My friend is being abused by her boyfriend, I need advice.?
She is so desperate and dependent on him. That's not love. These are the kind of women that wake up dead. This is so upsetting. She is probably afraid of him and incapable of saving herself. He doesn't care about her or the baby. I'm glad she told you. Since there is a child in the home you have to tell someone. You could report it to your child abuse hotline or ask the police what to do. You can't save your friend but you can see that the child is protected. She must go to the police and get a PFA. (protection from abuse order) so that he can't come around her again. She can also report the abuse she has already experienced. It has to be on record in case he ever tries to get visitation or custody of the little girl. She must leave immediately and not tell her boyfriend that she's moving because when the woman leaves that's often when they get really hurt or killed. She has to have a plan of where to go that he won't know where she is for awhile and then she needs to file with Domestic Relations for full custody of her daughter. Look in the yellow pages. Hopefully there is a shelter in your town for abused women and children. She needs to be safe and have distance from him to get over the violence and heal. Good luck. I'll be praying for all of you.
I've slept with my boyfriends father, I seriously need advice?
Ok I'm in a little bit of a mess and it's all my own fault, I feel so sick at what I've done & don't know where to turn to. I'm 24 & have been with my boyfriend for the past 3 and a half years. We've been living together for the last year. Our relationship's not been that great lately and recently I've begun to feel a little afraid around him it's like he's a ticking time bomb waiting to explode, I suppose we've always had a volatile relationship. He's a cop and regularly works nights, so last Saturday night his family were going out for a family gathering, my boyfriend popped in for an hour but then had to leave. Later that evening because I'd had a few too many drinks my boyfriends father dropped me home, I don't know what came over me but I invited him in and we had sex. If I'm totally honest I've always found him quite attractive and I've seen how he looks at me and had a feeling he felt the same. That was before when it was all a silly fantasy but not it's a reality and I just don't know what to do. If I tell my boyfriend I know he'll freak out and I fear for my own safety., I'll also ruin his relationship with his father and potentially his parents relationship. I don't have anybody I can confide in about this cause I'm so ashamed but I'd really appreciate any suggestions. I'm not sure I can bury my head in the sand because his father has called me several times since although I've not actually spoken to him but he's left messages which let me know he want's to hook up again. Any advice would be greatly appreciated, aside from calling me a slut or whore cause believe me I've done plenty of that myself.
What if neither you or your boyfriend want to breakup?
That is really for you two to decide. The tricky thing about relationships and couples, is that ultimately no one knows what is best for you two except you two. You're in the relationship and he is in the relationship. So society or your peers or parents may believe that you two should break up because there's a natural transition coming up. If you and your boyfriend disagree, that's completely valid. Natural transitions don't always mean natural break ups.Plenty of relationships are long distance and perfectly healthy. Plenty of marriages are long distance and perfectly healthy. The trick is making sure you and your partner are signing up for the same thing and are willing to talk through the impending changes.Coming up with a framework for how you want things to go: how often will you talk, visit each other, text, FaceTime, etc. That way the expectations can be managed from the beginning. Be open to re-negotiate if one of you needs more or less. And be open to calling it off if it turns out that you don't agree about what you want.Two people in a healthy relationship can make lots of things work. You've got to be able to communicate the whole way and be respectful of each other's needs. If it turns out that one of you wants to break up because of this transition, respect that too. But if you're both game to keep dating or try long distance, nothing and no one should stop you
My boyfriend wanted to break up because of my $200,000 potential debt from law school. Is the relationship even worth it?
Wanted, or wants to?Did he know you had this debt at the time he became your boyfriend? What changed?But mostly, he's free to have his values, and you're free to have yours, and that's why we date: to find a compatible partner. For 200,000 reasons, he could be terrified of unsecured debt. For 200,000 reasons, you can be reasonably certain the money will buy a future you want. No harm no foul, really. I would not suggest talking him into staying, if he's making serious moves to leave. How is he going to be with a mortgage, with a car payment, with sick children and medical expenses?
How do I tell my boyfriend I wanna break up via text?
Okay I know breaking up through text is horrible but I have a long distance relationship and so having him drive here to get broken up with would be worse and through phone would mean I have to hear his disappointment. I've already broken it off once and got back with him a week later but knew I shouldn't have.... Honestly,he is the best boyfriend anyone could ask for and some girl is going to be so lucky because he is just so perfect..he's just not perfect for me. I like him but more as a friend and even though I like him a little more than that it couldn't work because he is SO smart but REALLY logical/presice about everything and it drives me insane and also he is ready to settle down and I'm not. I don't want to hurt him but I know there is someone better out there for him. How do I bring this up in a nice way?
