Why do my parents go through my stuff then throw things away?
I may get a lot of thumbs down for this, but I definitely go through things. My 17 year old niece lives with me, and I do it to kind of keep an eye on what's going on with her. I've caught her in a lot of lies, and I have to know what she's up to. I want to make sure she's not doing drugs or getting into things can cause her harm. I have a responsibility to make sure she's ok. Your room is yours, but parents need to keep track of your activities. I know she does get upset at me, but I've explained it to her. I have found, but never read her diary. That I don't do! I also don't throw her stufff away. I don't do it all the time, maybe once a month at the most. I have definitely found things that she and I needed to talk about, because she needed guidance. You are still a child, like she is. You don't have a lot of life experience yet. Your parents do. However, if your are being honest, your situation is a little different, because I don't laugh at her or call her names. Is there a reason that they do this? Have you been in trouble for them to be "always mad" at you? Are you a slob, and they are cleaning your room? I used to do that to my step-son. His room was always a total pigsty, and I can't deal with that, so I would go in and take out all the garbage. If something he wanted got thrown away with the trash, oh well. I told him if he wanted it so bad, he should have cleaned his own room, because he knew if he didn't, I was going to. Maybe you can talk to an adult you trust, like an aunt and see if she can talk to your parents ans see if she can either reason with them, or possibly give you some insight to which of your behaviors are causeing them to do that.
My mother won't let me throw anything away, what should I do?
I have a bookshelf that I'm trying to get rid of. I've had since i was five years old (i'm fifteen now) and it's covered in stickers, paint, and the wood is very worn and scratched, so I thought it should be about time that I let my parents sell it/take it to a wood recycler; but the problem is no matter how hard I try, my mom will NOT let me take it out of my room. Everytime I try to protest she yells at me and makes up excuses for why I can't even at least put it in the garage for now. I've tried telling her about how worn and broken it is now (the slides inside are broken), but instead of trying to cooperate (i don't even want a new one, i just want this one gone) she yells at me wildly about how expensive it was to buy, which is pointless to worry about now as it's nowhere near it's original worth. I don't what to do. My room is quite tiny, i literally only have enough room to walk around my bed, and have two drawers. There is absolutely no room for it, and every time I even shuffle it the tiniest bit, it whacks the wall (i have a lot of dents now) Can anyone help try to convince her? :( (also i'm sorry if i've put this in the wrong category ^_^)
My parents have thrown away a lot of personal things from when I was a child without telling me. I am very upset how about it. How should I react and what can I do about it?
Get over it or go crazy. My ‘mom’ (I use that term very loosely these days) did the “de-Christopherization” of her home after my father passed away. I started getting strange crap in the mail, like things from kindergarten and grade school. They came in an envelope with NO letter attached.Then something VERY odd happened in January of this year. I had moved, and not told my mom/sister where I had moved, as to cut ties. One morning, on my front doorstep was MY HIGH SCHOOL GRADUATION PICTURE that had been hanging in my parent’s hallway since the 1970’s.Think that was a weird feeling? YOU BET. I felt like my mom/sis had stalked my and were outside my home without my knowledge.Sometime during the night, it was dropped off. MY MOTHER IS A FUCKING NUTBAG!
My parents are always threatening to throw away my stuff if I don't clean my room. Is this really ok?
When my son was around 15 his room was a disgusting mess. It was filthy and unhygienic. It STANK.I gave him a week to tidy it up so that I could clean it properly. It didn't have to be immaculate but I needed to be able to vacuum the carpet, clean the windows and wipe the surfaced. His collection of dirty dishes needed to go into the dishwasher. His bedding needed changing. There was nothing in his drawers or cupboards, it was all on the floor.Naturally he did nothing. As a 15 year-old boy he knew better than I. I was his Mum, he didn't need to worry.So when the week was up I went into his room and put everything into rubbish sacks (except the crockery, I wasn't going to waste my crockery!). I cleaned his room, it looked (and smelled) great!I put all the rubbish bags (there were many!) out on the back lawn.When he got home he was really angry. He told me I had no right to do that, it was HIS stuff.I just asked him quietly who had paid for his stuff? Who provided a roof over his head? Who made sure he was fed, clothed and cared for? Who worried that the mouldy crockery would make him ill? Who was the person who stood beside him no matter what?And then I asked him why he thought it was OK to treat me and our home like it was rubbish.He went out and sorted through his stuff. He carried things back to his room and put them away. He asked me to show him how to use the washing machine.That day he went from being a selfish little shit into a man. He still made a mess (he was a 15 year-old after all!). But when I said his room was getting messy he tidied it up.Fast-forward 18 years. He's now a Dad of 3 boys.His boys put their laundry in the washing basket, return their crockery to the kitchen. They put their rubbish in the bin.We moved house this past year and he came to help me.He smiled, gave me a box and said “Mum, you have 10 minutes to collect everything you want to take with you, after that it's going in the bin”.He learned. He is a FANTASTIC human being and I'm so proud of him.I'm glad I did what I did.
Throwing a Party When My Parents Go Out of Town?
