***Huge fight w/ Husband - I I Need Many Opinions urgently PLease!!?
were a family of 3 i have 1year daughter and we have a 4bedroom house. So his brother and wife a long with there 5 kids 2 toddlers and 3 teens are gonna be looking for a place to live. My husband proposed to be that he was considering asking them to move in our house since we are financially unstable right now. 1 room is our office 2nd room daughtes playrrom 3dr room is her room which is decorated just for her. His family is very loud always screaming and very messy. He said we would have to let them use all those rooms including our daughters room. i said no. Im a SAHM so i would have to deal with them not him since he wiill be the one at work. Id have to share everything toys, pots pans dishes living room. and there his family and he finds nothing wrong with that. i barely use my pans cuz there new. He go so mad at me cuz he said this is our chance to get income and i said no i'm not gonna put up with this. We didint get married and buy a house to have to share it with 7 people. what would you do? They are very chaoctic , screaming cursing (the mom is the one mainly and her toddlers)they would be living here 6months - 1 year He says its a sacrifice we have to make . But i dont want to i said fine . He is very stressed living check to ckeck paying bills and having enough money for gas. he is really upset at me and giving me the silent treatment. he says i need to think like a grownup and stop being selfish dont get me wrong if they really needed a place to stay then i would help them out ,but they can afford one . Its just my husband who though of asking them to have extra money they are not homeless there father makes good money ,but my husband wants them to i take care of my daughter all day and night , how can i work ? thats y i left my job to begin with . we had no one to watch her/
I need help urgently. Do I have a mental illness?
I'm 15 and going into high school. When I was younger I was beautiful compared to how I look now. In 6th grade I got highlights in my hair. Later that year I cut them all out becausr I thought they were ugly. When I was in 7th grade I went through an goth phase I cut all my hair and dyed it black. I kept dying it black and all my friends asked me what I did to my hair. I don't know why I did it. I remember in 5th grade this boy in my class told me to get a nose job and I've always hated my nose since then. In 8th grade I looked like a boy. I had bright red hair once, blue hair and all lots of colors I regret looking at. I shaved my eyebrows and redrew them because I thought they were ugly the way they were. I still have them shaved. I started wearing makeup every where any time. Even when I am at my own home because I look so ugly I cant look in the mittor. I cant not wear foundation otherwise my acne scars show. I wear extensions in my hair to make it longer. I even sleep with makeup on. I wear blush everyday because I'm so pale and look like a ghost. Whenevet I am all made up with everything I feel happy like I'm a different person. I don't feel the same way I did in elementary school. I used to be so sweet and nice and I feel like an empty shell now. I don't even know who I am. I feel like I'm pretending to be someone I'm not. I look hideous. Last year in school i self harmed and attempted sucide because of how worthless and ugly I am. Do I have a mental illness?
My daughter was sent home from school for being sick. Should I send her to school tomorrow? She has a 100-degree fever and complains of nausea, but she’s already missed eight out of eleven days altogether.
Ok, I genuinely feel for you if your job requires you to be there, you don’t have leave, and you live pretty much paycheck to paycheck - you can’t afford to take leave, and a sick child is not something many of these employers understand. A LOT of people are in this situation, and it requires massive governmental and societal change to fix. Mostly, we need to start valuing children and caretakers instead of viewing them as “inconveniences” or people not worthy of support.Beyond that, though, the tone of your question is troubling. It seems as though you think she is faking her illness (if this is the case, you have a relationship that needs a lot of work, and you need to investigate what’s happening at school), or not getting better on purpose (this is just really, really unlikely). “She had the whole day to rest” is just not relevant, or something worth saying. There are a lot of serious illnesses that have a low grade fever and nausea as symptoms. You need to get her to a 24 hr urgent care clinic if you can’t take her to the doctor. After 3 days, if a fever hasn’t reduced (or 5 days for a very low grade fever), people MUST see a doctor. Regardless of age.You are required to take care of her health and safety. Not just as a moral obligation (though it is that), but also legally. You are required to make sure she gets and stays healthy, to treat injuries, etc to the best of your ability and within your religious convictions.Do you have any relatives or a spouse that can help? Friendly neighbors? She needs to get to the doctor. Lean on anyone you can - this is the time to call in favors. The last thing you want is for your daughter to be seriously and permanently harmed for something you could have prevented with earlier attention.Wishing both you and your daughter good health.Kind regards,AlexandraSent from my iPhone - please pardon errors.
What would you do if your teenage daughter wanted to have a baby AND was actively TRYING to get a baby?
