My dad loves my sister more than me?
I try my best to love my 7 year old sister. I seriously do. But the way she treats me is just beyond comprehension. She acts as if I'm garbage. She glares at me behind my parent's back, she steals things from me, tries to get me in trouble, yells at me, screams and crys, and through it all, she acts like an innocent angel. And it's a total turn around for my parents, too. In the end, I'm the one who gets in trouble, EVEN if I haven't started it. Okay, so here's the deal. "You're 13," my parents say, "you should be able to love her no matter what she does to you! You're bratty. You are selfish, and you are such a bad influence!!" That's the lecture I get after I get angry with her for stealing something of mine. Anyways, it's obvious my dad loves my sister more than me. Examples: He said, and I quote, to my sister: "Let's get ice cream once your sister leaves for her friends house!" He always lets her do what she wants, and if she doesn't get her way, she'll scream and cry. So he says to me: "Just let your sister get a gift first." When I try to talk to my mom about this, she goes: "Your dad loves you both equally, now stop trying to get attention!" My birthday is coming up soon, and on my birthday I bet he'll just be laughing along and playing with my sister. What I want him to realize is that I'll be out of the house in 5 years. He'll have ...what...11 years with my sister to himself? Sorry for my poor math skills :) Anyways, I wonder if he'll even miss me when I'm off to college. Maybe they'll just be happy. Again, my mom is no use in this situation. Sorry if I act like a brat or something, i'm just sad, lonely, and jealous. Please help :(
Why do my parents like my younger sister more than me?
My parents have always treated her as if she is a little princess. She will make mistakes and still some how I end up getting blamed. She is always a little bit*h and complains about everything! I can't stand it! But the most annoying thing is how they always believe her! Every time she tells them something, its like it came straight from god. I can't stand my sister or my family!
Why do my parents prefer my little sister? ;-;?
My parents are so unfair with me. I am 15 and my little sister 12. She recently got a new ipad mini air and she uses it all the time she is a complete addict because she cant control herself but my parents still let her have it all the time and its affecting her grades. She also got an old blackberry recently and she is addicted to it to. I am 15 and all I have is my moms old iPhone 4s and it has had problems since the day I got it (It will heat up every time I open an app and it glitches all the time). I have tried to talk to my parents about it but they just think im lying and wave me away because there denying the truth and don't want to get me a new one. I got this phone last year same time my sister got her ipad. I have tried to talk to them but my dad keeps telling me its fair and im just jealous. the worst is I get better grades im nicer I behave better and I am not dependent like her. why do they hate me!? Please help
I feel like my mom loves my sister more than me. How do I deal with that?
I sometimes feel the same way about my mother and sister, so I know what you are feeling very well.There are two things that happen in this case.It is possible that you are just guessing things and that your mother loves you both equally. In this case, try to talk to her that you feel this way. Talking helps. This way you'll understand what's the truth. If you usually don't share feelings with your mum and you feel uncomfortable talking about this, (I do), try to be stronger and try asking her. Or try talking to your sister.It is really that your mother loves your sister more. In this case, first comes acceptance. You have to accept the fact that she loves her more, and you have to understand that it's neither your, your mother's or your sister's fault. They can't choose who they like more. Also, understand that she loves you anyway. And that's what matters.I have a question for you.If there is a boat with your mum inside it and both you and your sister were drowning. Your mum can save only one person. Who will she save?You'd say, obviously, my sister. But that's the wrong answer. Here is what she will do. She will first put one of you on the boat and then ask you to help other one on the boat and she'll jump into the water, so that she can save you both. This is her love for her children.Usually, like 90% of times, parents love their children more than their lives. And maybe sometimes they love one child more than the other. They still love both unconditionally.I don't know if I am using the right words and example, but I hope you understand.Cheers! :)
What should you do when your parents hate you?
RE: "What do you do if your parents hate you?"Leave them behind and move on with your life as best you can.Try not to be overcome by anger and bitterness because that's about as useful as being angry at a storm for destroying your property. Nature is what it is and sometimes, it can be rather ugly. Human nature is no different in many respects because people choose who they become, and who or what they hate.If you have given them reason to hate you, then it is incumbent upon you to make some form of reparation; particularly if you care about the toxic nature of hatred and wish to reverse the harm done to your parents which led to their hatred of you.If you've done nothing to inspire that hatred, then you must accept it as a natural consequence of their own being and their own choices.Before you make any decision however, it is incumbent upon you to objectively assess both conditions to arrive at the most accurately objective conclusion possible, even if it means deep soul-searching and an acceptance of something which may be ugly within yourself.Perhaps you need to change to accommodate their perspectives in order to repair the damage you did or you need to learn to allow them the opportunity to reflect upon the damage they have done to you and hope they reach a conclusion which allows an opportunity for the restoration of a healthy familial relationship.In either case, good luck to you because you will carry your burden for life.
How Can I Prove To My Parents That I'm Not A Bad Child?
Okay, I am getting really sad and depressed and upset by this... My parents absolutely LOVE my older brother. He is calm, smart, semi-quiet, doesn't ask much, and always makes my parents proud. Me on the other hand in my family, I rank below our three dogs. They see me as a smart-alec, who interupts people, nags, just goes on and on and on when I talk, messy, unorganized, and untrustworthy. I am smart just like my brother but I can't think of a time when they have been proud of me. They are always talking about how great my brother is and how I should be more like him. I did used to lie but have stopped, and haven't lied in years and have earned some trust back. but at times when I tell them the truth they don't believe me. I try to talk to them about how I feel but they always end up yelling at me. I do ask a little more than my brother and when I get the answer no, I always feel better when I know the reason why and they hate that. They tell me I'll never have the privliges that my brother has because I'm not good like him. It really hurts and so I have done less and less with the family, which, just gives them more to hate about me. Please help = /
My mom seems to like my sister more than me. Is it just because my expectations of myself are too high?
i've always suspected that my mom loves my older sister a bit more than she loves me. but lately i've been getting more and more suspicious. my mom is a business woman and she owns a company with my dad. and since my sister was small, my mom had been training her and educating her how to do business. because my sister and i have a 4 year difference, i thought that i'd be getting the same treatment when i got to be my sister's age, and i even prepared for it. but that never happened. it felt like my mom wants my sister to take over the company and i'd just have to play a small part in it. even though i work hard and read all the books i can and study business, my mom still thinks i lack the ability. once i even heard her say on the phone, "oh that older daughter of mine is remarkable. she's capable of anything, and she's just amazing. ......oh, my younger daughter? well,...i don't really know what to do with her." i'm still in high school and my sister is supposed to be starting college, and she applied to an american college (we're in a foreign country). she and my mom had already prepared to go in january this year, but then something went wrong so she'll have to wait another year. but during the time when we all thought she would leave in jan, my mom had prepared to take me on business trips, like she used to take my sister. and she even said, i NEED you to go with me on these trips. and i thought, wow maybe she really does think i have the ability. i was thrilled because i felt important for the first time. but then after we knew my sister had to wait another year, she seemed to drop all plans of including me and planned to take only my sister to the next trip. and after i found out, i spent the next hour crying in my bathroom, like many times before. i guess it's because i've always expected a lot from myself, and i've always pushed myself into being the best, but i've mostly just became second best. it's always been like this, but lately, i've been crying a lot more. how do i fix this problem with my mom? i know i should talk about it, but how? and is there any way i can not ask so much of myself and just be happy with being second best? advice?