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What language do you want to learn and why?

I am currently learning ASL (american sign language) along with my one year old.She's not deaf, but not speaking yet, and sign language has provided a means of intelligent communication far earlier than spoken word could.When my wife told me she was pregnant I immediately read everything I could pertaining to pregnancy and early childhood.  In all my reading what struck me most was the stories by the people that signed with their kids.  Much of the terrible twos is a result of frustration due to being unable to communicate.  Also some talked about how sign language saved their child's life.  One 18 month old cried and signed ouch over her nose.  Her mom knew to check the baby's nose and when she saw nothing to get the doctor to check the baby's nose.  Somehow the child had shoved a sharp piece of trash up her nose and it could have sliced up her sinuses or worse if she hadn't been able to tell her mom where she hurt and in turn got the doctor to remove it.With sign language I started communicating with my little girl at 8 months, and now she's 15 months and we communicate a lot.  I can tell her no and she understands.  If she wants something she'll sign please and sign what she wants or if we don't know the sign she points.  She understands cold and hot (and she has trained the hibachi chef at a local place to sign hot)! Tantrums are few and far between, mostly she's happy, inquisitive and fearless knowing I'll tell her no or ouch if she is going to hurt herself and she can let me know if she needs something.I wish I had learned more before she was born (and I had more time) so when she points I could show her the signs for everything.  She's to the point she learns a sign after only a couple of times seeing it.  We are learning together using the internet and baby signing time videos.  If you are interested in learning ASL with your baby I highly recommend the baby signing time videos at signingtime.com.  You can see their work on YouTube if you search 'baby signing time'.  The lady who signs and sings is Rachel, she usually wears a yellow shirt (so you know you got the right program.)

Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned: Are women really vindictive to the point of irrationality? Does it mean that a man is incapable of getting as angry as a woman?

A loaded questionI don't intend providing stats here as they can be checked on the webIn the USA (and the West generally) more women than men initiate divorce and separationMore women than men are resposible for killing their own children, and for murdering children generallyIt is more difficult to prove how women murder men as they tend to use non-violent methods such as poisoning, as they more commonly prepare food, can do this in ways that are more difficult to detectWomen are more likely to lie about circumstances where they are the victimsThe Family courts, and the law generally are more tolerant of women than men as offendersThe Family courts dealing with custodial disputes are mainly operated by women, as are lower schools, as is the Social Services, as are lawyers dealing with domestic issuesThere are far more charities for men related to help on family problems because far more men are affected negatively by these problemsWomen are far more likely to sue over payments on divorce than men, even if the conditions are similar for bothWomen who are victims will get far more coverage than men in a similar situation. They will also get far more emotional and financial supportWomen's evidence is commonly accepted against a man even though her evidence has no more support than hisIt is far more likely that an innocent man will be jailed than an innocent womanCases of Domestic violence against women are taken far more seriously than Domestic violence against men, even though instances of both are roughly equal (though men less likely to report it, they commonly show evidence of it)Women using children as weapons against the fathers of the children is far more common than the other way aroundWomen are far more likely to tell lies to schools about the father to prevent him getting information on his childrenAll the above items are well referenced on the web. I don't intend giving links other than thisGoogle

Have you ever witnessed a "Don't tell me how to raise my child" moment?

Ya pretty much what ruined my child hood 11 fukin years later I still hate that moment of my life…..When I was in grade 1 I had a dentist’s appointment. My dad picked me up from school and we walked to the dentist. The doctor gave me laughing gas and something went wrong I had a very bad trip and I remember seeing everything just super pixelated and slugish. I got very scared and started crying the doctor stopped and naturally since I trusted my dad I blamed him for the very bad trip and I pretty much called him every swear word a grade 1 child would know (stupid, dumb, dog and pretty much words that arn’t real swear words but offensive) He was just quite didn't give any response while we walked back home perhaps that was his way to punish me… While he could’ve been coming me down at the dentist office. Anyways 1 day later he still wasn’t talking to me and I apologized and he still wanted to punish me by not talking to me. 3 days later I tell my grandma to tell dad to forgive me. She agreed but at one condition that if my dad doesn’t agree she will leave our home forever. I thought she was joking and exaggerating (like every brown grandma) and I stupidly agreed. She did do as she said she will. She went to my dad and told him to call it quits and he didn't want and sure enough she got all her things and left forever this time… I was crying and begging her to stay but to no avail. Deep down in my mind I was like she’ll come back 2 days later once she goes to my aunts or uncles home but I also had a feeling she ment it this time.Later on in life i find out the reason why my grandma left and never came back was because the day before I asked my grandma to do so she did tell my dad to call it quits and that I was only 6 and I made a mistake, I learned my lesson that swearing is not how you deal with your problems. He didn't and when she asked him he said I’m his child and he knows whats best for me . She took it personally and said that he is her child and she didn't raise him to be like this. And the next day when I asked her that’s why she told me right of the bat that if he doesn't oblige she’s leaving forever because now he’s not listening to her and that was the final straw for her.So ya that was my dad’s “Don’t tell me how to raise my child moment” which to his defence he wasn't wrong but a little extreme.11 fukin years later I still blame myself for my grandma not living with us.

How do I quickly and efficiently learn a new language?

