Should we obey every good advice of our parents?
When I was a kid ,I didn't enjoy obeying my parents all the time.This attitude became even more apparent when I stepped into my teenage years. It was a drain on my fun and I always interpreted them as a cruel beings.But I was wrong!Obedience is for our own's good. To succeed in life, we must learn boundaries, distinguish between right and wrong,and take on responsibilities.Now coming to the point where you asked “should we obey every good advice of our parents?”Yes ! Definitely yes! You are well aware that your parents are giving you good advice (that's what you mentioned here) so,where’s the confusion? Obeying them is an act of respect ,it is not a degrading sign of weakness. so do it!Not to mention, sometimes the suggestion might not be a complete match with your requirements. In such cases, you can perform some desired modifications to make it compatible.The one thing that you must never forget is that at the end , responsibility will be yours.The incurred profit or loss will affect you ,only you or your loved ones, especially your parents. THEY KNOW YOU BETTER!
What is the worst advice from parents to their children?
These are just a few I have been living with:- Focus on your studies and do not care about anything else. (No! I want to have friends and to have fun too!)- You have to become a doctor. If you need to improve your grades, you can spend a year on it. (I did not want to be a doctor and I still do not. There was no way to convince me to remain a year studying to improve my grades.)- Your life is over. There is nothing to it. (I was 25...)- Do not interact and have fun with the Erasmus students. (I like them. I like to meet new people. Erasmus students have been very nice to me.)- Get a job. You are too old for studying. (I was 27...)- You get out of here! (This was both to me and my brother. My father wanted us to leave home.)- Do not get thin. I prefer you to be fat. (But I do not. It is my body!)- Do not care and help people. They do not help you either. (But I want to help. I do not care about retribution. One can pay it forward!)- Leave the internet! (No, I can't live without it.)- You should try to be like other people. (No, I should not. I do not want to become conventional, old-fashioned.)- Be more like a woman. (I am a woman. I do not need to have cliché behaviors to be a woman.)
Should I follow my passion or my parents' will? My family sacrificed to support my studies in English and finance, and I'm the hope of a family of 8. I quit my job to freelance as a web developer, but my parents have arranged a lucrative job for me.
Even this world needs to be explained theoretically. We all have been reading, in bulk, motivational thoughts, quotes etc., encouraging us to do something revolutionary, blending our fears, asserting not to quit whatever the situations may be and numerous confidence giving words. A wave of hope runs in our blood resulting goose bumps, building a mountain of firm rocks stating the world to create something extraordinary, to think outside the box.Fact is, we all have been through these situations and we heroically know that all these motivational words fail when the tables turn. Tables turn and everything goes wrong, motivational words are of no use in those creepy and tough situations. Astonishingly, at that point life teaches us about money, money, being the supreme power in this cruel world. Money! The supporter, the almighty, the cherisher. Even to reach those inspirational ways we need money, indirectly.Similarly, Interest i.e. your passion and Money are two opposite words having repelling cause and effect relation. The assumption over here is, you being a bourgeois. We all are quite well known to the fact that our interest generally includes those actions, professions and mediators having average financial gains or low financial gains.As explained in previous blog, you must be determined towards creating something extraordinary, keeping money motive at last place. Diving into this matter deeply I came out of the blue discovering that extraordinary personalities like Albert Einstein, Walt Disney, Michael Jordan, Oprah Winfrey, Lionel Messi, Steve Jobs, Eminem, Thomas Edison, Dr. APJ Abdul Kalam, Dr. Seuss, Ratan Tata, Larry Page, Sergy Bin, Elon Musk and many more, had the same problems, we have. Exactly! They suffered the same consequences we face in our life every second day. What differs us from them is their extraordinary determination and persistence towards their goal and may be this could be the reason for our life being inferior & adjacent to theirs in terms of money, respect, popularity etc.Yet, we all are quite well known to the terms Karma and Destiny. At last what we need to do is- Pray heartily, Focus on Goals steadily and Work unreservedly. Do not make yourself regret for not trying, not working hard, not taking a step and all such negations; when you will be in your fifties. At least try and let destiny decide the results.Stay positive, stay bold and have faith in God.Hope this helps. Source- Money or Passion? Should I Follow My Passion?
