My mom wants to know all my passwords so she can monitor my devices. She will get suspicious if I argue. What should I do?
As a 19 year old who was once in your position, I'm gonna say don't hand over your passwords. When I hit my teens, my mother also demanded access to everything, from my social media accounts to my email addresses to the academic sites I had to use for school. I put my foot down on this immediately at the tender age of 13, because, as I told her, I was a good kid, and I didn't do anything wrong or illegal, and had never really given my parents a reason not to trust me, not had I ever been secretive about my activity on my accounts so her need to secretly snoop through them was moot. Of course I was able to use this argument because it was true, so if your mom has caught you doing something you shouldnt then you don't really have a leg to stand on, depending on what it was. I was and always have been very against allowing my mother to have unlimited access to my private accounts, because while i had no problem letting her go through my accounts when she asked, i still felt that my password was for me and to allow me some level of privacy. Adults will tell you that because you are a minor you aren't entitled to privacy, amd these are the same adults who probably hid everything from their parents because they too felt their privacy was not being respected. If adults communicated with their kids and made them feel more comfortable sharing their activity, instead of trying to discreetly snoop through everything, they would learn a lot more. They think that when they go through your drawers and read your diary and sift through your text messages that they are getting the scoop on your life, but all they do is motivate you to become more private and secretive. Your mother is naive If she thinks you can't just make whole new accounts and let her sift through the old ones you give her passwords to. I would discuss with her with you are uncomfortable giving your passwords, and come to some sort of compromise. I say this because while it is her job to protect you, I have seen many parents use privacy as a way to manipulate and even abuse their children and sometimes your password to your dry and boring email is the only thing you have when you can't trust your parents to respect anything else.
Who invests in covert gang stalking projects?
Wouldn't the better question be, "Why would someone invest in a covert operation to stalk people?"I think you'll find, once you consider it, there's no good reason these days. But I'll let you in on a secret: You are being stalked. But not in the way you think.When you buy something at the grocery store, do you use a debit or credit card? Does your local grocer offer a "loyalty program" like points back or personalized offers? Is there a membership club for your local bulk-merchandise retailer? Do you have an email account? Of course you do. Do you use Facebook, or Google's Search engine? Have you made purchases from Amazon, or browsed Youtube? Every ounce of data you provide is attached to you, and used by these companies to track your habits, estimate your value and provide market data to advertisers and manufacturers the world over. Everything is collected, from which cars sold the most units to what demographic purchases the most Kraft Dinner. But, it's not really stalking like you think. Because they don't have to follow you around, or watch you in your home. You're freely giving companies around the world access to all of your information every day, all the time. Every "End User License Agreement" you didn't read, every "Privacy Statement" you've ever signed... Why would you ever be worried about someone following you? They don't have to- you've already offered them a fully compiled report on everything they care about. They even know how much toilet tissue you use, based on estimates of how often a person poops and how much tissue you buy. They'll also have access to census data about how many people you live with, and GPS data on how often you leave the house. Your Internet Service Provider even knows what kind of porn you watch, and how often. We are just a couple of Privacy Infringement laws away from the world of "Nineteen Eighty-Four" by George Orwell, and you're worried about people physically following you?
Stepmom is mad at me?
I accidentally left he stove burner on. The pan on the burner didn't occur any damage, however, the spatula melted. I cleaned up the mess and aired out the space (it appeared as if is nothing had happened). My step mom found the melted spatula and I told her what happened. She is very upset. She told me she worries that I'll accidentally burn the house down. She is verrrrrrrrrrrrrrrry upset. She already a bit of an over sensitive woman in general, so, this is bad...... We don't exactly see eye to eye already... I feel bad about upsetting her. I want to make it up to her in some way and show I care. I apologized but I know that that won't cut it. Any ideas on what I can do?
What made you realize that it was finally time to get a divorce?
I dated my previous husband for 7 years before we got married, and somewhere deep down inside I knew I took the wrong decision to marry him.1. One evening I got home from work and he started complaining (again) of how I worked late and did not have time to cook for him during the week. I should mention he used to get home 4 hours earlier than me and did absolutely nothing every day, even his work was a joke. The fight got really ugly and because of the stress I started feeling bad, but he wouldn’t stop yelling at me. The fight got so bad that at some point I started having problems breathing, felt something weird in my chest and I asked him to call the ambulance because I had a history with asthma.His answer was ‘No, if I call the ambulance they might think it is some-kind of domestic violence and I might be in trouble’. I called the ambulance by myself when he was in the bathroom, went to the hospital together with him of course and he seemed so worried in front of the doctors. I remember the doctors telling me I had a mild panic attack, asked me reasons why and when I let them know they just said that all marriages had their own fights and that he seemed a nice man and I should go back home with him. Which I did.On the way back I expected him to call us a taxi because it was winter, I only had a sweater on and I was not feeling well either. Well, what he did was ask me if I had money to pay the cab, which I did not because I did not have my wallet with me, took my phone away so as not to able to call anybody and told me I have to walk home as punishment for calling the ambulance, and reflect on the fact that another person who needed that ambulance might have died.2. The second one pretty easy - when I was too afraid of what I might do to myself and of what he might do to me, that I could not stand up from a bench in the park and head home. Stayed there for hours and only returned to take my clothes when he was working and never went back.It took me more than 2 years to recover and have a healthy relationship, and still have times I am afraid to say what’s on my mind so as not to offend my partner or my friends for that matter. Getting out of an abusive relationship is hard, but healing from one is even harder and that road is made of days we are able to get up, go to work and pretend to function normally, until we finally do. But I do am proud of myself, if I have a bad day, I always remind myself it is way better than one of the good days back then.
My 30-year-old daughter ignores my text messages. Should I "forget" her birthday?
I love my sons. One is 29, engaged, with a full-time job, living in his own home. The other is 19, a sophomore at Caltech which is a difficult school. I'm no longer working due to having an illness, so time is slower for me than it is for them, something I remember, and you should too. When I text them, it is to let them know I'm thinking about them, or to tell them something amusing, maybe to share a joke or a picture. I don't expect them to respond. They have busy lives and schedules, and I don't know what they do when. They'll text me once in a while when they think of me too. The only time I expect an answer is when I am doing something like making flight reservations that requires me to know something specific. I text rather than call specifically because they are so busy. I don't expect an response instantly. Your question sounds like one a 13 year old would write. Ignore a birthday? Is that something any adult really cares about? If it bothers you that your child doesn't text back, why not call them up and tell them it hurts you, and ask why not? And then listen to the answer and accept it. Then make some sort of arrangement that you both can live with, so that you don't feel left out. Maybe you agree they will call you every Saturday, or text you back a couple times a week. Adults negotiate feelings and problems and come up with compromises that work for both. Emotional blackmail does not make for a healthy relationship. We parents of adult children must recognize that we did our jobs. We raised successful, busy people with lives of their own, which was the goal, wasn't it? At this point, our job is to be supportive. They will want to be in contact with you when you are loving, uncritical, and understanding. My kids contact me frequently, because I don't try to make them, and I'm not critical of them when they do. I finished my job, now I get to enjoy the men they have become. I hope you can work this out.