What should I do? My boyfriend hates my sister’s boyfriend to an extent where he wants me to choose between him (my bf) and my sister. I love my sister more than anyone on this Earth and I love my boyfriend to bits.
Your boyfriend clearly has a lot of maturing to do. Always pay attention when someone wants to divide instead of unite. He doesn't want to make amends, tolerate or forgive whatever the trespass is so instead he would rather you pay with your relationship to your sister. His love and respect for you should cause him to tolerate and/or forgive the person because of you. To love means patience, kindness. It's not envious, boastful, arrogant or rude. It doesn't insist on its own way. Would you say he is operating out of love for you? For you to decide. It's alright to love someone, but when they “try” to make you choose between relationships that person clearly does not care how this affects you and is extremely selfish. Never allow anyone to hold you and someone you love hostage because they refuse to operate in love. Talk with him and let him know that your relationship with your sister is not a bargaining chip, it's for keeps.
What do you do if your sister's boyfriend doesn't like you?
Don't worry about 'im.Forget 'im.He doesn't have to like you.I still have a hard time getting along with my brother's wife (my sister in law). I do not consider her family. She tried to refer to me as her baby brother one day, and I said "we really don't know each other very well. please don't refer to me as that."I'm not a fan. I can't tell you why exactly. But, I don't have to like her all the time. And I would hate if she went around trying to get me to like her. That would feel disingenuous, and would make me even more peeved with her.Unless your sister's boyfriend is harassing you or targeting you, then really, just ignore him, and go about your business with your friends and family.
I hate my sister's boyfriend!?
Me and my sister agreed with everything, until she found her first boyfriend: they've been together for 2 years now. The problem is, whenever me and my sister gets into a conflict, he always comes inbetween us and targets me. Just recently, my sister and I got mad, so I decided to sleep with my mom. She complained to her boyfriend that she was afraid, and he talked to my mom about how vicious it was for me to leave her alone on the second floor. He then verbally attacked me, calling me horrible names. All this time, my sister has done nothing. I feel so betrayed, as I was ALWAYS there for her when she faced a conflict with her boyfriend. Then when I told my mom, my sister defended him, saying it was all my fault. The thing is, he doesn't even know how my sister and I are like normally, so he really has no right to judge me. Right now, I'm deciding not to talk with either of them. But is this the right decision? I really don't want my sister to be with this guy. But what can I do?!
My sister's boyfriend doesn't treat her right?
My sister's boyfriend of almost 6 months doesn't treat her right at all. At first he was really good to her, but lately he's been a serious jerk to her. Examples: He blows her off at the very last minute to do things he wants to do, like if he promised to take her to a movie she wanted to see, he'd suddenly cancel because of his precious football games(I honestly never got the appeal of the game), or if she needed to study he'd talk about all these raging parties he's heading to while she's stuck at home, wondering what in God's name he's doing. It's not jsut that. He's also very suspicious of her. My sister is a saint whenever she's in a relationship. Yea, I admit she can have a temper, but she'd never intentionally hurt anyone. He accuses her of crazy ****, he even took her cell phone away from her for two days as if he were expected a romantic call or text from some guy. It is true, she has a dude for a BFF, but the guy's gay! It's not EVER gonna happen. My blood boils every time my sister comes home to the family crying because of the psychological abuse this guy is putting her through. I haven't said anything to her yet, because seriously, what can I say? I was hoping someone here could please help me.
Should I have a talk with my sister’s boyfriend?
No. You don’t do anything of the sort. This is NOT your relationship you’re talking about.If you have a concern, the most helpful thing to do is to talk to your sister. Try to empower her in the process, give her a way to deal with arseholes instead of disempowering her by making her choices about how to deal, for her.Too many people think they are helping when they just step in and stand up for people -> if you ask her if she’d like you to do or say something, and she says yes, then by all means step in. However, making the assumption that you have permission is a lot more dangerous, it could do untold damage to your relationship with your sister.Why would you risk the integrity of your relationship with your sister just so you can feel like you’re protecting her. She’s an adult, so the respectful thing to do is to approach her, tell her you feel like you need to protect her and stand up for her, but that you want to be respectful, so you’d like to know from her what precisely she would like you to do or say in order to support and protect her. That’s called respect and it’ll strengthen your relationship enormously!!
My sisters boyfriends sister?
no you guys are not related in any type of way its okay its not going to look bad if you like her
How do you accept your sister’s boyfriend if you don't like him? She's with a guy who drinks, smokes weed, and is disrespectful, but I think they'll be together for a while.
Ugh, I know that situation so well.My older sister has been in a relationship with a guy like that for five years already. He drinks, he smokes, he only plays games all day (he has no job), he is disrespectful and he treats her like a servant. The problem is that she loves him and she does everything for him. That she also always wants to help everybody isn’t helping either.Even when they had just gotten together, I already had a gut feeling that he was bad news. I would make up excuses as to why I didn’t like him because then I didn’t have any good reasons yet, just a bad feeling.If you think he is influencing your sister in a bad way or not treating her the way he should, you don’t have to accept him. I never did and I never will. I actually just want to scream at him for all the bad things he did to my sister and tell him to leave her alone, but I know my sister would probably pay for my behaviour so I don’t. He is not allowed at our house and any family events so I just try my best to ignore himSo, for short: You are not obligated to accept or like him. If you can, try to ignore him. And if your sisters asks, tell her your reasons for not liking him and hopefully she understands.