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My Parents Make Me Work So Hard

What do I do when my parents push me so hard?

I would suggest that you print a copy of this page and sit down with your parents and discuss this matter openly with them. I would like to think they have your best interest at heart and they love you very much. As a parent I know there are times that I come across in a negative way to my children without realizing it. Hopefully they will see that you are struggling to please THEM because you love them....but remember you are growing up and need to be true to yourself as well. I urge you to stay on the straight and narrow, do your best in school and find things in life that you not only enjoy but are good at.
You are still young....get a good foundation and give everything your best and you will do fine
Best of luck to you ~~

Why do my parents make my life so hard?

My parents are always getting mad at me and yelling at me for little reasons. I am 13 years old, I work really hard and get straight A+s, but I have an A in math. So they got mad at me just because I didn't get an A in math. But I try my best all the time, yet they keep wanting me to be perfect. At home, besides academics, I always seem to be messing up. For example, today after I was excused from dinner, I went to my phone to reply to a text message. About 2 seconds later, my mom was yelling at me. Her exact words: "What are you doing, checking your phone like that? Can't you see there's so much work to do??" Then she pointed to the table and yelled at me to wash the dishes. Meanwhile, my 7 year old sister was just watching TV and doing nothing! She never gets in trouble and my parents always let her have her way! It's so unfair! Also, my friends are always inviting me to go shopping with them, but when I ask my parents for permission, they yell at me for wasting money then they go into like a 10 minute rant about money. What's more, when I'm out shopping with my mom, she always gets mad at me for things like looking at jewelry while she's paying. She says, "I hate it when you keep looking at stuff while I'm paying!" So I say, "But i wasn't planning on actually buying the stuff, I just saw something cool..." and then she gets mad at me. Plus, whenever I'm out shopping with my mom, she makes ME pay for EVERYTHING I GET. Shirts, pants, jeans, jackets, everything! It's unfair because I don't have that much money to begin with. And it's unfair that my parents are always telling me to spend my own money, because I'm not at the age to get a job yet and it's no use trying to ask my parents for money, even chore money. But my 7 year old sister can get 20 dollars just by going up to my parents and asking. And lastly, what I dislike about my parents is their nosiness. I know that they are concerned about me and stuff, but they're always asking, "Why? Why? Why?" to EVERYTHING that I say.

Why do my parents make me do my homework over the summer?

Ok, so I am asian/american, and I got out of school a week ago to summer break.
My parents, espically my mom are very, very, very,very, very,very strict. They gave me homework over the summer. They give me at least 8 pages which takes me a very long time to finish. most of the homework is easy and teaches me nothing at all, and i already know it. even though i have straight a's the whole year they still want me to do homework along with piano lessons, piano practice, guitar, swimming, tennis, karate (my karate is VERY hard) and chores which takes up a lot of time. if i ask why i have to do homework, they get angry and say "so that your mind will be focused onto something else" (i usually play video games/ computer all day). and she took away my laptop too. me and her had many conflicts and we argued many times.i don't think it's fair because all the other american kids are having more fun, and i just want my freedom in summer break to have fun. I've been doing this crap since i was in 2nd grade. How do i convince my parents to stop giving me homework?!

What should be said to a parent who pushes their kid too hard?

It is very hard to successfully say anything in a direct manner.  No matter how pleasantly one says, "You are not parenting your kid right" it isn't going to be taken well.That does not mean you cannot say anything.I use stories.  If I knew someone who was doing this, I would tell them the story about my relative who's parents gave him grief about not being perfect.  They would complain if he got an A- in a report card, where all the rest of the grades were A's.  Instead of congratulating him for his A's, they would ask, "Why did you get an A- in this class?"The result, was this man held a grudge against his parents for his entire adult life.  It infected their relationship.Now, if you tell such a story, the hard part, is to not point out that you are trying to tell them something.  Either they will understand how they should hear that story, or they will not.  If they don't understand it on their own, I'm pretty sure there is nothing else you could say that would make them better get the connection.You are certainly well within the area of being helpful, to congratulate the kid on making second place, and obviously doing a better job than all those other competitors, save one.  The kid will probably tell you that they feel bad for not being in first.  And you better be ready to say that you understand that feeling.  If you deny their feeling, they will stop listening to you.So, you accept their feeling that not being in first feels bad.  In fact, research shows that for many Olympic athletes, they feel better about third place than second.  If they are in third, they are happy to have placed.  But if they are in second, they feel that with just a little more work, they should have won the gold.  It isn't really logical, but research shows it is a common feeling that second place winners have.If the child literally failed something, I'm not sure there is much you can say except, "What are your plans for doing better next time?"And the thing you don't want to say, is something along the lines of, "Wow, your parents are way too harsh, don't listen to them."  This leaves the child without faith in their parents, and can really infect their relationship.Every family is different.  Unless the parents are actually abusive (mentally, emotionally, or physically) it is important to avoid destroying their relationship just based on you feeling that their parenting style is not a good one.

