I need social help! Idk how to socialize?
A few words from me: Go ahead to a starbucks, and just try to start conversations. Get practice, you know, your first conversations will probably be pretty bad as you are incredibly nervous and not very good at it. But after a few conversations, it will be easier. And if they don't like, you probably aren't even going to see them again in your life...so you aren't losing anything. So just try talking to people.(Even if it will be awkward) And make people feel like you like them.(Show that you are in no way anti-social) And just kinda be nice, listen attentively(Even if you don't care about what they are talking about), and hope they like you. Then go ahead and invite some people to go on a hike with you or something.(Even if you really don't care about hiking that much) It works pretty decently. Cheers!(I am still not very good at keeping conversations going, but what can you do? As long as you got a bunch of awesome friends who you can hang with.)
I suck at socializing. Help. Please.?
I'm a Freshman in college who doesn't really give a **** about your major. I've lived in a small town for the past 19 years and have the social intelligence of a rock. I don't really go for small talk and am sick of awkward moments, so I need ways to strike up some genuine conversation with people. Unless I click with someone, which is very very rare, I don't fare very well in the social scene. Like most people I fare better with guys than I do with girls and am curious as to whether there should be different topics for each gender. I just need some pointers and ideas to start and keep a conversation going because I can see that some people would like to talk to me and I'd really like to talk to them, but like I said, I'm terrible at this. Any help would be more than useful and much appreciated. Merci
Need help socializing my chihuahua puppy?
He's about 8 months old. He is a pretty good dog but has some things that need resolving. He doesn't like other people too much. I will take him on a walk and people will awe over him and ask to pet him but he will run away from them and bark at them. He treats children the same way. I'm not sure how to handle him or what to do when he does this. I just tell people he isn't friendly. He also has an issue with other dogs. When he greets them he looks very dominant. He head is high, his chest is out, and is tail sticks straight up, is that bad?
I need help with socializing, I have social anxiety and never have anything to say to anyone. No friends?
Im 16 and have no friends. Ive only had 1 thruout my life so far and he moved away a couple years ago. Now im always watching movies and going to tafe talking to nobody. Theres only 8 people their but there all people i dont like. I admire Zyzz so much i wish i had friends like him and had his personality. He was a bodybuilder but also a party animal and went out clubbing getting with all different girls. How can i become more social? Im anti-social kinda. I love to talk with someone but when i do i sound like an idiot and end up getting weird looks all the time because of my weirdness. Im not used to talking to people.
I hate socializing. Do I need to change something?
People have a varying tolerance for social time, whether face-to-face or via social media. People on the autism spectrum tend to have less tolerance or ability to cope with social situations. One type of autism is called Asperger's syndrome. Such people can be exhausted by spending time with people; even answering a phone call from a friend can be too much. People who are solidly introverted have less tolerance for social interactions as well; they need "recovery time" after an evening with friends. They might or might not find social media a less stressful way to have some social life.Many (if not most) extraverts tend to assume that everyone who is mentally "healthy" should enjoy or even seek out social situations. What psychologists tend to to advise is that introverts and people on the autism spectrum expose themselves to some social situations, even if they then need solitude and quiet to recover. But some does not mean every day. (This can make working in an office exhausting.)Most people live their lives with what is familiar and comfortable. For you, this apparently has meant avoiding social media, email, etc. I never had a smartphone until recently because I could not imagine why I would need one. I could make emergency phone calls from an old-fashioned flip phone. I finally got a smartphone. And I was right (for the most part): Beyond making emergency phone calls (if I remember to charge the phone), I use it to get directions to my destination while driving and, on rare occasions, to look up something. I don't text; I don't use social media on a mobile phone; I don't call people on my mobile phone. Yes, many people would prefer to text back and forth with those tiny keyboards and cryptic non-sentences. I do not.By the way, dealing with other people does make life more complex, but life is supposed to be complex. Just look at other parts of your life: your physical health, your ongoing learning, your diet, your exercise. All these things can get rather complicated in a way that we need to control somewhat, but we also need to accept some degree of complexity as unavoidable and important to staying healthy. The key is stretching yourself a little to accommodate life's complexities and knowing your limits (based on noticing what happens when you try something that is just outside your comfort zone, moving that limit as you find you can tolerate more).
Is it too late to socialize with my rats?
NO. Rats should never live alone, and keeping them separate will only make taming matters worse. Rats need each other for comfort. Single rats grow to be more fearful because it is unnatural for them to exist in solitude. If a rat is uncertain, it will be afraid. Single rats are more uncertain of everything. Unfair to them. The reason they aren't tame is because no one handles them. It's simple. No one so much as touches pet store animals while they are at the store, no wonder they aren't used to people! It's up to you to get them used to it, and give them more positive associations over negative. You do this by winning them over with food, and essentially, making them come to you, not the other way. I'm sure you know, but approaching a rodent motivates fear. Predators grab them, and instinctively they know to dodge anything that is reaching for them. For this reason, you should not be picking them up just like that, especially from their back. You need to establish communication, let them know you are present, and getting their attention (with food). Never ever grab them, only handle them slowly and calmly even if they are not. The biting habit originated from fear. From now on, every time you get nipped, let out a high pitched shriek. It may sound ridiculous, but it will communicate pain or alarm to them. Instinctively they will stop what they are doing and back off. Respectively, you need to take biting as a que to back away too. No it is not too late. It cannot be "too late" to tame pets. Otherwise, what is to become of them? It was your choice to buy them, now it's up to you to give em a happy life. You should consider allowing them free roaming time, in a safe place. Rats should get out for an hour a day or more. If they are penned up in their cage, any intelligent animal will go mad. Literally. Part of their nervousness and aggression is lack of mental stimulation and physical exercise. If you tire them out, they will be more pleasant. Avoid using exercise wheels or balls though. A pen or something is good.