Help,my son thinks he's ugly?
Try to get him involved with something that really interests him. Maybe if he likes Eminem he will like hip hop dance classes or music lessons or somthing like that. If he wants violence or feels the need to let aggression out through physical behavior maybe he will like karate. Then maybe his self esteem wont be based on apperance rather on his ability to accomplish somthing.
My 11 year old son thinks he is a girl. What do I do?
I have worked with several Transgender kids, so please take into consideration that my answer may provide insight that people who speculate about trans kids will not have. First, do not tell him that he's not. Ask him instead why he feels like he's a girl. It may be something small, like he really likes pink and has been under the impression that only girls like pink, so if he likes pink, he must be a girl inside. It may also be something huge. For trans kids, it's an internal thing. They honestly, authentically feel like the opposite gender inside, like their exterior gender is wrong. I cannot stress this enough: Do not tell them that they're wrong about these innate feelings. Tell them that you're just as confused as they are, sure, but do not, do not, devalue them. Telling them that they are wrong will do exactly that.Secondly, consider how this affects you. Seriously. Do you love your kid less? Will you love your kid less if he decides to pursue this? If he grows his hair out, if he asks you to call him 'her'? If your gut instinct is anything other than 'no', then you need to consider reconsidering your reasonings behind this. Because I think you love your kid. Or you wouldn't have asked. So having said that...Thirdly, seek counseling for everyone. Not that crappy therapy where they 'fix' him by guilting him into being a boy because of Christian values. But authentic therapy that will help him understand and explore how he feels and wants to move forward, and help you, dear parent, understand how best to support him and yourself, because the haters are going to come and you have a big battle ahead getting him acknowledged as a girl (if that's what he wants). These are three very broad things, but they are crucial to everyone's mental health and stability. Good luck. And much love.
All of a sudden my son thinks I'm not "cool" anymore; what happened?
Man, I miss my sons. I think I need a little Kahlua in my coffee this morning..
My 11-year old son tells me he thinks he's "a loser". What should I tell him to make him feel better about himself?
If your son thinks he is a loser, it is important that you tell that he isn’t. I would want to know why he thinks he is a loser and if you are having difficulty reaching seek mental health professionals in your community. You can tell him that this is problem that unfortunately doesn’t go away when he reaches adulthood. People are called losers because they don’t make enough of an income and make other lifestyle choices or are different. It seems to me that the people who are calling others losers have some issues themselves. He also might benefit from support groups online or at his school. These things hopefully will make him feel better.
Tell me how my 11 year old son think he bisexual like he know what he talking about?
You would be suprised. I know they dont know much about sex or not as not as they might think but its certainly an issue. I know its hard to believe but its not impossible. Be Thankful he is open, honest and feels comfortable talking about this with you. You obviously have been doing something right. Keep it up. He is at the age when he is starting to discover just who he is and what he likes. I still find it hard to believe but my mother and sister are both school teachers and they find kids around his age fooling around all the time. Its going to happen just give him the knowledge to be safe and protect himself and be a supportive mom that it sounds like you are.
My son told me that he's an atheist. How do I explain to him that it's just a phase and that he'll get over it?
Q: My son told me that he's an atheist. How do I explain to him that it's just a phase?A: “That’s nice, son, as long as you don’t get pregnant.”Let me explain: someone who is convinced that their children’s current “thing” is just a phase is not really interested in their concerns. They could as well go for the non-caring parent mumbling behind the paper while drinking coffee at the breakfast table phase themselves.So take his atheism seriously. I don’t mean confrontational, but out of curiosity. Learn about atheism, and learn about his atheism – why he does not believe in gods, how he came to that realisation – and listen to him. Do not challenge him, but actually listen to what he says. Take notes, even.Then you have two basic paths:“I don’t agree with your point of view, but that doesn’t matter because you’re my son, and I will love you to death and always support you, no matter if you believe or not. Sure, it’s sad, but I won’t challenge you on it. I will expect that you say grace at our table as long as you live in this house, though.” Accept that he has come to a point where he has defined himself, and meet him halfway. Don’t expect him to change, but at least tell him that you expect him to follow the rituals for harmony’s and family peace’s sake.“I don’t agree with your point of view, but I’m curious about it and would love to have friendly discussions about atheism and theism. So if you’re in for it, I would be happy to explore the topic if you are willing to also explore my faith. Deal?” This is the slightly riskier path. It may lead to heated discussions, so you both have to be the adults in the room. There’s also the chance that his arguments for non-belief may kick off the process of you losing your faith.And if it actually is a phase, it will pass.