What should I do if my neighbor drops her kids off at my house because she's busy?
This neighbor moved in a few months ago, she's a single mom with 3 kids, a 4 year old son, a 7 year old daughter and an 11 year old son. She always has to go out and do things and she comes to my house on short notice, telling me that she has things to do and she drops her kids off for me to handle. I have to cook for them and entertain them which is annoying but I just say yes to be polite because I want her to like me. What should I do about this? should I tell her the truth?
Trouble with neighbor lady who's kids play with my kids....?
I wouldn't allow her anywhere near my kids. And I'd just tell her, that you aren't comfortable with the freedom the kids experience there, that is reflected in their behavior when they're at your house. You have a right to steer your children away from irresponsible people and their offspring. And I think you may have a difficult time keeping the kids apart if they actually do get along...so in that case, if they do play together, I'd watch them like a hawk and let the kids know right up front that these are the house rules and the will only be welcome if they adhere to them and then boot them out the second they step out of line. If you can manage to "break up"...and if they're making each other cry constantly it may be an easy fix...just do not let them come over to play and don't let your kids go there. She sounds like trouble and her kids will surely follow suit. I myself am very hermit-like in my neighborhood exactly to avoid this type of situation. The last thing I want to be is uncomfortable in my own home...so I'm not real social when it comes to the neighbor folks. We're friendly...and cordial...but not social. What did you say to her when she came up on you like that? *************** Oh man...well you know what...it was great that you told her. She needs to know it's not ok. Maybe it will make her think. Especially since now she nows it's not just you. It's easy to ignore criticism if you think it's only coming from one source, but now she knows that the neighborhood feels the same way...maybe she'll get her head out of her butt. In any case...try not to worry about her and her kids ...you're doing what you need to protect your kids and that's what's most important. I mean maybe later on after everyone cools off you can try to hammer things out so things aren't so tense....but honestly..it's the kids that matter most...so if an attempt for diplomacy doesn't work out...whatever...at least you've said your peice and you won't see your kids falling out of any of her windows! Good Luck! :)
Neighborhood Kids don't want to play with my daughter?
My daughter is an only child. She was in daycare when up until last fall when she started kindergarten. She did well in daycare and had friends. Lately, some neighborhood kids have been coming out. They do not want to play with my daughter. My husband even said he heard the neighbor to tell his kid to come inside as soon as my kid went outside. When my child came back in, they let their kid back out. She did say something mean to one little girl last summer. Of course, we made our daughter apologize to the little girl, but the damage was done. It seemed after that, no one will play with my daughter. My child is quiet and kind of baby-ish. I'm really not sure why people are being this way to her. She wants friends, but no one near my house wants to play with her. I feel sad for her. She doesn't like to venture too far from us, although we encourage it. But since seeing our neighbor yank their kid indoors at the sight of ours, we decided not to let her attempt to play with them anymore. It seems the entire neighborhood has turned on her. She isn't a bad kid. I take her places every weekend. I don't know what to do. Besides taking her to parks to play with other children, what do I do? As a child, I had this problem at school, not at home. I am lost. She is smart and gets good grades. She is 6. I don't want her to be alone! !
What to do with annoying neighbor kid?
I have a 7 year old neighber who always wants to play with me. Everytime I go outside she's always there asking if I can play. I'm 18 years old and have better things to do than play with a brat (I have a job, school, friends and a lot to deal with at home). But when I say no, she follows me around until I go back inside or into my car. Recently it's gotten worse, now the kid has the nerve to knock on my door EVERY SINGLE DAY to ask if I can play with her. At first I would open the door and tell her I had work to do then she would go "OK" and leave but 10 minutes later come back and ask if I had finished my work and could I play so now I don't even open the door and she just knocks louder and yells "Open the door!" which is a pain in the *** because it's usually when I'm taking a nap in the afternoons (I don't get much sleep at night). She does this because her parents push her on me because they're to lazy to play with her themselves so I can't talk to them. What should I do?
Neighbors kids never come outside..should we call DCF?
The wife and I have neighbors who live next door. They have 3 kids....4 months, 2 years and 3 years old. They moved in soon before the 3 year old was born. In all the time they have lived next door, we have never seen the kids play in their yard even once! In the past 2 years we have seen the kids once....they brought them around in a stroller on Halloween, not dressed up though like all the other children. We talked to them, we said our kids should get together and play, and we have not seen the kids outdoors since. The only time we see them is when the 2 older kids watch us in our yard from the window in their room. THAT is the only room we EVER see them in. Never the living room or any other window in the house. We will have a week of great weather, and every other child in the neighborhood is playing outside, and we never hear a peep from these kids. We try to rationalize why this would be, but it really seems bizarre to us, and we are worried for the children. We actually talked to a person from dcf about this briefly and asked whether we should make a formal complaint, and he admitted it sounded pretty strange but unless we actully saw them hurting one of them we did not have much of a case. Now I must tell you, the LAST thing we want to do is call dcf and start trouble with our neighbor. And even if we do, is there a law that says you have to let your children outside? Will dcf show up and say.....well the kids look ok to us...the parents just don't like going outside....and we look like jerks for calling? On the other hand if we don't do something, and years down the road it is found the kids were being treated badly, how will it look that years went by without us seeing the children outside and we never did anything about it. I could go on about other strange behavior we have seen, but this post is to long already. So should we pursue DCF or just tell ourselves this is how they choose to live, and because we have never seen them physically abuse them, just let it go.
The "dirty" kid in the neighborhood, how to help?
I was once the "dirty kid" in my neighborhood. I wasn't dirty, in a sense I smelled foul. I just didn't have the nicest clothes. My jeans had holes in them. I didn't have gloves. We lived in a very old house, heated with fuel oil and sometimes a kerosene heater. We had a basketball rim nailed above the garage that you had to manually open. It didn't have a net. Our basketball was a dodgeball, or a basketball that had a hole in it. It didn't have air. The next door neighbors were very rich. They had a huge 3 car garage with porches in it, a huge boat, and another 5 stall garage in the back.... they had a little girl named Jamie, who was a few years younger than us. The other neighbor wasn't rich, but wasn't poor either. There kindness I remember to this day. I was successful in graduating from highschool and college. Not bad for a poor kid. Once the mother of Jamie, gave my brother and I a pair of gloves. She said we really needed some and our hands would freeze. She would take her daughter, my brother and I on walks around the neighborhood. We would always walk down to this huge rock and sit on it. The other neighbor said, he noticed we had a basketball hoop, but no basketball. So he gave us one of his. Jamies mother died of cancer a few years later. We were 8 years old. They moved away. The other neighbor moved as well. We finally moved to when my mother and father decided to get back together. To the outside world we were poor and perhaps neglected. My mom never tickled me either. My mom was too busy cooking dinner, doing laundry, trying to survive on with 2 kids. I am glad nobody called child protective services on my mother. She did the best she could. These people who donated to us dirty kids surely did a whole lot more. Blessed is he who, in the name of charity and good will, shepherds the weak through the valley of the darkness. For he is truly his brother's keeper and the finder of lost children.