Why does my "true friend" hate fat people?
Okay, we'll its kinda a long story I guess..she came to my school like 2 years ago I think and she was totally skinny and beautiful I'm not going to lie, But I hated her..the first day she was always with boys and that and wouldn't care for friendship like seriously..and then I left to Canada..and came back a year later, I finished in my old school and she was still there..When I saw her I hated myself. But, I didn't let it get to me. Anyways, with time passing by..we became true friends like kinda as a best friend but I don't actually count her as a best friend, And I will never. So, I'm fat..and she's like totally underweight, she loves her self so much. So..I asked her on ask.fm if she likes people that are fat..and she answered "HAHAHAHAHAHAHA no :o" and I was shocked, like if she hates fat people why does she like me? And..I asked her again "why don't you like fat people?" She was like.."because they look like pregnant people Hahahhahaha" this one killed me, and there's more..I asked "you love yourself way to much!" And she was like "we'll, I do love my self a lot, and I deserve." It happened like a few minutes ago and I don't know what to write her back..she doesn't know it's me but anyway..why is she pretending to love me? Help
My friend is overweight. Should I tell her? If I should, how?
I’ll play the devil’s advocate here by way of a short anecdote from my life.When I left for college, I was thin and an athlete. I worked out and ran nearly daily. After the first semester, I sort of fell into a funk and stopped working out. Now, looking back through all those years, I realize that it was probably full-blown depression. When I felt bad, I ate and bought things. As a result, I put on nearly 120 lbs in the course of less than a single year. I also maxed out my credit cards, failed classes, and alienated most of my friends because I always wanted to stay in my room.It sounds unbelievable to say it, but I barely noticed the weight. Of course, I noticed my clothes no longer fit and I had to buy new clothes. I just didn’t realize how bad it had gotten. Not even close. Here’s what gets me: not a single person said a word. Not even people that supposedly cared about me, like family or friends. They must have assumed that I obviously knew. I didn’t.I agree with some of the other answers, though. If you do decide to talk to her about it, make sure, absolutely sure, that you have the relationship foundation to bring it up. Also, make sure that it comes from a place of true caring, not just because she doesn’t fit into some societal idea of beauty.
Why do people not want to be friends with overweight people?
I'm one of those “shallow” people. You will probably say I'm prejudiced, maybe too insecure to be seen with them. Whatever bad things you might think about me, sure, but I live in the U.S. Also, I'm in my late 50′s. That means virtually everyone around me is at least overweight, if not obese.So, as much as I hate it, nearly all of my friends, family, and such, are likewise overweight. I have little choice in the matter, but would prefer it otherwise. Since we are mostly in that matter stage of life, and obese do tend to die off younger than necessary, occasionally they do drop out.As one obese person in my inner circle dies off I don't eagerly add yet another obese person to take their place. But, when it's in the family, and the spouse remarried, I have no choice.It's sad when a person you love and care for dies. Even worse when they were younger, or around your age, and dies from something that was entirely preventable.Some young people might say I'm old, and I am getting a bit tired of watching relatively young people die, needlessly. Ironically, I'm still able to do just about everything I could do when I was 20, maybe more, but my peers have trouble getting up from a chair, or making it through the day.Anyway, if you are overweight, I don't know you, or why you do it, that's your choice. I've made a few bad choices in my life, too. I just don't want to go through watching someone close die young yet again. Right now I'm a bit busy trying to help a friend recover from heart surgery. Another close call for someone that hasn't even reached retirement age. He was like you, convinced he was different, wouldn't have trouble from the excess weight. That the doctors were wrong, etc.Thanks for giving me the chance to vent a little. Now, please go back to eating and drinking as usual.
Why do skinny people hate fatties?
I don't get it. What is it about us that makes thin people so angry? It's probably the common myth that all fatties (no offense, I hate euphemisms) are lazy and eat nothing but junk food all day long. I'm not going to make excuses, I overate for a long time because I was trying to stuff down bad feelings due to emotional and psychological abuse but I should have gotten counsel ling at the time instead of binge eating so it's my own fault, I know that. All you can do is forgive yourself, and I'm a different person now. I look back at that horrible time in my life and feel sad for the young woman I used to be because I was extremely unhappy. I have this neighbor who, every time he sees me gives me a load of abuse. He's even followed me up the street cursing me out saying you fat *** using all the obscene language under the sun. He's even come to my apartment (stood outside the closed door) and threatened to beat me up. If he did follow through, I would call the police IMMEDIATELY. He seems like the nasty vindictive type (I don't really know this person except that I've seen him around sometimes as he lives a few apartments away). Idiots yelling things from cars I can handle, but I've also gotten nasty comments from people older than myself (I'm 36) who should be mature enough to know better. Thin people loathe us, or is it that they are scared of becoming us? It's hard when you have constant pressure to be thin, especially when you have a legitimate medical condition like an under active thyroid, which makes it extremely hard to lose the pounds. I've suffered bad periods of depression because of the constant dieting and feeling let down when I know I've done as much as I can but it still doesn't work. And I'm not saying 'poor me', most of the time the morons who hate on me can go and get ***** but at the same time I do get down about it and don't understand why there is such hostility toward fat people like we're less than everyone else. People with drug and alcohol addictions are given more regard in the community whilst fatties are degraded and made to feel like low lifes for similar problems.
Why do people hate fat people?
because they eat better than skinny people
Do employers hate fat people?
You look attractive to me and I have no issues with your appearance. To answer your question and not provide a p.c. superficial response, I do think employers discriminate against overweight people but I don't think they consiously do it. People are generally drawn to attractive people on some subconcious level and that will never change. Also, people who are attractive give the impression they are well put together and in control of their life. Finally, I think some people actively and deliberately discriminate against overweight people because they think that hiring someone attractive will generate more business than hiring someone who is overweight and may be deemed unattractive.