I speak presently 6 languages: French( Native), English, German, Chinese, Japanese and KoreanLet me tell you briefly how I did that.Put in your head that learning a language is easy, you just need time and patience, that’s allYou can absolutely become as fluent as a Native.Don’t listen to anyone telling you you can’t, most people around you don’t speak more than one language and have some fixed mindset about language learning which prevent them from being open to learning and improving. You are different. You know you can become VERY good if you just trust and do what I will tell you right after.Don’t rely on professors to teach you. A language is a tool of communication. It has to come from you and you have to be proactive to apply what you learn and improve fast.Find the best book to learn the language you target. Just one book is enough. Don’t fall into the “Application” mania. An application or a dictionary is just a tool, a “helper”.Every day, take 30 min to read that book until you finish the book. Go slowly, do all the exercices.When you have some very basics and you know few phrases, find some friend speaking the language and go practice what you learn. Don’t be afraid to fail or to speak incorrectly, no one will laugh about you. Everyone speaks incorrectly before speaking correctly. Just think about babies: If a baby was waiting to have the perfect grammar to start speaking, he would never say a word. Instead, use the “ Fail Fast Forward” approach. Fail quickly, then listen to the correction. Ask others to correct you. Then improve.When you understand few phrases and you feel you are okay to present yourself, start to watch dramas and series in the language you target. My advice is to watch dramas with subtitles in the language of the country language, NOT yours. The purpose is to listen. when you don’t understand, pause and search in the dictionary. make lists of words. If you don’t understand 100%, that’s okay. Try to understand the gestures and you will see that after some time, you will start to understand more and more.Repeat all those steps: Find more books, dramas, friends.Go to the country and study there. Speak with locals, be curious about the culture.With this method, you will be fluent in less than 1 year.Good luck.

Should I learn Chinese?

Yes!I started learning Mandarin when I was 18, here in Taiwan, and within three months was confident in using the language to converse on most things I wanted to; full of mistakes for sure, but I could handle the language. After three years of high school Russian, memorizing page after page of conjugations and all that, the simple grammar of Chinese entranced me. Of course you have to learn that Chinese expresses things in totally different ways, and you have to get used to that. I once met a Catholic priest who gave Chinese lessons to Gregory Peck (I think) who had to say a few lines in Chinese in a movie. Peck said, "It's hard to remember because there's nothing to hang your hat on." There's that. In Russian, for example, a newspaper is газета/gazyeta, close enough to gazette to remember easily, and magazine is журнал/zhurnal, close enough to journal. But in Chinese those are 報紙 baozhi and 雜誌 zazhi, so where do you start? So learning vocabulary may be more difficult than with an Indo-European language.But the writing! Writing Chinese is so much fun! English has 26 letters, how much variety does that give you? I much prefer to write Chinese, and in my experience, once you get them into your hand, you may write the wrong character entirely, such as writing 另 instead of 令 (both pronounced ling), but you won't write them wrong, unlike English, where I, at least, often misspell words. and then there's the reading. IMHO, learning Chinese without learning Classical is missing most of the good stuff. Once you can read Classical, there are thousands of years of literature to read. For example, I am working through 資治通鑑 a history of China written in the 11th century, from the 3rd century BC up to the 10th century. I'm in the 5th century now, and it's fascinating. (If you have trouble reading Classical, just slow down, it wasn't written to be read fast.) Chinese poetry is beautiful beyond description.It goes without saying that Chinese people are very nice; of course there are jerks everywhere, but overall, I really enjoy being with Chinese people. One more thing: Mandarin has to be the world's best language for puns, because it has a very limited number of sounds, and usually a lot of ways to write the same sound. For example, 成城程誠盛承乘 and others are all pronounced exactly the same.  so I would say, Yes, learn Chinese!

How do I improve my reading comprehension in English?

A2AI can tell you what worked for me (unintentionally. ). I got hooked on SF series (Zelazny's Amber). I picked up the first book in the summer, the second one got translated into Hebrew three months later, the third - four months later. Then - nothing. I asked at the bookstores - nobody knew when the fourth book was due. In the second-hand bookstore (where I bought books in Hebrew and in Russian) I saw a cover with a familiar word "Amber" and an unfamiliar title "Courts of Chaos" (I knew what "Chaos" is, I had no idea what "Courts" are) I brought it home and read it (without the help of dictionary, because it was in my parents' home). It was far from easy, but i wanted to know what is going on with the main character. Turned out that it was the 5th book, not the 4th - I was missing the whole chunk of the story and I ended up thinking that "Courts" are "Circles" (like Dante's circles of hell), but I have read it and loved it and on the shelves of that same second hand bookstore were a bunch of books about Elric from Melnibone, while in Hebrew existed only two. (I picked up the word "malice". Something with such a nice sound have to stand for something good, doesn't? LOL!) Herbert's Dune was my next project and this time I have started with the book that I have already read in Hebrew. It went much easier (but I knew that it would - I started reading Asimov in Hebrew by first reading the same book in Russian. Let me tell you - "I, the Robot" either skips a story or translates it the way that I was unable to identify it) - it gave me the needed vocabulary to move to Children of Dune and to God-Emperor of Dune...So my suggestions - find something that you want to know more about and read! "Know more about" does not have to be the unknown installation in the favorite series - it can be a re-read of something that you liked  - in original or in translation. I have read Strugatsky brothers in English translation after reading the Russian original and White Central General books in the original English, after reading the Russian translations... You add to your vocabulary and to possibilities of the future enjoyment. :-)Read, read and then read some more! Best of luck!