My parents are ashamed of me and my sister and they make sure we know of it. It hurts a lot that they think so low of us.we are Indian. What do I do?
Why are they ashamed of you? What is your age? Is it your academic achievement they are ashamed of?The only way I can think of is to confront them (not in a violent or retaliatory manner) and ask them the reason for their behaviour. It could be that you are mis-reading their behaviour to be of shame.Sometimes, parents tend to dump their own unfulfilled ambitions on their children. This could lead to strange situations where a boy who’s good in art is forced to take up engineering! Nowadays, IIT is considered the epitome of engineering studies, so many parents get upset when their children can’t get through the JEE.Tell your parents to accept you and your sister as you are. We are all blessed with some special skill. It may not be very apparent. It may take years to find out. Today I read of a guy who liked rapping in Hindi. He now does compering at weddings!So don’t lose heart, try to do well in your academics but don’t lose your ‘freshness’. And don’t lose faith in yourself.
Are my parents ashamed of me, because I’m fat and already 17, yet no guy has ever said they liked me? My friends all have a fair share of guys who drool over them. Even my Mom said she used to have lots of suitors at my age.
I doubt your parents are ashamed not you.If they are ashamed of you just because of weight, f*ck em. They're suppose to be your champions regardless of what you do in life (baring extreme things; murder, rape, etc…duh).Now if you're worried about your weight and your social life being affect by said weight, you have a couple options I think:Lose weight through healthy diet and exercise until you're happy with your weight and social life. (Yes yes I know it's not exactly morally correct to discount someone based on their looks/weight but let's be realistic. People do.)Wait for someone to come along that works for you and your situation and focus more on a career/friends.Either way, I wish you the best of luck :)
My parents are ashamed of me?
I have some of these same problems, and find it difficult to get up and do things, so I do have an understanding of your situation. However, this will still sound harsh. You seem to have given up. As you say, 'I have disabilities and will probably never have a job'. That's quite a definitive statement to make at 24. I know you find doing things difficult, but how hard do you actually try? You also don't say whether you're receiving any treatment. Some of the symptoms of NLD can be treated with anti-depressants and other drugs. Vitamin D deficiency can be improved greatly by simply getting some sunshine, and I know from my own experience that taking some forms of contraception reduces the symptoms of PCOS. Also, imagine how frustrating it is for your parents. It probably seems to them (and only you know if this is true) that you're using your problems to avoid doing anything you don't want to do, like your chores. Why shouldn't you do things around the house if you're not working? It may take you longer, but it might feel good to do something. Do your disabilities stop you going out with your friends or seeing your girlfriend? If not I think you understand why your parents might be cross. I have manic depression, so I know how difficult it can be to scrape yourself out of bed and do something. But the more you embrace that the more difficult it is to get out of it. I live with my partner, and I'm the cook. It doesn't matter how down I am or how tired I feel I set myself the target of ALWAYS making the dinner. That way I've got something to get up for, I do at least one thing in the day, and I have the satisfaction of making something tasty and my partner enjoying it, even if I don't eat myself.
Is it okay to feel 'ashamed' your parents?
I would not call this ashamed butcause I mean it's not her fault she isn't as advanced as you. you have to think when she went to school they were taught allot different than now. Now we focus more on that type of stuff. Even if she is in colege know we all know when your younger that is the time you learn and etain the most information!! So know it will beharder fo rher to remmeber all this new grammar stuff. I myslef overpassed my mom in math when I was in 7th-8th grade!!!!! I was in honors and this year I even skipped my Junior year. My younger sister and my mom look up to me for all those school answers i look as it as returning the favor for all the things my mom has done for me. it is totally understandbable why you feel this way. i mean when you were younger your parents were like the ones who knew EVERYTHING. Just remember things were allot different when she went to school and know she looks up to you when it comes to grammar and stuff like that. All your seeing is how you are achieving mor ethan your parents, which is what most parents hope that thier children achieve. Just keep that postive look on the situation and remember that she does do very well in life since she makes that type of money and you know in other areas of studies she excells. She is just like anyone else who has their weak points and you are just that person that helps her with her own weak points.
Shouldent my dad be ashamed?
Its always bad when a divorce occurs.. Especially when the children are a part of it.. Your father believe or not is trying to put your sister on solid ground with living her life in a social setting..I know it doesn't seem that way,,but that's what he is trying to do..Bad language,,and threats don't help matters,,but you have to realize that both of you children are minors,,and as such,,your parents are responsible for your actions and behaviors..Your dad and mom are both hurting,,and I'm not here to defend or say who was right or the cause of the divorce..But it happened and now all of you have to adjust to the fact !!Your sister WILL call your mother ,,for sure!! And you must try to be non-confrontational in your relationship with your mom or dad.. Believe me,,it will work out better for everyone if all of you just try to be civil and if possible with each other..You know,, when both of you are 18yrs old,, you can do as you wish.. But for now,,I would just 'cool it'.. And I realize also that's sometimes hard to do..But that IS what will get ALL of you through this difficult period.. I do wish you luck,,keep on trying.. SOLOMON
Should i be ashamed of being rich?