House parties are a bad idea. I've been there WITH my parents support and supervision of collecting keys etc. It is a hassle and more trouble than you need. In a few years you may realize that a smoking and drinking night is a better idea. Take ten people tops; people you know and trust. Have a get together, fire up the grill; kick back a few beers; and twist one up if you are into that. I was not when I was sixteen. Have someone who is 21 there and it will look a lot better if the piggers show up. Also keep a bowl with all the car keys in it. The police will care more about the drunk driving and possibility of illegal drugs in your house than a bunch of teenagers getting loaded and having sex with each other. Talk to your neighbors. Tell them you are going to have a few friends over and things may get a little loud. Above all else be prepared for a call that night from your parents. Do not plan openly, be discreet and hide the fact that you are hiding something because they can tell more than you know. A good idea is to play it off that you are not even going to be home that night. If they expect an empty house, they will not suspect a party. Get my drift on that? If things go bad, they can get really bad. Let the people park near the house. People down the street will be looking for a reason as to why all these strange people are parking in front of their houses and walking around at night. Concentrate all your suspicions (noise, people, excess cars etc.) into one spot where it will not bother anyone. I would advise against a house party personally. My suggestion is go into the woods. Have a few friends help you scout out a spot that is easily accessible but far enough out that no one will see or hear you. Back up the cars turn on the lights (NO FIRE... FOREST RESCUE WILL COME) and have a party. The nice thing about this is that people can scatter before the police can get to the party. It is easy to hide anything illegal, and you can ditch the alcohol. They can not prove that it is your alcohol. I know a guy who got off with possession of 9 tabs if LSD like that. He threw it, had the 10th tab under his tongue at the time. It was better for him to be out $90 than to be in a police car. Plan, have a friend or two help you find everything you need, and run through your plan several times to see what can go wrong and how to prevent it before it happens.
Is it okay for your parents to throw away your stuff?
I have to deal with that kind of **** on a daily basis, so I feel you. Seriously, it sucks. It pisses me off SO much, you have no idea. My mom does the same, and some things I've found out that work are: 1. When I'd cry infront of her(like literally sob for hours on end), she wouldn't throw away my stuff for some time. You could try to make her feel sorry for you. 2. I recently told my mom that because she throws away things I own without asking me, I've turned into a compulsive hoarder(truth). I think that really made her think as she hasn't thrown away anything for about a month now. 3. Hide away or repair things that your mom might consider 'useless'. For example, I have a pair of shoes that I LOVE and have worn to death. They look a bit worn but I don't care. When my mom started joking about throwing them, I repaired them with black patent shoe polish so she wouldn't. And guess what, she still hasn't! 4. Do your own laundry, lock your room, etc. 5. Give her a taste of her own medicine. My sister did this once. She threw away EVERYTHING in my mom's wardrobe out on the living room floor because my mom threw her jeans away...crazy. I wouldn't recommend this, but you might just have to if things get REALLY bad. I know I sound crazy right now, but this is a MAJOR problem for me. I'm obsessive over my things pretty much to the point where I can't let anyone enter my room and not think that they're going to throw something away. And I get attached really quickly to material objects, which sucks. I don't have it in me to even throw away receipts/price tags because I just don't ever want to lose anything. Okay, I'll stop talking now. Hopefully this will not turn you into the paranoid, crazy f***er I am today. If you ever get sad over this, I just want you to know that somewhere out there goes through the same. Stay strong babe x
Can my parents throw away my computer?
I'm 17 years old, I live in Texas and I bought this computer with my money. My parents dont want me having a computer and want to throw it out, can they legally throw it out or am I able to keep it? I just spent 2000$ on it and would REALLY prefer it not be thrown out... All help is welcomed, thanks ^_^
Sister throwing your stuff away?
First calm down- it is after all only stuff and replacable. If you can't bring this to your parents attention which I'm guessing you can't because when you do it's hysterical yelling and crying or they just want peace and ignore you for awhile and you give up. I say those things because I'm guilty of them sometimes with my preteen who can drive me crazy with drama. You need to calmly and when your mother or father has time to talk bring up this issue. Ask mom or dad if you can talk to them about something that is bothering you. If they say not now ask when would be a good time and stress you really want to talk without being too insistent. Then when you can say something along these lines. "I don't want to make trouble but XYZ has been coming into my room without my permission and throwing things away I consider important." Then STOP wait for them to respond often kids rush through things and parents don't get to talk. They will ask like what so be prepared with a list of things that ARE important, broken things, papers etc may not seem relevant but a report card, Products that cost money etc are since they cost yoru parents money. Explain you are concerned because replacing them is expensive and you would just like them to speak to her to respect your space. Be prepared to defend yourself calmly if they point out things you have done to her and offer to respect her space and refrain from fighting. Point out you wanted to talk to them because you felt speaking to her would only cause a fight and you didn't want to be disruptive. Hopefully the advice for talking to mom and dad will work. Short of getting permission for a lock and key you may be stuck with sis getting into your stuff. You could try hiding your things or retalition but it rarely works out and well siblings drive each other nuts it is just life. My sister's still manage to do it and we are all grown and married.
I threw away my parent's cigarettes and my mum just blew up at me. What do I do? Please help me!?
I honestly believed I was doing the right thing because my dad was trying to quit smoking. So I threw it away. I don't know what to do. I feel like such a fool. Acc. to my mother in her clenched teeth outburst she threateaned to kick me out of the house. Please tell me what to do to stop feeling so depressed and find a way to calm my mother down.