side. Play or pick him up, let him know you are happy to be his human. Cats can't be forced to be friendly so you have to work in getting your cats affection back.