My parents don't allow me to have a social life.?
I am 17 years old and my parents don't allow me to have a social life. It's mostly my mom though. I have friends and a girlfriend, but I barely spend any time with them because my parents keep me inside all the time. I don't understand why they keep me inside the house when there's nothing to do. My mom is the worst though. She says that I'm "too young" to date. She also says that I'm not allowed to have friends because I can't spend time with them because I am only supposed to go to school and then go home and study, nothing else. I already have good grades, I'm a straight A student and I'm taking 5 AP classes at school. The only way I can get out of the house and spend time with my friends and girlfriend is to lie to them about going to study with people, but they noticed that I've been going out to "study" too much and don't even let me out anymore. What do I do about this? I really need help....please.
Why won't my parents let me have a social life?
Your parents just want the best for you and they want you to be safe. If this is about safety, then tell them that although there are bad people, over 99% of people would NEVER THINK of harming you. I'm a guy who has wandered through the bad part of town alone at 1:30 a.m. many times and was ok (I'm not saying you should). My parents didn't let me sleep over when I was younger because they wanted to meet my friend's parents first. Maybe you should ask to go over to your friend's house and have your parents meet with your friend's parents. Later, they were perfectly ok with me sleeping over and seeing friends. Also tell them that a social life is just as important as family life. Without experience in your social life, you will be less successful in the real world. Also, being shut in the house all the time can lead to depression, anxiety disorders, and other mental issues. Your family cares about you, and based on what you said, I would reccommend having more family time like family game night (I played Monopoly, Risk, Uno, Trivial Pursuit, etc. with my family), or just go somewhere fun together. My family was always busy, but we still managed to have family time together. Also, having friends over is good, and you can develop a close relationship with your friends (My family was even close to my friends). Even though I got to see my friends all the time, my family was always, and still is, the closest relationship I have. As for your younger sister, you can play hide n seek, color/draw, listen to music and dance, watch cartoons, and if it's ok with your parents, build a pillow fort, that's what my brothers and I did haha! If you are ok with it, then go ahead and show my answer to your parents. If not, then take my advice and inform them. If they wonder why trust me and my answer; I have been through a similar situation. I'm not an expert in this, but I study Criminology/Criminal Justice, Sociology, and Psychology. You don't want your childhood to go to waste, it is a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity, literally!
My parents don't let me do anything social. I don't have a social life. I'm not allowed to do anything. Why won’t they let me do anything?
You should try talking to your parents and asking them (respectfully) why they don’t allow you to do anything. Do they think what you’re doing is unsafe and why, do the feel you are slacking off in school or with chores and they won’t let you go out until you fix those things? Was it always this way, or did these restrictions come about after a certain event. Do they not like the people you hangout with and why?Tell them who your friends are and what you want to do with them. If they ask you to be back by a certain time be back by that time and build up their trust.Also important is listen to the reasons they are giving for their restrictions, and calmly and respectfully tell them why you feel those rules are unreasonable or unfair, and let them know how it affects you. If they offer to loosen restrictions in exchange for something, like better grades, make a concerted effort to meet this expectations and let them know if you’re struggling to do so.The best way to answer your question is to ask them yourself. Be open, respectful, honest, and understanding of where they are coming from. Communicate with them. You may fare better than you think.
Why won't my parents let me have a social life?
Truly only your parents can answer that question. However, there are some questions you can ask yourself that might shed some light on that. How old are you? What kind of social life do you want to have, and does that align with the values they are trying to teach you? What are your friends like, what things do they do, and what kind of respect do they have for their own and other people’s parents? Are you trustworthy? What are your grades like? Are you responsible, and do whatever chores they ask you to do, when they ask you to do them, and how they expect them to be done? If you answer those questions honestly, you may answer your own question.
How do I convince my parents to let me have a social life?
My parents are so strict! I'm almost 16, and I feel like I've been missing out on a lot. There's a dance tonight, and my mom doesn't want me to go because she thinks it's "unnatural" for me to be out of the house a lot. I had this potluck yesterday for my orchestra at school, and she said I had to choose between the potluck and the dance. I chose the former because it would be easier to talk to my crush that way in a smaller setting. But I really wanted to go to both! That's when she used the "unnatural" excuse on me. Just because she was raised really strict and weird (my grandpa wouldn't even let her dance with guys), she thinks that's the right way to raise me. I just want to have a life! I'm tired of asking my parents if I can do something, and then having them take so much time considering it, and giving me crap over it. I feel like such a loser, and it's like they don't want me to grow up and be social. I'm actually surprised they let me go to homecoming this year. Everytime I want to do something, they ask me millions of questions on it. Why can't they just say yes, and trust that they taught me right from wrong? They know I'm a good girl. I'm responsible and haven't done anything untrustworthy. I just wish they would be more openminded. I know they love me and just want to look out for me, but this is just too much. I'm surprised my mom lets me talk to guys on the phone, and that she's letting me invite guys to my Sweet 16. This is really big coming from her.
