Is it normal that I don't like my sister's fiance?
Change can be hard to swallow no matter what the birth order is. And that's probably what you're feelinig - that hard to swallow element of change. What's really good of you is that you have an open mind - at least you're willing to change your mind = such as the fact that your oldest sister's fiance has somehow carved a place for himself in your heart by reassuring you that he is good to your sister. I'm certain that your second sister's fiance will do the same for her as well. But again, I think that you're concerned about the changes happening in your family - moreso than your sisters' choices of husbands. You're a good girl, honey. Just keep that open mind - and willingness to wait and see.
How do I tell my sister that Her fiancé raped me?
He pushed me to smoke a lot of pot. To the point where I was nauseous and I couldn t move or walk on my own. My vision was blurry and my peripheral vision was black. He started doing strange things like trying to give me massages and reaching up my dress. I kept saying no and he would apologize then start again later. He took me inside and told me to lay on the floor. He did things to me even when I said stop or asked him why he was doing that to me. He kept saying that I better not tell anyone. I was scared and I felt paralyzed. I finally got the strength to get up and move away from him and I asked him why he did that to me tht I didn t want it and he is engaged to my sister. He just said he didn t know why, he wasn t thinking but I better not tell anyone. I m so scared and I don t know how to tell my sister. I think she needs to know but I don t know what to say. Somebody please help me. I want her to believe me. I didn t do anything to make him think I wanted it.
I don't like my sister's fiancee! Help?
Best way is to just get to know him. I've been in this spot as "that guy". Not only did my wife's sister not care for me, but her two best friends in college weren't too fond either. I was judged a lot on who they thought I was and I didn't set out to make the false first impressions. I didn't care if they did or didn't like me, I was in love with this person. I knew that they didn't like me at first, and I don't know if you can share that with your sister and her fiancee. If you do, and make an honest effort (long term) to get to know who he is, I think you'll find yourself at least getting to a point where you'll at least see the love they have for each other. That can at least be respected and who knows, even liked.
Should I tell my sister that I had sex with her fiance before they meet each other?
I can’t believe I’m saying this but I think you should talk to the guy. Make him promise he will never again try for sex with you, and in return you will agree to never speak of the past to your sister.On the other hand… I can’t help thinking your sister might prefer to know the facts and make her own decision. It is really unfortunate that you waited so long to say something.
I just found out my sister is a swinger with her fiance what do i do.?
It's her life and she's not hurting anyone. Her fiance is doing it with her so it's not like she's cheating. They are both open about it and they're happy, so it's none of your business. I have a hunch that if/when they have children, they will most likely stop being swingers or will be more careful when swinging (is that the verb for it?). But even if they don't, it's not your place to say anything because it doesn't really affect you in any way. There's really no point in saying anything right now because it might ruin your relationship with them, and it honestly might be over nothing because you don't know what they will decide to do once they have children. They might just enjoy a "normal, regular" home life - it's too early to tell. If they do have kids and they're still swingers, then that would be the appropriate time to tell them your concerns, but right now I'd just let them enjoy themselves.
How do I get out of my sister's fiance's bachelor party? (I'm gay and disinterested)?
My older sister and her fiancé live about 500 miles away from me, and they are getting married in April. My sister's fiancé's brother just emailed me and about fifteen other guys and let us know that he's planning a bachelor party for March, and that we need to RSVP ASAP. A little background on me -- I'm a gay, 24-year-old guy. I'm out to my family and to my sister's fiancé's family. I am also a groomsman in the wedding (my sister's fiancé has 5 groomsmen: four friends of his, and me). The idea of a bachelor party (plus the trek 500 miles away) doesn't sound fun at all. Who knows what kind of strip clubs, stripper, or other rendezvous would occur, and I honestly just don't mesh well when surrounded by a dozen other straight guys in their upper 20s / early 30s (sports, girls, video games are not my thing). 1) Should I just suck it up and go because I'm obliged to as a groomsman and soon-to-be brother-in-law? 2) What is an appropriate way to decline my sister's fiancé's brother's invitation?
What should I do if my sister’s fiancé told me he has feelings for me?
Tell your sister.Suppose you say nothing. You pretend your sister’s fiance’ never said those words to you, but you exchange awkward glances every time you see one another—even at the wedding.Sometime later, as your sister and her husband are settling down into married life, you detect some unhappiness in her. She tells you that it’s nothing, and then she says that she can’t quite put her finger on the problem.Her husband is just not as attentive towards her as she thought he’d be. He’s having to work late on a regular basis, and he never lets her see his phone.You start thinking that maybe you should have said something back when he was just her fiance’. But then you convince yourself that maybe she’s just overreacting, and you let it go.It’s 9 months later, and congratulations—you’re an aunt. You bring a gift for the baby to your sister’s house. You watch her as she sitting in a chair. Her attention is on the little bundle of joy in her arms, and her husband is standing behind her—looking at you. You exchange some awkward glances, and you avoid each other during the rest of your visit. You still say nothing to your sister.And then one day your parents inform you that your sister is moving back home with the baby. Her husband left her for another woman. Not only is your sister’s life forever changed and adversely affected because of this guy, so is the baby’s.Maybe, just maybe this all could have been avoided. If only somebody would have told her what kind of guy her fiance’ was.
What do I do with the knowledge that my sister's fiance is involved in transporting drugs? Should I tell her, or just let it go?
Talk to your sister - if you don’t think she already knows. She could get in a lot of trouble, by association with a part of the drug business. If he’s transporting, he’s likely involved with some nasty people, who may use / put her at risk. Better to find out now and make a clean break, to keep her safe, than not know until she is irrevocably tied to the guy, perhaps by a drug affected baby. Given he is transporting, he may be using or coming into contact with the drugs. The man’s sperm may be affected by the drugs, not only the woman’s eggs or the state of pregnancy.
My fiance cheated on me with my sister on the day he proposed to me. It's been about a week. What should I do?
First, what do you mean when you say cheated. I ask this as people often have different definitions of “cheating”. Were they flirting, was it a harmless kiss that could have been something you misinterpreted or did you actually catch them in the act. What actually happened wound make a difference to how you should react.second, how did you find out? Did your fiancée confess or your sister or did you find out through someone else or actually catch them yourself? This again would dictate if either of them is worth forgiving (and I don’t mean continuing with the fiancée but ending it silently vs. some shaming in the situation where there was no confession)After that, the rest is Pretty simple … looks like your sister doesn’t really care about you for starters , given she of all people should have been watching out for you and instead was one of the two perpetrators, your fiancée being the other onei would recommend you dump your fiancée because there is no excuse for what he did. Tell him to propose to your sister instead (just kidding). As for your sister, I would suggest you have a serious talk with her about family and loyalty and being there for each other, which she broke ruie #1 on.