I am 23 and im muslim i need help i lost my virginity to my bf and i am really regretting this badly.. advice!?
I am a 23 year old arabic/muslim girl from Lebanon, born an raised in the U.S. Me and my bf have been together for 2 years now and i lost my virginity a few months ago. While being together in his room studying things got out of hand an heated up. I always told him to stop once he got to close to ripping my hymen. Unfortunately it slipped and i lost my virginity. We both knew it is against our religion to have pre marital sex and we take full responsibility for even foreplay that lead to me losing my virginity. My parents have met him several times and they Absolutely love him. He visits my dad almost everyday and has major respect for my daddy. After our incident i started to panic and crying at times. Although he says he is going to marry i cannot guarantee this marriage to actually happen although i deeply wish and hope for it because i Truly love him. After the fact that i am not a virgin anymore has been put in my head it's starting to bother me badly and im starting to regret it because of my religion i know this is fortification in my religion but its to late to take it back. I don't know what to do im stressing more and more everyday. About the marriage i know it seems like "what the hell you psycho get married already" but the problem is, is that he graduated from University and has not yet found a job to support a marriage and until he finds a job and becomes settled down to marry me i am in desperate need to have other options in case this marriage does not happen. I can never tell my parents not because they will kill me because i know they wouldn't do such thing, my parents are well educated people who would never think of killing their child but perhaps disowning me. I would hate for that to happen and im trying to avoid such dilemma. Also what can i do as a muslim girl in order to ask for forgiveness from god because i know this is a major sin in islam. sorry i know this is really long but i really need help and advice from everyone. Thank you so much and i will definitely keep everyone updated on what occurs.
Diet... How to lose the weight before 9th grade? Help!?
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Advice: should I lose my virginity before or after marriage?
Since there is doubt in your mind about whether to have sex or not that means it's an important decision to you, which is why you should NEVER ask strangers for advice about it. Some of these people telling you to lose it are either prostitutes or drug addicts. Personally I'm 20, a guy and a virgin, and I won't lose it to a girl that I don't care about. The first girl I'll sleep with will be the girl that I have been with for a long time and who I know has the same goal as I do (marriage) and whom I love and care about. The feeling has to be mutual, of course. And I'll do everything I can for her to be the last. Lastly, you have to remember that the urge you feel is based on hormones, not thinking. If you listen to your feelings/sensations - as opposed to your own good judgment - then things tend to end badly - not always - but way more often than not. So make a decision with a clear head, never when you're horny (pardon the expression). Do what you want to do and make sure you don't regret anything. And don't ever ask people you don't know for serious advice, that's a recipe for disaster. There are people in this world who are doing everything they can to see everyone fornicate like they themselves do.
Gambling problem... I really need help I'm in the hole 6k. I need advice before I lose everything that I have?
"before I lose everything that I have" Well - at least you realize that's exactly what's going to happen. 6K in the hole is awful. I know how you must feel. Still, you have NO IDEA what the true depths of despair feel like yet. If you have more to lose, you WILL lose it! If you have more credit available to you, you WILL dig yourself such a deep hole that you will NEVER crawl out of it! If you don't do something drastic soon, you will lose decades of your life before you ever recover, that's if you ever recover at all. Trust me. I've been there, and I did NOT get the help I needed until I maxed out every credit card I had. I was fortunate because I still had a great job. It ONLY took me about 10 years to finally dig myself out of the hole I dug. Still, a whole decade of poverty ruined my life for a very long time. Why? All because I didn't get REAL help for my problem when I was ONLY down 6K! 6K is NOTHING! You could dig yourself out of this hole within a year if you are disciplined. When you see the walls of your life caving in around you, you are going to WISH you were only down 6K! You're going to beg God to allow you to start over again, and cry yourself to sleep when you know there's no getting out of the mess you made. DO SOMETHING! Talk with family or friends. Do NOT ask them for money!!! If you get money, you will gamble it away and only make things worse! You do NOT need financial help, you need help with your GAMBLING PROBLEM! There are many places to get it. Look where they sell lottery tickets. There is always a number nearby that allows you to call for help with gambling problems. Allow me to leave you with a very short inspirational story called "Frogs on a Lily Pad". 2 frogs were sitting on a lily pad. 1 of the frogs decided to jump into the pond. How many frogs are now sitting on the lily pad? TWO!!! One of the frogs "decided" to jump, but he never actually jumped!!! The moral of the story is you must TAKE ACTION! You can't just "decide" to do something about this. You must TAKE ACTION! Do something TODAY! One of the hardest steps is to admit to family and friends that you have a problem and that you can NOT go to a casino or a racetrack or get lottery tickets. Just do it.