My parents grounded me because my brother got bad grades. How do I get out of this unfair grounding?
I'm 16 and I just finished my junior year of high school with a 4.0 GPA. My brother is 14 and he just failed his freshman year. My parents think it is my fault that my brother failed because I should have helped him more. I don't know what my parents expected of me. I helped my brother as much as he would let me help him. It's not my fault that he didn't do his homework and that he failed his tests. I was there to help him anytime he asked or anytime my parents asked. Now my brother has to take summer school and my parents said that we are both grounded until his grades improve. My brother still isn't trying and I can't do a thing about it. How do I get out of this unfair grounding? I don't understand how my parents believe that grounding me is going to improve my brother's grades.
Why do parents ground children for bad grades?
I mean my parents don't ever ground me for bad grades. I've thought about the subject and I think it's really stupid. What if the parents didn't do well at work? Would all of their nice privileges like tv, cell phones, and friends be taken away? I just think that instead of punishing a child for not understanding something, the parents should be positive and try to teach the children and work with them. They should urge them to do their homework and sit down and help them with it if the child wants that. Today I helped my little brother out with his homework, and it really wasn't hard. He did the work and I corrected him when he needed it. He's in kindergarten so he's doing subtracting. And he gets most of them right, except one of them was 2 - 0=? He put down zero so I helped. I drew two circles on a sheet of paper and said, "Does zero equal nothing?" and he said yes. So I said, "If you have two circles, then you don't take away anything, what do you get?" and he answered 2. It's really not hard to help as long as you understand it, and since the parents have gone through school they know the work. Me and my siblings always do well in school because our parents help us and the older siblings help out the younger ones. Sp why do parents ground children?
Grounded for a year is this unfair?
So all last week i decided to skip School with a couple of my friends we all went to one of my friends house where his parents weren't there My parents didn't find out until yesterday when they went on this site where Parents can see their students grades and on the site you can also see the students attendance so i guessed my parents checked my attendance and saw i had an illegal absence all week so yesterday my Mom told me i was grounded until Valentines day next year ---List of punishments--- No TV No computer (I'm home alone because my parents are at work and i'm on a week off from School currently) No video games No books No cell phone Only 4 hours of sleep a night (Which includes the time it takes me to try to get to sleep) and if they ever catch my napping i will get my sleep time reduced to 3 hours This weekend my parents are removing my bed from my bedroom along with me pillows and covers So i have to sleep on the floor with no comforters My parents are setting my room temperature to 90 degrees and if i set the temperature cooler they'll increase it by 1 degree (My room temperature can go up to 110 degrees) I have to stay in my room 24/7 except for School time My parents are going to take me to the barber shop to shave my head off every 2 weeks I'm not allowed to attend family events which includes holidays No candy or junk food I'm only allowed to eat purposely badly cooked foods by my parents During the summer time my parents say i will spend 8 hours every day in my room doing homework My parents are going to remove my bedroom door in about 2 weeks My parents have removed all my clothes except for 3 of each piece of clothing What do i do this is going to be a treacherous year and it's only been 1 day since this punishment started i don't know how i'm going to last with this punishment
What is the most unfair and undeserved punishment you ever got as a kid/teen?
When I was maybe 4 or 5 years old, my mother and I went to a neighbors house to have a meal with some of their friends. I was the only kid there, and I don’t recall knowing any of the other adults except our neighbor.I guess because of me we were leaving earlier than everyone else, so when it was time for us to go we went to the door by ourselves while everyone else stayed in the dining room on the other side of the house. I don’t remember this, but I can only assume my mother had already said our goodbyes before we left the table. But for whatever reason she decided she wanted me to go back in there and say goodbye to everyone by myself.Well, I was an extremely quiet, shy kid, and this terrified me. So I shook my head no. She then suggested I just wave, but I still shook my head no. That’s when she got angry at me, marched me back home, yelled at me and gave me a good spanking as punishment. I stayed in my room crying alone for ages.It doesn’t sound like much, but this memory has stuck with me along with many other little things like it. She yelled at me and spanked me for being shy. In hindsight, she probably felt she was punishing me for not doing something she was telling me to do, but it’s not like I was being deliberately disobedient.Unfortunately, all the years of my childhood, that’s all my mother ever saw. She never tried to understand who I was or why I actually behaved the way I did. She never gave me room to explain my side of things. And even if I tried, she wouldn’t listen or accept that she overreacted because she was always right.As a result, I had a suppressed personality for the longest time, never actually felt loved by my mother, and also developed severe social anxiety. But things got better for me when I moved far, far away.