My parents won't let me be social?
I am an Arab and because of that I'm not allowed to be social. Im 13 right now and I secretly have Facebook and Skype... Because my parents dont want me to have a lot of people knowing me. My parents don't let me go to a friends house, go anywhere with my friends even if they're parents are there, I'm not allowed to talk to boys, I'm not allowed to listen to music in public with headphones (my dad thinks ill dance or sing a long with the music), I'm not allowed to leave the house unless I'm going to the community centre (my parents only let me go there with friends and because its 3 minutes away from my house).In fact, my dad doesn't want me to have friends unless they are Arab. My dad doesn't let me wear skinny jeans, tights, shirts that show a little bit of shoulder, etc. My mom does but then my dad yells at her than she tells me to change. My parents do not hit me unless I do something that really gets on my nerves. My parents also hate my best friends parents and they haven't even met each other yet! The funny this is, my parents let my brothers do all those stuff when they were my age. My dad said the reason I'm not allowed to do that stuff is because IM A GIRL !! I FIND THAT SO SEXIST. I sometimes hate my parents and wish I was not a Muslim. These rules are too much for me because I'm the type of girl who loves being around people and acts dumb and weird in public to entertain people. And if my parents knew that, they would kill me. All I'm saying is, I can't live like this !! What should I do ? I can't leave because I'm only 13. Please don't tell me to sit down and have a serious chat because then they would just ignore me. Please don't get me wrong, my parents are really nice but when it comes to those things, they are the parents that no one would wish to have. Me and my parents had a fight the other day about this stuff now I live my life in my room.
Why do my parents not want me to have any friends, social life, or relationship but spend all of my time with them? I’m scared I will never learn anything.
Seriously? Never learn anything? You mean that you think your parents have nothing to teach you? If this is really your attitudes towards them, they are trying to save you from yourself. You have a lot of maturing to do.
My Parents are not letting me to enjoy my social life at the age of 16-year-old?
Thank you for your question. I have read your subtext and really feel sorry for the position you find yourself in. I can understand your frustration and lowly feelings in this respect.It is really hard to give you an answer, as it is difficult to interfere from afar in the relationship between a parent and their son. Also I am not sure of the cultural differences that you are having to contend with.It has been a really long time since I had the opportunity to be your age, but living in London as I did with totally liberal parents, I had more or less a very free hand, as long as I did not break the house rules. I came to a very good understanding and was for the most part happy with the status quo.But getting back to your scenario, I cannot understand from what you say that everybody else is allowed to have a normal social life that a 16 should be afforded, and that you are not, and there must be some underlying reasons why your parents are not getting the fact that it is time to cut the apron strings and let you mature in a natural way.Just remember all is not lost. I do not know how it works out in your society but here in the UK one becomes officially an adult at 18. You can then leave home and make your own decisions without parents being able to interfere. I am not suggesting that for you, but what I am trying to impart that there will come a time that they will lawfully have to let you grow up, and that’s is that.Until then, you have to find a better solution for yourself, and like has already been said in a previous answer, see if you can talk to a principal at school. In the UK again we have welfare officers and counsellors that may intervene and could communicate with your parents on your behalf. Can you elicit any help from a wise member of family. Perhaps if you introduce your parents to some of your friends and you take small steps to commence with they can gradually get used to the idea that whether they like it or not - you are actually growing up.
I lack of social life because of my overprotective parents that keep me in a bubble. How should I handle this?
Directly.Using the ‘I’ word say politely “I-have something serious I want to talk to you about. For myself it is serious. When can we all have time to sit down and speak together, a time when we are not rushed?What you are doing is training them to be adult. What is happening to you probably happened to them. They do not how to raise you. You must raise yourself in this situation. Show them how speaking together will solve problems, just as long as no one has the answers, including you.When the time comes, explain to them that this is not about judging anyone, but a search for solutions that may take more than one meeting.Now and from now on, take a specific situation, and say how you feel. Do not provide a solution, hear what they have to say as well. Do not get defensive.Though it may come up, there is no need to kick them with with the generic go nowhere phrase, “you are keeping me in a bubble”. This is judging them. Politely catch them when they judge you.