I hate my parents so much. What should I do?
This is an exercise that might help you clarify why you hate your parents.Take a big sheet of paper and draw a line vertically down the middle.On the top on the left, write “Pro” and on the right write “Con”On the right column, put down the reasons you hate your parents. On the left side, put down the reasons you love and honor your parents. You have to be HONEST to do this exercise.So you might write on the right sideThey took away my phoneThey won’t let me have a carThey tell me to study all the timeThey don’t like my boyfriend (girlfriend)They make me come home at ten pm and yell if I don’t come in on timeThey lecture me not to use drugsOrMy dad left and my mom married someone else and they love the new baby more than meWhatever your problem is, write it downBUT ON THE LEFTThey give me a place to liveMom made my favorite dinner for my birthdayThey bought me new clothesI got to go to Six Flags with two friends last yearThey pay for my phoneThey drive me places because I’m too young to have a license yetThey take me to the doctor when I don’t feel wellThey help me with my homeworkThey don’t want me to get my girlfriend pregnant because I can’t raise a baby and I don’t want to get married yet at all!They celebrate when I have done something successfulWhatever good they do, you must also write it down.Cross off anything on the list on the right side that is something you would also do for your child if you had one (make sure they do their homework so they don’t grow up ignorant, make sure they come in at a good hour so they can get up for school. Make sure they don’t get addicted to bad drugs. )Leave on the list anything that a parent shouldn’t be doing (not seeing you enough if they live separately, refusing to help you with homework.) And then see if you have a reasonable reason to hate your parents or if you are simply upset that you are working on your independence but they put reasonable limits on you, because you are still underage.
How do I deal with parents who fight all the time? My parents argue over trivial things. Mom has a temper, blames people, and controls everyone. She compares us with others, saying how good they are. Dad is too stubborn to apologize, and has an ego.
There is nothing you can do about your parents' fighting. Believe me. I spent years wondering what I could do.The only thing that you can do is get some space from it. It is not likely that their relationship is going to change unless they decide to change it. It's not up to you or your siblings to change them and trying will just make it all the harder for you to disengage from this very toxic dynamic in your family.It's time to grow more independent of your family and seek more sane and peaceful relationships for your own life. These dynamics have a way of creeping up into your own relationships simply because you have been in the midst of them for years. You need to know that and begin to become as conscious as you can about thinking about and having good communication in your life.Decide how you would like to proceed in creating a different energy in your life from the one that your parents have created. Get some help for this. Over time, you will create your own set of relationships that are based on healthier, more loving values. If that becomes your goal, you will begin to beat the stress and move forward in a new direction. Just don't spend your life getting stuck in their dynamic- unless you want to create such drama in your own life.
I hurt my parents verbally, call them bad words and even physically abuse my dad many times. I repent moments later. Im 22. What should I do?
Sit quietly some where all alone where you can not be disturbed easily for at least two three hours.Then..Face the reality.Face all those frustrations you are holding in your heart.Face all the setbacks that you have suffered in life so far.Face your worst fears , your worst insecurities that you have kept hidden in deep recesses of your mind.Do not vent out your frustrations on your parents.Don’t release your pent up anger of outside world on your parents.It would be better if you could on a piece of paper write all your thoughts about your fears, your setbacks, your heartbreaks,if any,your expectations from this world, your lack of self confidence etc.Face up to the reality.Accept that you are grown up now and now is the time for you to be mature and start taking your own decisions and not depending on your parents.Learn to deal with your problems with your friends,outside world outside of your home.Start venting your thoughts and pent up anger outside.Do not accept more than your capabilities.Do not try to change the world and yourself in a day.Take small ,small baby steps on daily basis to start improving your skills,your personality.Try to conquer your fears one by one slowly and in small increments. This small movement towards conquering your fears building your confidence and improving your life skills will go a long way in making you a better person.Start sharing your thoughts ,your frustrations, your vulnerabilities with some of your friends or your siblings,if you have any and best with your parents. Just discuss with them all your fears and ask for their help to help you become a better person.Make it a point to sit quietly every evening after you come to home for thirty minutes all alone with your eyes closed and just trying to replay your entire day.In Nutshell :Face yourself with all your shortcomings and then accept yourself the way you are. Only after you accept yourself will your transformation happen. We improve only if we realize our mistakes , our shortcomings etc.You do not know how your violent and abusive behavior might be affecting your parents. Trust me and trust yourself , they love you a lot and may be feeling sorry for you at your behavior.Only you can help yourself by not reading alone but acting on tips for self awareness.God Bless You !MM
What do the parents expect of their children at the day care center?
