Why do i feel like my older brother hates me?
my brother and i used to be BEST friends. we are 15 months apart. he is about to turn 14. all of a sudden, he has nothing nice to say to me. he criticizes me, and even when i do something that makes me feel proud, like do really good on the fitness gram like he has always pushed me to get, he says stuff like "so what? that isn't EXTREMELY great. i can do better". it hurts me. i might ask him to help me do homework. he tries to show me. i say "oh i get it now!" halfway through and he will say "no, you don't!" without letting me show him that i do! earlier tonight i asked if he could help me with my itouch as it wasnt working. he completely acted like a jerk about it! as if i was being stupid for not knowing what to do! and he didn't even fix it! my dad finaly did. those are some of the LEAST bad things! sometimes he makes fun of a lisp that i have. just to hurt my feelings! and half the time he acts like I'M the bad guy! i admit, i will yell at him, but i NEVER start it! unless you call asking a simple wuestion starting a fight. the guy just doesn't seem to understand EMOTION! like how people feel hurt when their favorite person in the world is mean to them. my stepmom , mom, stepdad, and dad all ask why i let him bother me. they say i should just ignore him and that he isn't worth the energy i put into trying to get along with him. he does make me cry on a regular basis with the HORRIBLE things he says to me, but i can't detach myself from him. i love my brother more than anything in the world. he treats me like i'm scum. please help me! i've tried every trick in the book. from ignoring him, to avoidance, to politeness and walking away. NOTHING WORKS! :'''(
My older brother hates my boyfriend, help?
Everyone else in my family likes him. But my brother despises him because he knows he is from the far left (me, as well as all my family are form the far right). But I can overlook that. He claims "He looks to girly, seems vain, and is too ugly for you." In other words, he has no goddamn good reason to dislike him, but alas, he does! How do I make him see my boyfriend as the wonderful person he actually is? Everyone who knows him knows he isn't vain or ugly, but my brother claims I'm "blinded by love." Advice?
Why does my older brother hate me?
My brother and I are 15 months apart. Im 18 and he's 20 so I feel like we should get along by now. My entire childhood i've always felt like I've liked my brother more than he has liked me. I would always ask him for help/advice, ask to play with him, and sometimes get him little presents yet he would always respond the same way: Why are you here, go away, nobody likes you... in 8th-9th grade there was a period where he would actually physically hit me and tell his friends to stay away from me when they came over. I thought maybe I was annoying him so I tried staying out of his way and things would die down for a little bit until he got bored and started fights. I tried telling my parents but they always sided with him (they have always preferred him because he was the smarter more outgoing child) He is away in college and I thought things would be different now but he has never reached out once and months go by before I see him. Recently My parents and I drove 10 hours to visit him in college and when we got there he hugged my parents and was really polite but I didn't even get a look in my direction. I guess I was stupid to think he would miss me... then we spend the rest of the trip with him and his roommate. His roommate wouldn't look at me much, probably because my brother has told him bad things about me. like seriously were not in 8th grade! to make matters worse he makes little digs at me in front of other people and it makes me sad and embarrassed. Ex: You should give ___ the extra blanket since she is a cold-blooded lizard, You dont even know what you're talking about be quiet
Why do I hate my older brother?
Has anyone told you that “Hate is love in disguise”?Or…The reason why we hate someone is because we see something in them which reminds us of the things that we hate about ourselves (Sigmund Freud)The only one who can give an answer to your question is only yourself.Evaluate your hate.Is your brother like this? Are you like that too? Do you hate yourself for being that?Do you hate him for being this? Do you do that too?What do you hate about him? What do you hate about yourself?Explore more questions.If you really think that none of these seem applicable to you, then the reason might be caused by sibling rivalry, where someone is getting more attention than the other. And the best way to resolve this is to talk this to your parents.
My little brother hates me! help?
It's probably because your relationship with him has changed and he does not know how to accept this. Help him and you will help yourself, too. Think about the things he enjoys doing and then sit down with him when he is alone. Tell him you miss hanging out with him and want some one on one time doing what he/you like together. Just the two of you...and maybe five minutes alone with him a day can remind him of how special he is to you during these changing times. Remember to hug and kiss him everyday.
My older brother hates my boyfriend...?