Hormones are in effect and nature is taking its course.I'm assume you did all you can do to stop her. I assume your daughter is telling you she is gonna have a baby . So now what ever you did thus far is not working so now you come to Quora. Yes? I Can help.You didn't say how old your teen-age daughter was. If she is 18–19(adult) there is little you can do about it . So support her in having the baby. Look forward to seeing your grandchild.If she is 13–14 or 15.. I'd say show her plenty of love and support and say “let's wait on the baby because I'm too young to be a grand mother “. She is a minor and under your care. Let her know if she has sex and the man is 18 and you are 17 (Adult on Minor) He will definitely go to jail because legally this is rape. Fact!It's difficult if not impossible to stop Mother Nature. If your child is really intent on having a baby it's gonna happen with with or with out you. Be present and show love and support. The more you tighten your grip of rejection the more your daughter will slip away.Do you remember when you first started having sex? Did you do everything your parents told you to do ?Sit her down and let her know she will need a good job to provide for the baby. Make sure she agrees to get a good job paying x dollars before she has sex. Make sure she agrees. Put it in writing and have her sign it. This will help her keep busy and reduce idle time if she is working. Let her know that while she is under your roof she is also under your rules. The proper place to have a baby is in her own house not your house.Through all this make sure you are loving and caring and not angry. There is a big difference. If she feels rejected by you it's possible she will not let you see your grand daughter (first will be a girl second will be a boy).Don't make her disown you. It's happened plenty. Fact! So plan for the future; look ahead to what's coming in the next 5 years. Good luck brave grandmother to be.
Need help urgently!!!!!!! bringing love to the country and her getting a job right away?
well you wont qualify for common-law because you have not lived together LEGALLY for 12 months. Best if you get married. And she may want to apply for a work permit. Unfortunately she MUST HAVE skills, qualifications, a degree and work experience in a job that is in demand. IF she has no skills and no degree then she will NOT get a work permit. Retail assistants are NOT in demand and the shop owners is expected to give the job to a local legal person, NOT to a foreigner. If you get married, you can apply for her PR status, BUT she will not be able to work for a few months while the application is processed. Besides she's having a baby - not a good idea to work while preggers. Employers here in Canada have been known to deny jobs to obviously pregnant women. So when she passes the first stage of PR processing she will eventually be allowed a work permit. So then she can work for whoever she chooses. BUT with no degree, she will find it hard to get any decent job. Beleive me, I know this from PERSONAL experience. As for the baby - whos going to look after the baby while you both work? Daycare is expensive. While your PR application is in process, she MUST stay legal at all times - which means pay for and renewing the visitor status (or the open work permit) every 6 or 12 months. Here is how to appy for PR status http://www.cic.gc.ca/english/immigrate/s... She is applying as an INSIDE Canada applicant Remember one thing - this will NOT be a fast process. Inside applicants are currently taking between 12 and 18 months to be processed and finalised. Once you are married and are gathering together all the required DOCUMENTS, I suggest you contact the below yahoo group. They know everything about canadian immigration for spouses. http://groups.yahoo.com/group/canadian_i... Also she will LOSE her GC status because she is no longer LIVING in USA - they are very fussy about things like that. Your income does not matter but you MUST have an income of some sort as long as you are NOT on welfare (in ontario its called ontario works). ANY kind of job is OK. If you are on a student loan, EI or disability then you can still be a sponsor.
How can I help my daughter with MS?
Research natural, holistic aids to the condition. There are certain vitamins and supplements that are purported to help. She can be proactive that way, instead of feeling a victim. See if there is a MS support group near where she lives so you can give her that information. Don't act like it's the end of the world with her. Learn what you can about which form she has (relapsing or constant). Let her talk as much as she wants, but be the practical ear. Meaning sympathize with her, but don't let her fall into a pit of self-pity, because that won't help. I have 2 sisters with MS. It's a chronic disease, but certainly not a fatal one. My one sister has had it for over 20 years now. It started in her leg, then moved up to her arm, and now it's wide spread. She has the kind that does not go into remission. She owns her own business, and although last year she had to move it into her home instead of working outside the home, she still gets around, and even holds the family Thanksgiving Day dinner as she always has with the help of her daughter. She is still walking, if slower and with a cane, and you have to be careful in hugging her. She refuses to discuss it with any of the family and instead wishes to pretend nothing is wrong. We go along with it, although it's hard on my other sister with the condition who would like to discuss it with her as someone who knows what's happening. My other sister has the intermittent kind and it affects her vision. She's had it for about five to seven years now. She is very proactive in her care. She has learned that hot weather makes an episode more likely for her, so in the summer she stays in air conditioning, and no matter what the weather or season she is constantly drinking ice water and chewing ice chips to keep her core temperature down. She takes certain vitamins and supplements that seem to help hold off another episode. When she has an episode she still goes in to work, still does her job, just with more difficulty until the episode passes. Sometimes when someone starts having MS they have one or two or three episodes, and then it never comes back. So it's not the end of the world as she knows it. Maintain a positive attitude around her, and try to get her to do the same. Bless.