Any Advice? Boyfriend choosing his friends over me?
My boyfriend are really close and I really love him, but here lately he has choosen to spend time with his friends over me a lot. Even when he says that it's only gonna be me and him he ditches me for his friends. I'm getting so fed up and it's like he's choosing his friends over me. I don't want to lose him but I don't know how long I can take it. I tried to talk to him about it but all he says is that he does spend enough time with me and that sometimes he just wants to be with his friends. And I completely understand him wanting to spend time with them but I mean seriously he see's them everyday and maybe sees me twice a week. Please tell me am I wrong for feeling like this and just give it time?? I'm just so confused on what to do..... Please HELP!!!!!
Should I breakup with my boyfriend?
Your boyfriend is a real dog. Seriously. He is with you just to get intimate with you. He doesn't love you , he only loves your body. He is one of those pervert kind. And you are saying you can't leave him because he might get hurt?? Are you serious!? Does he think about you before abusing you? Does he think that you also get hurt when he gets angry on you? Does he think that how much it will hurt you when he clicks selfies with other girls? No my dear, you are just an object for him, he DOES NOT love you. A person who loves you, takes care of you, he always keeps you happy, he never hurts you, he respects you, he can do anything to make you smile, he can walk a thousand miles for you if required, to reach you. But in your case, this is so clear that your happiness is of no concern to him. You are thinking of marrying him?? Are you kidding!? How will you spend your whole life with him? He's gonna eat you the very first day. He won't hasitate to hurt you and break your heart every now and then. Also, tell your parents at the earliest. What will you do if does something bad to you?! Your boyfriend is one of those who are potential rapist and can rape a girl if given a chance.(I know I'm going a bit too far but that's the truth). You must leave him as soon as possible. These type of boys are worthy of 100 slaps. you must leave him. You are not worthy of all this pain and heartbreak. It won't affect him if you leave him, he'll find another girl to play. Don't trust him. It's so surprising to me, how did you spend 4.5 years in a relationship with such a boy withour realising that he doesn't love.
After four years in a relationship I'm losing interest in my boyfriend. I think I don't love him now. What should I do?
I am amazed at the response to this question..I mean seriously I can’t believe so many are trying to ascertain the fact that you should break up with him. First of all, let me clear something for you.A relationship is not a fancy thing used as a means to pass time. Seriously what do you expect from it? If you think that the spark is lost rethink on the statement itself. It is called a spark because it is never meant to last forever. Coming to the losing interest part, you have known him for 4 years man..you must know him inside out by now. Okay lets say, you found someone “interesting” again. What then? Can you guarantee that you will never lose interest in him? What is your other alternative then? Find another?Think rationally..relationship is a responsibility, a commitment given by each of you to each other,assuring that one will stand by the other through joy and sorrow. Relationship is a mixture of emotions and feelings, and he has invested all his feelings, channeling every bit of care and affection to keep you happy. And here you are blatantly telling that you lost interest in him, just like a child loses interest in his/her old toy.Go ahead and tell it to him. He would probably be shattered, he will probably plead you, try to rationalize all your feelings, defend what you have shared for four years with each other: and then all of a sudden you would probably find him more annoying and get more cruel in your ways to convey your message. In the end he will back off with a smile on his face respecting your decision with the only consolation that you will probably be happy without him in your life. But every night before he goes to bed, he will have a smile on his face as a result of all the cherished memories and also a tear drop rolling down his cheek at the same time.If he is really loyal to you and if he really cared for you, don’t let him go. You don’t know painful it is to break up without a valid reason. You will probably pray to god that even your worst enemies should never go through something like that, if you get a taste of what you are about to bring upon him.
So I'm breaking up with her today and need advice on how...?
So here I am, post-divorce, and in a relationship that has come to its end. I don't really have a reason to break the cord that, post-divorce, doesn't seem fairly trivial. Still, I've really just lost interest and have already begun "acting single". On my end there's seriously nothing left. We had fun, she had potential, but in the end, I'm bored and uninterested. Now I know I can't/shouldn't say that, but I'm just being honest for YA. So, I need some advice on how to handle this. I suspect she suspects something is amiss and I plan on doing it face to so that the exchange of possessions can be done right then and there. She's begun the whole "I love you" after every conversation and I remain as distant as possible. She's a great girl and I feel awful that I'm going to hurt her but she's just not for me. My ambivalence comes from me being the same position about two years ago except I was on the receiving end. I remember how hurt I was and how undeserving I felt to have had that happen to me (first post-divorce relationship). I feel incredibly bad doing that to someone else but I'm not doing her any favors by continuing this. So please, help do this in a way that won't be horribly devastating. Oh yes, we've been dating for almost six months.