Different parents expect different things. Some want a center that will educate as well as babysit their children. Some parents want a lot of structure, while others want more free choice. The best way to find out what a parent wants is to ask them directly.You can also do this through a questionaire.
Am I wrong to feel upset because parents euthanized my dog without telling me?
Today, my sister told me that they had my dog euthanized last week at the vet. I've been away at college for a few years, and left my dog at home with my parents. (He's been my responsibility since I was 8.) Parents are middle class, and live on a half acre, are in their 50's, work non-stressful jobs and are in good health. They never expressed that caring for the dog without me would be an issue. He was 14 years old. About three months ago he had been sick after having food that was later recalled . . . but when I was home two and a half weeks ago, and he got up and ran to me when i walked through the door, chased squirrels in the backyard. He had gotten slower . . . he hasn’t been able to keep up with me on jogs for a few years - but had always been down for a good walk! My mom said he has had a few "accidents" in the house. Immediately after he was euthanized, my parents went on vacation. I’m upset because I’m pretty sure they put him down rather than paying to have him boarded. . . that he was too much work now that he was older . . .and they just didn’t want to take care of him anymore. Once my mom had said the vet thought he had cancer. . .but I don’t know if this is true, I asked what test he had had & she became flustered and changed the subject . . .and he seemed fine so recently… Should I have known better, and just taken him to school with me? Should my parents have asked me to take him, or at least told that they were thinking of putting him down? I wish I could have gone home one more time to say goodbye if he was really sick . . .I wish I could have been with him in that strange place with him while he died. My mom just dropped him off . . .he hates the vet . . he must have been terrified. I’m so upset, I feel so guilty. My parents still haven’t told me what they’ve done – I want to talk to them . . .what do I say? Why didn’t they tell me? Is it OK to be angry with my parents, or is this my fault?
My parents are forcing me to do engineering but I am really not intrested in doing it! I want to start my career in some other branch. What can I do?
Do not do it! You are hearing it from a person who regrets the decision she took because of the same reason you told. Your career is something you have to choose. There will be a lot of people trying to influence your decision. You don't want to look back ten years from now and regret the decision you took. And trust me you will blame your parents then, and that will hurt them even more1) they might try emotional blackmail. Do not fall for it. Be mature in your talks and tell them that engineering is not what they want. But be prepared at answer the question 'then what do you want' note down points as to why you don't like engineering. What reasons you have? Try to convince them that you will not like it2) tell them.that if the force you, you will blame them years from now. And tell them that there can come chances of you hating them. Do emotional talk back3) tell them the stories of ppl who joined engineering because of their parents wishes and absolutely hated it. You can find such stories on quora. There were even cases of suicide. 4) tell them you understand them, that they want a good career for you. You can understand that they are worried for you. But tell them what they should be worried is their child's happiness. There are good career prospects for other courses too. Show them examples of high earning people from other career steams as well. Do not rebel, talk to them emotionallyPs:keep in mind that you have to have a clear answer as to why you don't like engineering and what do you want to do besides engineering
How can i prove to my parents i am responsible enough for a iPhone?
Well. its funny because I remember this feeling perfectly, and I finally came up with what to say that will almost always work. First of all, can your parents afford it? are there any money issues? if so, then I wouldn't get an Iphone. I would wait. This can be a stressful time for your parents.... But if money is not an issue.. then I would say something like this: "Look (Mom or Dad). I am about to go into high school and I really want an Iphone. I know you guys have said "No" and have not given me a valuable reason. If there were a 1% chance that I can get an iphone.. .what would I have to do or show you in order to be that 1%. If I want to earn this iphone, what would I have to do?" (Don't mention that everyone else has one, and don't be mean. If they say "No" then there is nothing else you can do at the moment. just be as nice as possible and they will probably say eventually "If your being nice because you want an Iphone, its not going to happen" and just reply saying "I know, but It doesn't hurt to be nice", say "I love you" and go about your day) like I said before, If you do this correctly, you will get an iphone as long as there isn't any money problems and your parents can afford it. Hope this helps.