Do poor children hate their parents because they didn't work hard enough to provide them a comfortable life?

I would say YES when it comes to growing up in MISERY.My husband absolutely hates his mom for having had 3 kids from different men, for not working and being on welfare most of his childhood, for making constant bad economic decisions (when most of them were working and there was finally a decent money flow), for letting his douchebag uncle munch off of them when they had nothing. For never even teaching him the basics of adult life (proper hygiene, how to cook, moral values).At the same time, he tries to keep her around, he feels guilty for hating her, but hates her regardless.I grew up poor. Sometimes less poor than others, but poor enough times that I remember the hardships, and it wasn't as scarry for me because my mom worked hard and tried to teach me about life and how to walk through it, something his mom never did. And even though my dad was the rotten apple in the house, the fact that my mom provided enough (not the best, but enough) to not feel neglected made a huge difference.In his case, his mother never made an effort, she was always happy to get handouts, live off the government or asking her parents for money, food, rides, etc., at the end, it was too much of a gap to close between his peers, even the poor ones. He wasn't poor, he was miserable, third world country miserable while living in a first world country.Now that he's a family man, now that he works hard to give our children a better life than the life he had, he realizes that her mother could've done a little more. And a little more would've made the world of a difference.

How do I make my parents see how hard I am studying?

You probably can't. Parents are notoriously blind to the efforts of their offspring. My mother railed at me about my marks, but hounded me continuously about not doing more for/with her. You cannot be in two places at the same time. You cannot do two things at the same time (forget the multi-tasking stuff-it is garbage when it comes to study). You have to learn to be an adult and set boundaries. Then in spite of the fact that they are your parents, you have to insist that they respect your boundaries. Expect a LOT of pushback. They won't like it. But if they want you to succeed-and they do-they will come in time to respect those boundaries. Make very sure that you schedule them into your time. Let them know when that is. Make it regular-every Wed/Sun at 8pm I will call for an hour to check in. If they know you will do that, they'll leave you alone.

Ugh my parents areI making me get a job!!!!!?

Ugh I don't want a freaking job I mean we have more than enough money. My dad says he wants me to be responsible. But I am responsible, I mean i'm 18 and going to college next year, isn't that responsible enough??? Ugh I don't want to do any work omg!! Like, I didn't even get my freaking car I wanted yet!!! And then my dad goes on to say I won't get my trust fund if I don't get a job. Wth do I need a job if i have a trust fund?!?! I don't want my friends to find out because they'll laugh and think i'm poor. UGHH!!

Sorry just needed to vent lol

What should I do if my parents force me to study all day?

My advice is to make your own study strategy.Your parents obviously want you to succeed, but unlike a lot of parent think, studying “all day” is not what’s going to make that happen. A lot of people don’t need to study for too long to have great grades, while others study a lot and don’t get past an average grade, so the amount of studying isn’t what’s going to make you success, the quality of your studying is and each person has it different. Your parents have to understand that what they think is the right way, may actually not be the right way at all. Forcing you to study will only make it worse, you’ll become repulsed by studying and you won’t enjoy it because, well, you’re forced to do it, and nobody really likes to be forced to do something.So, sit down and come up with the best way of making your study efficient to achieve your goals. If your parents keep pushing you to study all day, I advise you to have a conversation with them about it and tell them that you have your study sorted out and you don’t need to study all day to succeed. Obviously, if you do this, you’re going to actually have to show them what you’re saying is true and works, otherwise there’s no point on trying to change things.My mom used to force me to study as well and it never really worked. This was during midschool so I didn’t really have a say on the matter because, as a kid, I didn’t have the guts to tell my mom differently from what she said. Things obviously changed though and I started studying on my own way and I’ve been a lot more successful than I was when she controlled my study. You can’t let that happen; your parents don’t know how your brain works as well as you do, so you’re the only person who can tell what works and what doesn’t for you. Your parents might very well be harming your success, it’s in your hands to not let it happen and show them that it’s not their call to decide how you should study, it’s yours.If studying all day worked for them, then good for them. It might not work for you, but that’s up to you to realize and to work on, not them.

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