I'm really confused over the decision I took. Is it really difficult to accept a person as a life partner in an arranged marriage?
Well, you are under pressure and in the midst of the group of people who are confused enough to confuse you.They will expect for a YES (as soon as possible) while confirming that you are happy with that YES.They can't understand what makes you feel uncomfortable and the cause of worry. They are too busy with their worries. So now what you need to do -1. Be prepared to meet another guy they suggest. (As you have the option of arrange marriage only I guess....and there is no harm only if you are allowed to know the guy).2. Now remove all the negative thoughts that you have stored about arrange marriage. Think about what kind of person would you like to have as a life partner.3. Don't feel low during the conversation. Remember : All that happens, happens for a reason. Don't ruin future because of past. Think positively and act accordingly. 4. You too have equal rights to know about the person. So try to find out common interests during the conversation. Think about the positive aspects and try to match with the database entries. :p5. If you feel comfortable with the person...you can think to continue. If not feel free to express your views.
Im a tomboy and my parents hate it!!!!?
heres what you do put up a fight then finnally pretend to give in then go all out pink nail polish, lip gloss,20 min. in the bathroom, padded bras and all...... after a week they'll be begging you to go back to normal! (my dad all the time makes comments about me being bookish and a bit of a tomboy...) i wear t-shorts and jeans but i have a wierd obsession with the princess diares so... well anyways then after they tell you to b your self again be like " i dunno... then finally do it! they will NEVER criticize you again ;)
At breaking point, need advice - regulars pls star me if you're not sure maybe your contacts can help me?
My beautiful gelding has been having sheath issues for over 18months, I have to wash it daily among other things, when it's bad it swells up so much the skin cracks & bleeds. He's seen every vet in the area inc stays at the specialist clinic, we've spent a fortune & tried everything to resolve it. The last lab report said it wasn't cancerous but was highly resistant bacterial/viral infections & all the vet said was to keep it clean & dry with natural products. He's almost 100% better in winter but if the temp gets above X degrees it gets bad again & it's just started again today & I feel helpless... For 18months I've had him under the supervision of an equine naturopath & have been feeding him all sorts of herbal mixtures, teas etc to help him naturally but nothing's working, he's 100% sound & healthy otherwise. I'm not asking for a solution, I would just love to know what YOU would do next cos I'm lost :( My boy - http://i279.photobucket.com/albums/kk130...
I am in a relationship and my parents do not approve of our planned wedding. If I have to choose between my ever-loving parents and my never-stop-loving boyfriend of 5 years, whom do I choose, if there’s a 99% chance that my parents will disown me?
You are wrong. You shouldn’t leave your boyfriend.I have been through the situation where parents don’t agree. Parents are not our enemy, you just need to help them to be practical at a certain time and show them other side of the story.M single child, my parents have given everything best they can, financial and morals without any discrimination that I am a girl. My boyfriends and me are childhood friends my parents knows him very well. He proposed me & Initially i rejected as i was sure my parents wouldn’t agree coz of his family and financial status.But My guy build confidence in me that parents will understand. It was very difficult but later they were able to understand that it is possible that if I marry a guy of their choice financial problems can come down & also families can be good initially but later on when we stay with them we come to know about their thoughts.Ask your parents first what is that they feel not ok with your boyfriend and then convince them. Yes if you are parents have a valid reason of not liking may b character or something like that of guy, you should give a second thought. things take time you need to give time to your parents also. In my case it took 1 year to convince my parents.Relationship is not leaving each other in any situation. You should talk to your boyfriend to help u convince your parents and go through the odds. If he truly loves you it will very difficult for him to leave you and he may face trust issues with future partner also. So you are not going to do any good thing for him if you leave him. Leave him only if he is not worth it.