How do I kindly tell my sister I hate her so much and that she is adopted?
Its true she is adopted but she doesn't know it. I want to see the look on her face when I tell her in front of everyone. I want to see her cry and feel bad. I don't want her to sit at the dinner table. She should wait till we are done and eat outside in the yards. I want her to stop talking to me and telling others that she is my sister. She can sleep on the porch because I want her room. Why doesn't she move out? Am I a loving brother??? She looks so good in that outift i bought her from khol's. She 18 and I am 26. She is really attractive and i can say that because she is adopted but i still hate her. She is stupid and sleeps with all of my friends. My dad hates her too. I try to make her cry everytime I get a chance. Last night at dinner I told her date that she had herpes. I thought it was great. She was crying and locked herself in her room for like 4 hours. It was great. She deserved it
What is the grossest thing someone ever did to you?
I lived at a boarding house 16 years ago with 21 other men. We all ate dinner together at a huge table in the dining room. One night, we had submarine sandwiches for dinner. I was sitting across from an elderly gent who had a bad cough. He had just taken a big bite of his sandwich. 3 seconds later, I opened my mouth to take a bite from mine. At that instant, the elderly gent coughed. His entire mouthful of chewed up sandwich flew out of his mouth and went directly into mine. The force of his sandwich hitting my open mouth caused me to swallow his chewed up food along with mine. I felt ill for the next 2 days and had no appetite whatsoever.When I was in 5th grade, a classmate had forgotten his gym shoes. We both wore the same size shoe, so he asked if he could borrow mine. After his gym class it was my gym class so I put the shoes my classmate had borrowed, and proceeded to my gym class. When my class was over, the guy I lent my shoes to came over with an evil grin on his face. He said “I forgot to tell you I have athlete's foot”. Took me a month of prescription creams etc. to get rid of the athlete's foot he gave me. Not fun!
Boston terrier good for allergy suffers?
Personally, I think it has more to do with the severity of the allergy sufferer. My dad was allergic and so is my sister. Growing up we had a Terrier mix and a shorthair cat. Neither one of them seemed to have reactions. We now have two American Pit Bull Terrier/Rottweiler mixes, and two Colorpoint Shorthair mix cats. As long as my sister doesn't pet them then rub her eyes it's not too bad. However, she still does get quite sneezy. It's moreso due to the cats I believe. Boston Terriers have short fur, which may or may not help. The only way to know for sure is to get your mom around a few Bostons and see what reactions she has.
Why do adopted children sometimes feel anger rather than gratitude towards their adoptive parents when they find out they were adopted?
I am the mother of an adopted child - she is my niece. She came to live with me when she was 4 years old. Why? Because her mother suffered from a raging drug addiction and regularly put my niece and her little sister in danger. Yes, it was a good thing she came to live with me and could be in a safer, more loving environment.Thing is, she was 4. All she knew was that she was suddenly living with me and not her mother. She had never met me prior to moving in with me, so I was a stranger. My sister had long periods of no contact with me so I did not know her children. Why? Because I called social services every time I knew where she was. When she had a momentary bit of sanity she asked me to care for her two girls. I agreed and immediately sued for custody (as I was advised to by social services).Thing is EVERYONE told my niece how lucky she was to come live with me and isn’t she GRATEFUL that she’s not with her mother. But of course she wasn’t - she was scared and confused and missed her mom and was living with strangers. Why on earth would she be grateful? Her life had been hell before she came to live with me - should she be grateful that her life sucked enough to be taken away from her mother? My sister refused to follow the court ordered drug testing and counseling. Should my niece be grateful that her mother choose her drug addiction over regaining custody?I’ve never understood what these children are supposed to be grateful for - they’ve been adopted because someone - 1. died 2. lost custody or 3. gave them up. Would you be grateful for those things happening in your life?The person who should be grateful is the adoptive parents who have been blessed with their children! They get a chance to share their love with a child who desperately needs it. They get a chance to watch their chosen child grow up and they get to have fun and adventures and offer their wisdom to this child who so needed it.Please think about the circumstances that often lead to adoption and please, please realize that it is the adopting parents who are the ones who should be grateful that they have a chance to share their love!
Can my teacher make me do this?
Not with other teachers or the whole *lets go to a nice place to eat thing.* She just made me eat in her classroom. Is she allowed to do that? She has caught me purging like fifty times. I purge even if I don't eat. Yesterday,she caught me so I quickly started walking out of the bathroom. She grabbed my arm but I got away. So anyway...Back to today. I had to eat this salad,orange juice and a granola bar.I didn't finish it but..she said I didn''t have to. I sat there for most of lunch staring at the food and crying. And listening to my stupid health teacher how it's not going to do any harm by eating..blah blah blah....Oh and after lunch I have her for my class so she said I couldn't leave the room. (So I couldn't puke) And then she told my last hour teacher that I can't leave the room either. I have to do this until I put on weight. I either go eat lunch with her or my mom. (Also teacher) How can I get out of this? Or should I eat and exercise 90 times more? Or just find some way I can get rid of the food..Or pills that make me lose weight. Do you have to be 18 to get those? Please help...
My sister's boyfriend broke up with her after 8 years. How should I help her? What should I tell her?
You are a sweet person for asking this question! Well, when I was in a situation where I felt sad and broken, my friends were there for me by doing the things I wrote below in the form of advice.Show her love and give her enough room to express herself.No judgment or told-you-sos.Create a comfort zone for a while (sleep overs, series binge watching etc.) and then push her right out of it so she could experience freedom and independence again (dancing classes, anything proactive).Sometimes you will need to be tender, and sometimes you may need to be a bit harsh.And, yes after a while, you should be her reality check. It is nice to be there for a person and say Yeah, yeah he is a bastard!, but the best thing one can do is to point out what lessons you can draw from a certain experience, so make sure you stop her from blaming he guy forever (although he may be a really bad person), but just try to turn it into a learning experience as much as possible when you see she is getting better.And, yes, forgiveness is something you could bring up after a while as it will relieve her, and she should be able to finally move on after it’s done.We all know that, regardless of our feelings, our egos get really bruised after such incidents, and we need to let out the anger in a comforting environment, but once we let it out, we need some sense of direction and motivation. You can be that vehicle.I wish your sister heals soon! All the best to both of you!