How did conquering your shyness affect your life?
Conquering my shyness made life better in every possible way.I have written before how I used to be quite shy. I would stumble over my words talking to people. I would get nervous speaking in front of crowds. Interactions with strangers would give me butterflies, and I would close off without even realizing it.I am still an introvert, but I don’t act like it. I realized that shyness was negatively affecting my life, and I acted to change that.Here are some specifics of how my life has gotten better since I overcame my shyness:I have more friends because I am more willing to connect with strangers.I have more story-worthy experiences because I am OK with “putting myself out there.”I have more relationships with girls because I am much more confident and self-assured.I’m a better employee, as I have improved my ability to effectively communicate with coworkers.I’ve been given more responsibility by my boss and been given the chance to grow because I appear more professional.People in general like me a lot more than they used to, because I am more open, welcoming, and warm.The thing with social confidence is that it’s kind of like a snowball. As it builds up momentum, the process gets easier and easier, and before you know it, who you are as a person has completely changed for the better.Remain an introvert (as I am) if you like. But I highly recommend that you begin to work on your shyness. Life gets better, and you are presented more opportunities, the more social you become.
Essay on shyness (cause & effect)!?
To start, you can casually bring the essay into a question or an interesting fact, like... "Have you ever gotten butterflies or felt like you can't say anything to a person?" "It's interesting how we tend to hide ourselves in the face of other people." Or, to be more specific and direct, you could write something like... "Humans the world over have felt shy at least once in their lives." I'd personally go with a starter that's a bit more savvy and not too professional, but make it specific and appealing :). That way, the reader would be drawn in and be curious to see what the rest of the essay will say and sound like :D. Shyness... My opinions on their cause and effect... In my opinion, shyness is much like a disease contributed from lack of social interaction. It can spread from person to person as they face situations they aren't prepared for. Without fully experiencing it, people tend to get nervous and shy. For example, when you talk to a person you like.. You've never talked to that person before, or you're not completely used to it to make it rather comfortable. It could also be caused by insecure thoughts that dwell in the person when faced, and prior to facing a situation where they worry about their personal values. Shyness could be gained from lack of social interaction, from facing situations one's not prepared for, from thinking insecurely, and pertained from the butt-hole-ness of others (jerks that pick on you). How shyness affects a person... It may make a person timid, feel scared to face a certain situation, make the person(s) more reserved, feel insecure and be subconscious, and overall, try to avoid whatever may be causing the shyness in the first place. I hope this helps, and good luck :D!
Can shyness ruin your relationships or your life?
Well, this is something that takes alot of self work but you can do it! Take it from me, I was the same as you, SHY for most of my life! But at some point I was able to get myself out of it and took alot of practice! Staying active is a good key in this battle so keep on with activities and get to know people more. It also helps when it comes to socializing, again it takes practice but try not to feel dumb when you you say things to people! Others don't even notice things we feel awkward about, so you just need to build some confidence too and feel good about what you are saying. Join groups with others your age who share the same hobbies as this is a self esteem "booster!" Just feel good about your accomplishments, and when you like others, it is easier to develop relationships with them. Give yourself a break at times! =) Another thing is, you can take a drama class in school if it is offered and being in plays helps you to overcome shyness because you are facing what scares you and it builds self esteem in it's own way! Work on it and your nervousness will disappear! Enjoy life! Everything is possible!
Why does someone develop shyness? And how does it affect someone’s life?