Should I let my daughter's boyfriend move in?
No job? that is a huge red flag. Even in our hard times there still are jobs... he can flip burgers or bag groceries or get out on the street and collect cans for petes sake.He has 1 already and 1 on the way he should be doing anything and everything to support them. And he is not working so what is his excuse for not being around for the first 1. Sounds like his buddies are getting tired of his jobless lazy butt and are giving him the boot so he needs a place to crash and he is using the babies as an excuse. IF you do move him in make sure it is with the agreement he gets a job and pays you rent...even if it is only a few bucks. And I would give them a time line... that they can stay but need to be out in 6 months or so.. they have kids... they are grown ups and need to act that way.
Our family dog just bit my daughter. What should I do?
It doesn’t appear the dog was trying to maim or kill her, it was probably a warning bite after the first attempt at a gentle mouthing failed, so it’s possible your daughter did something to agitate the dog and dog responded, quite well I must say. If the dog was not so nice it could have torn through her skin with both fangs and other teeth as well and ripped flesh away as well as tendons and veins and maybe even an artery. Or the dog is young and wanted to play more and didn’t want her to leave so it gently bit her arm in an attempt to get her back into the “game” of whatever they were doing. But most of the time the dog simply was done playing and wanted to be left alone and she wouldn’t leave the dog alone.I would not do anything to the parents of the dog, if you went to an urgent care to have the wound looked at than the parents of the dog should more than happily pay for it, if not then you would have to chose a friendship over getting the bill paid by their insurance which may mean getting an attorney. But if you haven’t done any medical attention to it I would just forget it and teach your daughter how to behave around dogs and what to look for when the dog doesn’t want play anymore. Dogs are like people in some respects, if your daughter was bugging you over and over to play with her and you were busy with work related stuff at home eventually her constant bugging could result in a spanking if other warnings were not heeded. I have a feeling this what happened with the dog, the dog gave her a spanking sort of speak in the only way a dog can. I bet the dog “spanking” worked too, she left the dog alone.Now you have a job to do, and that is to teach your daughter not to be afraid of that dog, or dogs in general, but to respect their privacy, and play with the dog when they want to but stop when they're done playing. This job that you should do needs to be done with the parents of the dog, this will help re-acquaint the dog to the child, and then maybe put a limit on how long she can play with the dog, like 5 minutes for example.
My daughter wants a nose piercing?
So, you think your mother is promiscuous. Sorry, had to say it. Anyway, your daughter is 14 and has no clue what is out there in the future. And yes, nose piercing is cute on some people but good luck in the job market if she wants to make her own money. And I have a friend who will not hire a babysitter who has her nose, lip, tongue or navel pierced. You seem to know your daughter well so you seriously need to talk this out with her. She did research so you need to do some. There are serious infections which can occur and do permanent damage to the nasal passage. Keloids, which is almost like a cyst, can form and make breathing difficult and are difficult to remove. The removal process can cause more to grow, covering more of the facial tissue. Can she handle that? Big lumps all over her face. They really are excessive scar tissue formed by the body to really protect itself from trauma. I know piercings are accepted in India as status but in the USA, employers do not accept them and India's heritage is not protected here. Persons with tattoos and piercings are finding it harder and harder to find suitable employment. They may be trained in the highest degree but cannot get a good paying job because society does not accept their arts. I recently managed a restaurant, I had to deny employment to several persons due to tattoos and facial piercings they refused to remove. If it cannot be covered, it is not acceptable. If I owned a restaurant today, I wouldn't hire them either. My son did his goth thing to be different. He was and still always strives to be the person you see and say "what the ****?" I don't agree with his ideas but he is also unemployed and has been for over a year. He was working construction. His not caring attitude is what made him lose his job and I can't help him now. He is not where I live and if he was, I wouldn't. He is 25 and has to do it on his own. So, in the long run, put your foot down, Mom. Tell her absolutely "No" and tell her if she does it herself, she will remove it and you will inform her school she is not to have a nose ring and if her teachers see her with one you want to know immediately. Don't let her run the show.
HOw do I go about getting My Daughters Social Security Number?
helping and abetting illegals is a legal. And my stable aider, not all and sundry is illegitimate. i'm American Indian and not considered one of my ancestors have been unlawful, neither have been the settlers earlier regulations have been in place! don't have faith they gained't get deported. Marriage and/or infants won't stop any of them from getting deported. further and extra colleges are protecting music of who's illegitimate. we are nevertheless compelled to teach them yet we are counting them! there have been circumstances the place infants have been deported as ought to be. they're going to under no circumstances get a license or a criminal job, no remember how plenty training they get!! quicker or later your spouse would be caught and banned for ten years. those are the regulations of this u . s .. i desire you come to a decision to undertake them. Immigration will do their job