Should you help your friends?
People will value you based on how much you value yourself.Being nice to people is good. Helping and co operating with others forms the core of our social structure. We as species have evolved and progressed so much because of our ability to work in groups. However, survival in the tough social environment made by humans is an individual affair. Living in cities, we don't have to fear about getting eaten by a tiger, but the competition among members of society for resources has to be handled by individuals only. You will have to compete. for food. for money. for companionship.When you are sacrificing your good for others, you are sending out a signal that you are less important than others in the society. You dont consider yourself to be important enough even for yourself. When you are sending the signals that you are not capable enough or important enough, the society will start to see you that particular way and thus will be less willing to spend its resources on you. Its a negative feed back loop thus. You give up your claim of scant resources first, and if you again claim up after sometimes, you will be pushed back out of the line. People will call you selfish. double standard.The solution you ask? Place yourself first. You are the priority.This sounds like being selfish. But it is really not. You are only claiming on what should be rightfully yours. Believe in yourself. Believe that you are also special and deserving. This is the self confidence the whole world talks about. Selffishness is getting everything for yourself. The right thing is equal distribution of resources. You do it for other. Give yourself the same importance here. Also, do not expect anything good to come out of doing good for others. When you do good, do it for yourself. Because it makes you feel good. Doing good for fame or recognition generates expectations which only leads to hurt. One good way to get good returns on good deeds is by doing good things to many people. Invest in a large number of people rather than a small group of close friends. Expand your circle. There are many good people out there who are happy to help. But you have to find them and than invest in them. The only way to this is by going out and meeting new people, and taking risk of helping them. There are only two things that can happen. Either they will reject you and betray you. Or you will get life long friends. No gains without pain you see.phhhh long answer! Hope this helps!
I need help finding out if I’m the toxic friend in a relationship.?
About a day ago, my friend got super pissed at me for leaving a dog leash on his stairs. Like SUPER heated. He does this a lot, and it’s happened a couple times. (For diffrent reasons of corse) his Mom usually is the one to let him know about This type of stuff, but she’s out of town for like 2 weeks. It’s gotten to the point where it makes me feel so damn bad about my self, to the point where I feel as if I’m the worst person in the world. He said stuff like “I’m so glad your my friend, your definitely not one of the most un-self efficient people I know” and “literally kill your self”. The first quote was sarcasm if you couldn’t tell. But No one else makes me feel this way. I don’t know what to do. The night I left my dog leash on the stairs is also the night I vaccumed and clean his basement out of boredom. (The kid is filfthy sometimes) But anyways the question I’m asking is, am I the one who needs to get my **** together, or is he?!! I don’t know... Should I stop interacting with him and Focus on pursuing my dream of fitness and health? P.s: This isn’t the first time I’ve left something over there.
I need help once again from my friends out there.. Please!!!!?
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I need help kicking out my husbands best friend/roommate/mooch.?
So, last February one of our friends was having some marital difficulties and decided to go ahead and divorce his wife which didn't happen. When he first moved in, it was only suppose to be until he could find a job and move in with one of his other friends...it's now been five months. We live in a little one bedroom with our daughter, my husband, myself, and this mooch who has only paid the electricity bill once (what he and my husband agreed upon as rent, and he keeps losing his jobs after only a couple weeks) and has been bringing in girlfriends all the time. Every time I try to tell my husband we need him out, it turns into a fight and he gets mad at me saying, "He's trying to get on his feet still, give him more time." I find our situation is getting very delicate and I can't seem to figure out a way to bring it to my husband's attention without it blowing up in my face, I'm to the point where I don't know what to do, if I tell him to go, my husband will call him back.
I m not allowed to hang out with my friends???? )): Need help?
Ok so my dad wont let me hang out with my friends anywhere like wtf!! I have socail media and i see my friends hanging out at the mall things like that and i cant even go cause you know my dad wants me to get protected things like that but is there anyways to hang out cause i am sick and tired of sitting down going on my phone and watch videos its been like 3 years that i have been staying at my house repeat like whyyyyy I wanna have fun....)): and so far im almost a freshman and i just keep doing nothing and i dont wanna wait until im 18 to hang out with my friends its too long and anyways im starting loose friends!! they really do want me to hang out but please i dont wanna stay home watching tv computer.... !!! any ideas so like my dad can say yes or something please)):: -sorry for my grammar if-