Shyness is not a learned trait.Shyness is a normal behavior that many children exhibit and usually outgrow by the time they reach school age. I, however, did not grow out of it.I’ve been shy since I can remember. There are photos of me as a toddler hiding behind my mother’s legs. I hated new places and crowds, anywhere people might look at me. I didn’t like babysitters, my parents’ friends, or even going to kids’ birthday parties. Eventually I would relax, but new situations were difficult.As I grew older and more social, I thought my friends and schoolmates would understand this about me and give me breaks. Except they didn’t. If my friends and I encountered new people, I would get nervous and withdrawn. I wouldn’t talk. I’d blush and back away. In all sorts of unexpected circumstances, I acted and looked like a frightened idiot. My friends would give me annoyed looks.One day, after an annoying encounter with some stranger-kid on my way home from school, I made a conscious decision: I could not continue to indulge my social fears. I could not act shy if I wanted to be a leader among my peers. I told myself: “From now on, you have to act bold, act friendly, be part of the interaction. If you don’t, people will think you’re a weirdo.” Which, for a 13-year-old, was pretty big motivation.You ask how shyness affects one’s life. For me, the conscious decision to overcome shyness changed my life.Since that day in the seventh grade, I’ve been an individual willing to push myself into new situations. I am particularly bold. I became the kid who asks lots of questions, the girl who is willing to say the awkward thing, the one who doesn’t care what others think.It is possible to overcome shyness, but it doesn’t necessarily go away.Today, I am still quite shy. I still hate entering a roomful of people. But shyness no longer consumes me. And if you were to meet me tomorrow, after several minutes you would declare: “She’s not shy!” Amazing!
Shyness is ruining my relationship! Help?!?
I have been dating this girl for a few weeks and we text all the time. I am fine when I am texting but in person I over think what I'm going to say and do and I end up not saying anything at all. She has been trying to help me get over the shyness but I can tell she is getting annoyed. I need advice and tips for overcoming shyness. Thanks
Being shy is ruining my life and I can't make new friends. How do I fix this?
1 REALIZE THAT MOST PEOPLE ARE SCAREDThe fact is that a lot of people will be glad you approached them. It is something people like me have long since noticed. People are scared just like you of saying hello. Remember that every time you are out there.2. FAKE CONFIDENCENothing brings more rejection than shaking and stuttering in public. Doing that make you appear threatening to others which is sure to get you rejected. Instead, fake being confident and calm. Open up your body and pay attention to your voice.3 PRACTICE MINDFUL AWARENESSAdopt one of the exercises: meditation, Tai chi or yoga. It will make you stay in the present which will help you in faking the confidence.4 OBSERVE AND PLAY BY THE RULESEvery social situation has its rules. You behave differently in a church compared to a club. So take a moment to observe how people are interacting and then play by the rules and you win.5 HANG OUT WITH INTERESTING PEOPLEAsk yourself who are the most confident people around you? The most memorable? The most traveled? Now go hang out more with those people. Their awesomeness is contagious and it will spread to you soon.6 READ 5 BESTSELLERS ON SOCIAL SKILLSI'm not joking, you can't behave well if you don't know how. Luckily, books are the best information products around, easily containing decades of research and life experience.7 THEN DO EVERYTHING THE AUTHORS SAYSKnowledge is power however its potential. You need to take action to be really powerful, and that's not the only reason for taking action. Books nowadays contain a lot of bullshit. So you'll have to try out everything to find out what works.8 GO OUT AND LIKE PEOPLEAnd its really that simple. Once you go out with this mindset everyday and refuse to stay at home wishing for a miracle to happen. You'll enjoy people's company and they'll enjoy yours too.DO those 8 things and I can promise you that you'll be more interesting and Confident.But don't overwhelm yourself by trying to them all at once. Take it one step at a time...P.S - I made a free email course on building solid self confidence. If you're interested, check it out here.
Is shyness a form of egoism?
I am a shy person, even while very young strangers would scare me and I preferred solitary activities. My shyness affects me in daily life as an adult, because I cannot sometimes speak without shaking and have trouble looking in people's eyes. I get very anxious and disturbed. Is this a form of egoism? What can I do about it?
Is it possible to out-grow shyness?
First of all, I am a very introverted person. I prefer to be by myself 99% of the time, like to work independently, and get satisfaction out of things most people would think are boring. Now, on top of that introversion, I am ALSO very shy. Painfully shy. I don't like attention but I am so freakin tall (6'5") that I always stand out no matter what. Anyway I don't have a very positive view of myself physically or mentally. I'm constantly trying to improve my character and be a better person but at the end of the day I just feel horrible. Anyway I'm going to college in 4 months so I need to outgrow my shyness. I want to be a success in life, not a failure simply because I have no confidence. So my question is, is it possible to outgrow shyness? I wouldn't want to outgrow being quiet, I just want to be able to communicate smoothly with others when necessary. Thanks.