Grounded for 10-14 months, is it fair?
If that happened to me I wouldn't think it was fair because I don't like being grounded. but I do think that it is fair considering what you did. If I did that stuff my parents would do worse things to me, ground me for longer if you would. Sorry. -_- parents. EDIT i think the grounding was pretty fair, but my dad wouldn't have punched me. I don't think that's very fair.
How do I convince my parents to unground me?
I guess the best thing you could do is ask the whole family to sit down and talk about it (your brother too because you may need his support). Before you do it, make some notes to help you fight for your cause: why you were wrong and why you should be allowed to go to the event, and also what you've learnt from this experience. No screaming, shouting or stamping of feet (and by that I mean from your parents too LOL) - it's got to be a mature discussion. Explain to them that having rows and being grounded are all part of growing up and that if you didn't learn from them there would be no use in having any of them, and that you've certainly learnt from this one. Also explain that you have responsibilities for this event and that's part of being a mature person too. Ask them (calmly) how they'd feel about having to organise a holiday picnic or a bowling evening for people at work or something and then being forcibly prevented from doing so. That's not the way it works when you are an adult and I think that they need to cut you some slack in this instance as it isn't as if you are purely wanting to go out for your own benefit. Calling your mum names isn't nice, so you'll need to try and sort that out in the future, but see how they feel if you speak to them properly about this. good luck
Spanking instead of grounding?
my brother and i broke into our dads cabinet in the garage and spilled a bottle of something on the garage floor. we tried to clean it up but our mom found out. it smelled really bad and i'm not sure what it was. once she found out she sent us to our room. she told my brother he was getting spanked later and that i was grounded. i have to share a room with my brother. when my dad got home from work he came up, opened our door and told us both of us about how dangerous it was. he then grabbed my brother, yanked down his shorts and underwear and spanked him. i kind of laughed at him when he was getting it. after my dad got done something bad happened. he grabbed me and did the same thing to me. i couldn't do anything and i cried to. my brother is in 3rd grade and i'm in 7th. i can understand why my borther got spanked but i am way to old. i thought i was going to be grounded i think this is way unfair. what can i do?
Is my brother allowed to set rules for me?
My parents' only rule is: "Do the right thing." They're on a research trip right now and my 19 year old brother is in charge. He came into my room just now with a freaking list of ground rules that I need to keep during the month he's taking care of me. Caitlyn's Rules (ugh, older brothers suck. rules? ewwwwww) 1. Do not jeopardize your safety in any way. (Consequence: spanking) 2. Do not blatantly disobey me. (Consequence: spanking) 3. Do not get a grade lower than a B-. (Consequence: grounding) 4. Do not get into trouble at school. (Consequence: TBD) 5. Do not swear or say inappropriate things. (Consequence: time out) I'm having a major meltdown right now. How am I going to follow these rules and not get into trouble? I'm freaking fourteen, and I don't need freaking timeouts every time I swear. I don't want to be grounded this entire month! And I'll have to watch my behavior all the time because my butt's on the line! I swear, I'm not going to survive this month. IT'S JUST NOT FAIR. I'M NOT GOING TO BE ABLE TO HAVE ANY FUN. HE'S NOT EVEN MOM AND DAD. HE SHOULDN'T DO THIS, RIGHT? BUT WHAT CAN I DO...??????