My brother is five years older than me and he's never been the vocal type or the one to show any emotion. We love each other and argue but he's never had it out for any of my past boyfriends. The guy I am seeing now is also five years older than me and is British. He's a naturally laid back and relaxed guy and always takes my brothers insults in such a calm way (I don't know how he does it. I would have flipped a long time ago). And my brother tells me I'm not allowed to see him anymore and that he'll ruin my life. My boyfriend spends a lot of time back and forth between his country and the USA and is always busy trying to move here. My brother tells me that my boyfriend is being unfaithful to me because whenever he's in London he doesn't talk to me everyday. Sometimes it's like once or twice a week but it would be for a couple hours. I really like this guy and I know he likes me in return. We have such great Chemisty please help :) How can I get my Brother to understand because I'm out of ideas... :(
I feel like my brother hates me?
Since I was little, like 5, he has called me fat. He would say things like "Come on mom, look at her. What have you been feeding that thing?" Even my own family would laugh at this, especially my mother and other brother who is about 7 years older than me. One time, everyone was laughing at me, and I just ran crying into my parents room and my mother came in and yelled at me for making my brother feel bad by leaving. He had me starting to skip meals and count calories/carbs by age 9. Whenever he came home from college, I would hide in my room all day because when ever I was around him he would make me feel like ****. And my mother would always say things that would be perfect for my brother to use against me, like "Wow Libby is that your SECOND plate already?" This resulted in my avoidant personality. This carried on into school. I became paranoid that the "popular" people (which was literally every girl except for me) were saying nasty things behind my back, which they were. They still say things like "wow that shirt makes you look pregnant" I became extremely afraid of being rejected/criticized for my actions, and always took them personally. it got to a point that whenever a teacher told me why my answer was wrong my eyes started to water. At home, when i did stand up for myself, he would hit me or my mom would just yell at me because she's stupid. Though now he doesn't hit, he still says the most hurtful things. He says I'm stupid and not worth anything and that he is superior to me and how he will be making hundreds of thousands of dollars a year and I'll end up on the street, and that if I ever needed financial help he would never help me in a million years. I guess the point is, it's not so much the nasty comments from my brother, it's the fact that my own family doesn't seem to care about my feelings. I've learned to just keep my mouth shut and take it.
My 15 year old older brother hates me. What should I do?
He is 15 and every 15 year old guy hates his sister whether she is elder to him or younger to him.Since you are younger, he is expected to be a role model for you in whatever he does. He is responsible for every mischief that both of you do. And He is 15. He is going through a lot of changes himself.So all you need to do is Relax !!A big brother will never hate his baby sister . He will always and I repeat Always will love you.Cheers !
My half brother hates me?
I'm 16 and I moved in with my bio dad and his family last August. I didn't have any contact with him until I was 14 and last year my mother's drug abuse allowed my dad to get full custody of me. I moved from Queens NY to Vermont and let me tell you, its one hell of a difference! My dad's been great and we've been able to talk openly about things and my step mom is really nice. I have 2 half brothers and 1 half sister and the problem I'm having is with the youngest sibling, my half bro Andy age 13. He doesn't like me. How do I know? Because he's told me. Whenever we do something as a family he makes it a point not to sit next to me whether it's in the car, on the couch, or at dinner. Last week we went out for dinner and he absolutely refused to slide into the booth to sit next to me. Andy doesn't even look at me. He deletes my homework off the computer, he changes the channel when I'm watching something, he's flushed the toilet when I'm in the shower and his favorite thing to do is to trip me. My dad has sat us down and we've had "family meetings" but Andy hasn't changed. I would like to have a good relationship with him but he's such an ***. I know a lot of his behavior is immature and I've tried ignoring it but I'm really starting to get pissed off. I should also mention that when I moved in with my dad they gave me what was supposed to be Andy's bedroom. They had just finished their basement and he was going to have his own room until I came along, so I think he resents me partly for this. I don't want to create any problems because I like living here and I don't want to move and change schools again. Can anyone offer some advice? Is there anything I can do to get him to like me? Thanks, Matt
What do you do if your brother hates you?
First of all, I don’t think your brother actually HATES you. Hate is a very strong word, I think he’s just mad at you.He might be growing up and want some time for himself.Maybe having a bad day.He can be stressed out or overwhelmed.Once teenagers grow up, it’s very common for them to get mood swings. I don’t know if your brother is a teen, but getting through puberty might getting him ‘hating’ you. If your brother is ignoring you, just let him ignore you. If he yells at you, don’t argue back. It’ll just make things worse. Just wait until he calms down, and talk to him. Find out why he strongly dislikes you or ‘hates’ you.In my experience, I have a brother too. He get’s mood swings and gets angry at some points. But then we just move on and live on like nothing happened. Whenever he get’s mad, the best way for me is to just leave him alone. When people are mad, it’s not a good time to talk to them.I hope this helped you and smooth things down with your brother and you!-Dakota