How come my mom hates me.....?
how come my mom hates me what did i do wrong she is always mad at me i dont want to fight all the time why is she very nice to my brothers but she is always mad at me is it maybe because i made her very sick when i was born because she was not so post to have no more kids she is always mad at me even when i try to help out around the house she says i did it half *** my oldest brother is on drugs and she still give him money he lives at home he is 30 years old with no job she still treats him better she does not do no house work my brother the 24 year old does the cleaning the clothes almost everything my grandma was my mom she was a real mom but she past away last year now i dont got a mom or dad my dad past away when i was 12 he was a very great dad but he and my grandma are gone now there is no one let when my grandma was dieing i talked to her and told her i would miss her she said she was not afraid to die shes said she was afraid to leave me cuz she know how my mom was with me also she always said i was her favorite how i miss her and my dad why does my mom hate me no matter what i say she gets mad also i am 16 im i just being another teen if i am please tell me! i just wanna know why she hates me
My mom hates my son what do I do?
I had to give custudy to her and I live with them to be near my son . I am black and my son is mixed and she calls him half white ****** to his face and she tells me when he is not there that she wants to beat him but she is scared to go to jail and she told him that she dosen't mind my living with her but she doesen't want him there. My mom is very controling after he does dishes she looks at every dish hopeing to find something wrong and when he forgot and left food in the strainers she throughs it at him (wet food and trash) child protective services has come but she tells my son that if he says anything that he will never see me again I tried to tell him that's not true but he was was scared and he did not say anything and I just don't know what to do, she is a monster and we are stuck here my younger brother and sister live here too and she treats them like gold and she makes them treat my son badly ., and then we have to go to church and I have to watcg her cry and shout and be miss holy roller and she says everyone is going to hell , she even told me she thinks the amish are evil so what do I do?
What makes a son hate his mom?
I am sorry for your situation...I am an 18 year old girl...and I have a wonderful relationship with my parents. I don't know why boys are so different. I have a brother who took advantage of my parents and they had a really bad relationship there for a little bit. Things didn't get better until after he grew up (he was 18-I am 6 years younger) he entered the military and from then he had earned my parents trust that he is responsible and they gave him the respect he wanted. I think boys take advantage of thier moms becuase as a mom, you will do ANYTHING for your children, for him. My brother would have taken my moms last dollar there for a while. Life needs to kick him around to realize what and amazing person you are. But right now, he is trying to grow up and be in his own. I dont really understand why he would want nothing to do with you...but you should focus on making yourself happy, becuase maybe he feels like you are too into his life...and that you are too invasive. Find a man who loves you. Make yourself happy. He will learn. Boys are stupid, I am only 18 and I know this (I am very mature for my age, I work full time, etc.) They never grow up...Hopefully if you raised him right, he will do the right things. : ) Good luck hun!!
My son hates me, how do I deal with this?
It is really important for you to find a professional, like a psychologist, to talk to. You need to do a couple of things. First, you need to find a way to be happy and fulfilled even if you never reconnect with your son. This isn't to downplay your desire for a relationship. It will actually help create the opportunity for a relationship. When we come across as really needing something, it can actually show so much in our way of talking and acting that we can put the other person off. Strange as it sounds, when you are in a place to be most accepting of living without a relationship with him, that is probably when he will really start opening up. Next, you need to have a chance to really explain the decision that you made and what your son went through to a professional. It is very possible that you did the right thing and have nothing to apologize for. However, maybe there is a possibility that some sort of apology needs to take place or at least a discussion of how your actions did result in some pain for your son, even if the outcome may have been for the best. Also, you can explore with the counselor whether something may have happened to your son while he was away. If there was some form of inappropriate behavior/abuse that occurred that you don't know about, he may be associating you with that experience. He might be too ashamed to admit what happened but too pained to connect with you because of the reminder. A psychologist can help you process these kinds of possibilities, give you tools for enduring without a relationship at this time, and suggest ways to keep showing that you love your son unconditionally now and that you are ready when he is to take the next step. The father/son relationship is so very crucial and so very complex. Seek help, keep working on it, and keep up hope. When people change, they are chipping away at a wall from the inside. You can't see it while it is happening. You only see it when they have finally broken through. It seems like a miraculous, sudden event, but it isn't. Because the work is invisible, you need to stay positive and open while your son has a chance to work through his own issues. I wish you the best.
Why does my dad hate me but like my son?
Are you a man or a woman? Maybe it’s simple - he’s a male chauvinist pig.If you’re a man perhaps he’s “sucking up” to your son because a child or younger person is very much more malleable & controllable than an independent adult. Often when a man “hates” his son/daughter it’s emotion rooted in jealousy. He’s not competing with your son. He can feel like a BIG MAN to a Grandson whilst making Insecurity based put-down remarks against you thus showing off how dominant & suiperior he is and how much in control of you he is. Personally I’d keep my son away from him as much as possible & build up your popularity with him by any means possible. Sounds like your Dad is a nasty piece of work. Don’t apologise to anyone if you think keeping your son away from his negative influence is the right thing to do.
My mom hates me and says I'm not her son anymore?
My mother and I got into an argument because I told her I didn't feel comfortable with a guy that keeps coming over, which she calls her friend. Ever since he came into the picture two months ago, my mom constantly lies to me, she yells at me, and we're just not much of a family anymore. Today she started screaming at me, it was about 10:50pm. She told me I'm not her son anymore, she hates me, shes going to call the police on me and have me go to a foster home, shes going to make me pay rent(I'm 15), and she said I have to move to my dad. She is starting to say those things constantly to me every week now, today it was the most serious it has ever gotten though. I don't know what to do, she wont listen to me. I always tell her how much I don't like the guy, but she just wont listen to me. It's killing me inside, I just don't know what to do anymore. Please help me.
I hate my mom but my son loves his grandma. What should I do?
Raise your son with the values you now hold by not repeating your mother's hateful behavior. Work through your anger and hatred toward her in psychotherapy. Allow yourself to feel your feelings whenever they arise without acting hatefully or in rage. Recognize that you are an adult now, and take steps to protect yourself from any hateful behavior that your mother still exhibits toward you, and protect your son if she ever behaves hatefully toward him. Take responsibility for your own feelings and actions and model that responsibility for your son. Give him the gift of allowing him to see the best parts of your mother and love her for them. And give your mother the gift of allowing her to change and grow with her grandson. Perhaps she didn't know how to be a good parent to you, but is now able to be a good nana. If so, then she is more fortunate than many parents who later become abusive grandparents as well. By allowing yourself to change and grow past your hatred for her, and allowing her to change and grow past her own hate, you make room for health in your family.
I hate my backpack but my mom likes it what do i do?
I abosolutely hate my backpack but yet once again my mom likes it! She says they'res nothing wrong with it ,no holes or anything. What do i do i, don't want to suffer another year with it again?