the other day my "friend" came up to me and said that his dad said i needed to get a grip on reality. My dad has a really high paying job and i have a nice car but never in my life have i bragged, showed off, or even told people what my parents get me or how i live. When he said this to me i couldn't understand why and it just got me to thinking that other people think this about me. Even more i don't understand why his dad would say that when i've never met him in my life. I have good grades (3.5 gpa) and i always work hard and mind my own business. I have a job during the summer and i try not to ask my parents for much cuz i hate having expensive things that other people will look at and think "theres another rich boy". I'm embarrassed to have people over to my house because they'll see what my life is like and see all the things that my family has. I feel depressed whenever i think about it and all i can think is that the people are right and im going to fail in life.
My dad is ashamed of me and it hurts?
I am so sorry that you are going through this. It is painful when a parent does not accept you. I think you should talk to your dad, tell him that you notice his distance from you and point blank ask him if your weight is the issue. If he answers you honestly, tell him that you want to change but weather you do or not, you need his love, acceptance and support no matter what you look like. Actively seek the resources to loose weight and remember that you are a worthwhile person no matter what, and I hope your father sees this and knows that his changed feelings make a difference to you. Best of luck to you.
I feel really sad and ashamed. I have disappointed my parents greatly. How do I cope with this?
My parents wanted me to be an engineer. Sent me to a good university, and naturally expected me to, a romanticising philosopher at heart, to be the best engineer there is.I worked harder than anyone else around me.I cried when I failed an exam because my dad would be very disappointed.I had a nervous breakdown when all my friends graduated, while I still had to retake a few exams, fearing disappointing my dad more than failure.Then came a divine realisation that changed my life. Hallelujah.I am my own person. I am not my parents expectations. I can’t spend my entire life, defying my own dreams, just to make sure they’re happy. This is where it gets dark. Sooner or later, they will pass on, and I will have lived a life full of unaccomplished goals, and forgotten dreams.Who’s expectations will I try to fulfill then? What will define my life then?Since then, I graduated without an honours degree because I failed two of my subjects, struggled to find a job for a short period, and eventually landed a pretty sweet gig, not as an engineer.Now my parents talk about me with pride. They tell me they worry about my siblings settling down, but never about me, because I managed to “make it”.Give it time. Do the best you can. Your parents will see that. Listen to them, try to make them proud, but don’t do it at the cost of your long term happiness.And I’ll let you on a little secret. Your parents would rather see you happy than miserable, with whatever you do in life.
I'm ashamed of myself. I've just troubled my parents all my life. I hate myself. What should I do?
Change by making your new life goal to become successful in achieving something they or you never thought would happen. Identify each of the things you specifically hate about yourself. Then, list how that affected you or your parents negatively (you have to figure out what made each thing so bad enough to hate) Then ask yourself what is the opposite of that. Like if you hadn't done those things then what exactly would or wouldn't have happened. Then figure out what would be the best way to never do that again. Parents are kind of like credit bureaus they like it when you can prove that you can take care of yourself and be consistently timely and responsible. Think about it this way…prove to yourself and to them that you can be just as or more successful and responsible than them even with your bad credit. Go find a way to build credit in life whether its finding a nice partner, job, or college that you have to impress,maintain, and become a role model for. Then when you get married promoted or graduate share your success only at that time with your parents. Meanwhile let them just observe you trying to get there, but don't do it for them, do it because you want to be a good person that feels proud of themselves. Become the person that people would love to introduce to others. You can do it. There's always always a way. Keep in mind you have to get rid of bad habbits, relationships, or locations first and forever if and when you are ready to change.
I think my dad is ashamed of me?
If it makes you feel any better, the entire parent/child relationship is fundamentally flawed. Most parents expect little carbon copies of themselves when they procreate, but the reality of the matter is that they are not creating duplicates, they're creating individuals. If your father can't deal with your individuality (and/or you can't muster the strength to seize it), it's really nobody's fault. You'd think it'd be his for not having a more open mind and letting you be yourself, but parenthood doesn't come with manuals and most adults are just children in disguise. Age is not, sadly, a measure of wisdom or maturity, and just because someone can become a parent doesn't mean they should. I'm obviously just guessing, but I suspect that when your dad was in high school, he was either a.) a bully or b.) physically bullied. I mean, sure, it might appear that he's being a jerk, but maybe he's just trying to save you the pain and humiliation of his teenage years. Or maybe you're just oversensitive because you're afraid of being a disappointment to him. At the end of the day, you're going to have to decide what's more important to you. Your dad's opinion of you or your opinion of yourself. Is there a way to circumvent the parent/child relationship? Sadly, no, but it does get better. Eventually, you'll be able to move out and move on with your life, at which point, you'll be so busy living your own life that your dad's opinion of you won't really matter. Until then, just remember that your dad had a dad, too. Chances are, that's where he learned to be a parent, so when/if you decide to procreate, remember that providing your kid with unconditional love is far more important than how much he can lift. Hang in there!