How do you help a friend with grief?
You can help a friend with grief by just being there for them. What does this mean? It means being available to them, to be with them.The problem is, because of society’s attitudes around death, sometimes our friends don’t know how to cope, and feel uncomfortable with grief and emotion. So they stay away.Or, worse still, others say things which aren’t helpful - ‘they are in a better place now’ or ‘I guess God needed another angel’.The other main problem is that we have the temptation to try to make things better. We want to solve or fix the problem to show that we are useful to them. But we CAN’T solve the grief problem, because what the griever wants is for the deceased to not be dead.What can we do? In the early days of grief, many bereaved are in shock and can’t think clearly. During these times, doing practical things can be helpful, it could be putting out the rubbish/trash, bringing a meal to keep the person healthy, or offering to compile a list of people who have sent sympathy cards who could be thanked.Just being there is the most important thing. There is no need for words.
How do I help my grieving child?
Thank you for the question, "how do I help my grieving child?" I have only two suggestions, lovingly and honestly.You clearly love your child, because you want to help your child in this experience. Show them. A grieving child needs much the same thing a grieving adult needs. A grieving child needs to have their feelings of loss heard. A grieving child needs to have someone sit with them, to cry with them and to share stories of their beloved with them.Honestly. Your child may have questions about the loss. Why did my beloved die? Did it hurt? Will I die? Will I ever get to see them again? If there are known answers to the child's questions and it is age appropriate to do so, answer the question. Sometimes the honest answer is, "I do not know." That answer honors the question. It shows you to be unwilling to make something up just to comfort the child. It shows that you respect their loss.My niece and nephew were 11 and 14 when my parents died. I sat with them. I asked them if they had any questions about what had happened to Grammie and Grampa. At first, they were reluctant to ask. They were afraid to hurt me by asking hard questions. I knew they had those questions and kept offering to talk if they ever needed me. It was near Christmas a year and a half after the accident. I was having lunch with the kids. I mentioned that Christmas is still pretty tough for me without Grammie and Grampa. They agreed. I said, "do you have questions still about the accident?" This was the day they finally felt free to ask their questions. It was a difficult conversation, because they had been struggling with the same questions I had. It was also very good to see the relief on their faces, knowing that they really could come to me when they needed me.I come back to the original answer. Love and honesty are the best helps for a grieving child. I sure hope this will be helpful to you and to them.
Will smoking weed help after grieving a loss?
My sister is experiencing one of her close friends passing away, by committing suicide. She's experienced depression before but never smoked pot. I think that after the funeral, after the services, when everything goes back to normal (except its.not..) if she's feeling depressed i would like to know if marijuana would help her or make her worse.
How can I help my grieving boyfriend? :(?
I have been with my boyfriend for about 1 1/2. He lost his mom (which was also his best friend and had a extremely close relationship with her) in Nov due to her having a seizure while he was at the store. When he came back he found her dead and tried to revive her but she was already gone. He has been having a really hard time with everything lately, that it got to a point where he told me he needed space for a little while while he deals with things. I have talked to him about 2 times in the past 2 weeks and I am very worried about him and miss him very much! What can I do to help???
Should drugs be prescribed for grief?
When my younger brother killed himself in his early 40’s without prior warning or even hints of problems, I visited my family doctor. I asked for two things: Drugs to help me sleep and a referral to a good therapist to help me find a solid base again.Grief , especially complicated or untimely death, can be a long and exhausting process. If grief pushes someone to become profoundly depressed and lacking forward progress, drugs may be part of the best solution.When grieving we tend to huddle with the wounded and lose touch with those around us living a normal life. We can get stuck. Good and well meaning friends can and often do burn out trying to help, and they are not professionals.If your grief feels like it’s moving and you’re returning to normal life functions a little more each day you’re probably fine. If you’re not sleeping, or you’re tense and angry, perhaps drugs and/or therapy would help.Five years after my brother’s suicide, we lost our then 20 year old son to a firefighter training accident. With the tools and knowledge I had acquired in therapy after my brother’s suicide, I felt no immediate need for therapy or drugs. Now 13 years later, and functioning well, I’m seeing my old therapist to help me finish the journey to acceptance.There is no timeline or standard path through grief, each case is different. Healing isn’t always the obvious choice, but to heal you must choose to work at healing.
Does depression numb you from feeling grief?
I have had depression for almost 6 months now, my grandmother died a few days ago and I feel nothing…..everyone else is really upset but nothing in me has changed, I’m still just always thinking about what I’m going to do as I ‘m so unhappy with my life, its so selfish and makes me feel so heartless as I never used to be like this,,,and I should be really upset about my grandma rather than worrying about my own life, is anyone else like this? Or does anyone have an explanation, I hate myself for it.
How should I help dad to overcome grief of my mom's death?
I've just lost my wife, so maybe I can say something that will help.My kids are around a lot and phone me every day...more than just once. It's for a chat usually, to keep me up to date with things or just to say hi. It's very comforting and helps to fill the void my wife left. I go to the cinema with them and watch films my wife wouldn't have liked, but we do. We cook meals together a lot and I make an effort to go to their houses too. I have more time now so I can go over spontaneously to do some minor handyman task for instance, when before it would have to fit in with my wife's schedule. They make me feel useful and included.When your wife dies you wonder what you are for any more. Your role changes in the family. Maybe the kids haven't noticed this yet, or maybe they have. I'm very aware of how unimportant I feel now, but they treat me as if I'm special and I like that a lot.My kids are dealing with the loss of their mother. I have to acknowledge that this is a hard time for them too. But they need my help with their pressures, so I have paid off a credit card bill that was bugging one of them, planned an expensive trip that will please my son, etc. They are letting me do this, which in turn helps me.We are looking forward to doing things together. We are making plans.They are helping me with my wife's clothes and personal things that are just beyond me right now. I want them tidied up and dealt with so I can get on with my life, but I also want them desperately to stay where they are in case she comes back. I know she won't, but part of me is still in denial. Being kind and just putting things neatly in a box which will go into storage is a good half-way point.We don't talk about the time my wife was ill. We talk about her when she was fit and dynamic and fun and healthy. We are quite jolly together and crack jokes. We don't get miserable. We have a humour that's evolved over the years. That helps.My children are very thoughtful and kind. That's working for me. I still feel ghastly and am tearful a lot of the time, but they are helping me just as they helped with her. I guess we did a good job on them.
Helping a ferret grieve the death of their cage mate?
Just today my ferret Royal passed away from being stepped on. I have another ferret named Margot. I've had both of them for about a year now, and they've been best friends since day one. We decided to take him home from the vet for a home burial, before we buried him we let Margot smell him and see that her brother was dead and not coming back. At first she tried to wake him up, and play but realizing what happened wouldn't come near the body so we put him in his box and buried him. Since then we have been letting her walk around the room and it seems as though she is searching for him. It's unbelievably heart breaking and I understand it is part of the grieving process. I'm just wondering if theres something I should know about the ferret grieving process and things I should watch for, I want to help her through this the best I can and being a first time ferret owner I need all the advice I can get.